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Thank God I found out before I committed adultery

He has been secretly keeping a cell phone

I never thought I would be here

divorce him and take him to the cleaners

of course he has his reasons for seeking alternative outlets

he said "Her DOG died while she was away."

the doctor who told me I had HERPES

I'm too young to be by myself all the time.

I was raised that divorce for any reason was just wrong

I dont think it was the first time.

the best thing to do was to let her go and look for a real gay woman

never trust your boyfriend even if he is 20 years older than you

I hadn't heard from him in 2 days

of course he has his reasons for seeking alternative outlets

I met my husband on the Internet- yes, it was romantic, but I should have known. Old habits die hard. Because he 'works' with the computer, there is no way to know if he 'work's or if he's busy doing something else. Anyway there are several occasions where I find pics and cards and presents from strangers. Of course he has his reasons for seeking alternative outlets. I guess it's ok if you have boundaries, but lately, I have found notes and cards and letters from one particular young woman who seems to be in live with him, and even calling him her bf. I guess she doesnt know he's married, otherwise, I dont think any woman would invest her time this intensely, unless she's desperate to get a ticket out of a country( or whatever reasons they may have), Today, I cannot see the point of me being here for the sake of being together. Being together for the wrong reason is pretty pathetic. There you go, my 2 cents.

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divorce him and take him to the cleaners

I'm sorry to see so much cheating going on and so much unkindness. Do what I did to the cheating bum, divorce him and take him to the cleaners. You will be so much happier with the cheater out of your life. You don't need that crap. Let him go so he can cheat on the next woman. Dont let him bring you down to his level. and Never take him back. Once a cheater always a cheater. I'm so much happier and have more in my life now than I ever had with him. And best of all.....I am free to do as I please. And remember, what goes around comes around

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I never thought I would be here.

When I was married the first time, my former husband was cheating on me. He was in the service. We lived in Germany. When I found out, I was destroyed. We had only been married for 7 months. While this was going on, I met a man one day...a GI...in the parking lot of our apartment complex. He was separated from his wife. She was getting it on with a number of officers. We hit it off, and fell in love. Several months later, I returned to the States with my cheating husband, and this other man and I kept in contact. He sent letters to me, through my best friend. This was in 1979. We both moved on. My husband divorced me, in 1983, after he graduated from college. I remarried several years later. My husband was wonderful to me. However, I never did get this other man out of my head, or completely out of my heart. Over the years, I often wondered where he was, and how he was. In 2000, we bought a new computer, and for the first time, I was online. One of the first things I did, was to see if I could find out where this man was, and what had happened to him, and mostly to know that he was happy. I was happy with my husband, and child...I just needed to know, perhaps for closure, perhaps out of curiosity. I found him almost immediately. He had remarried- a German woman, and was still living in Germany. Since the first day we talked, which was 3 years ago, we have talked both online, and on the phone, and through Net Meeting, a minimum of twice a day. Most days, many more times. We talk for hours on end. The first night, after we had talked, I felt such overwhelming guilt. Not that I had done anything. Just because of... what would my husband think if he knew that I had located a former lover...someone he knew nothing about. But I couldn't help myself. I continued my relationship with him. Over the course of the past 3 years, we have both fallen out of love with our spouses, and have fallen deeply in love...deeper and more completely than either of us have ever loved anyone. He knows me better than anyone, as I do him. We have done things online, and he has been here to visit me, and it was incredible. Heaven on Earth. It was like we were both finally home...where we belong. I don't know if my husband knows about this or not. I'm positive he suspects something. I've changed so much. I am distant, distracted, short tempered, neglectful of things, uninterested in things that I used to love to do. I read the list on signs of a cheating spouse, and most of them apply. His wife found out about us last summer. We are planning on leaving our respective marriages, to start a life together. We have been trying to hold off leaving until both of our children are just about 18, which will be in another year.
 I am not proud of myself, by any means. I never thought any of this would happen. It certainly was NOT what I had planned, when I decided to look for this man. It's odd though. We've both been married twice, and cheated on both of our spouses with the same person...each other. I guess the bottom line is. This man and I are soul mates. We are the love of each other's life. We know that we are each other's destiny, that we belong together, and that is what we are going to do.

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He has been secretly keeping a cell phone

My live-in boyfriend and I have been together for 3.5 years. He has been secretly keeping a cell phone and making and receiving phone calls from a number of women while I am at work or out of town. I suspect that he is doing more, but I lack the proof since he conducts most of communications over email. I have no idea what between us is real anymore.

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Thank God I found out before I committed adultery

I am a widow of a Vietnam Vet and I met someone who was in his unit in Vietnam and fell in love with him. He told me his girlfriend had died of cancer and he was grieving and he had been married three times. He told me he was coming here to see me (he had been here one time before), but he did not respond and I called where he had lived and they gave me an address in Indiana. I checked and he had moved back with his third wife; he did not tell me, I tried to call and tell him I knew and he finally emailed and said he was staying with her temporarily. Thank God I found out before I committed adultery, there was no sex when I saw him before, because I don't believe in that. I pray for all these people that get involved with people on line and they lie and cheat.

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I hadn't heard from him in 2 days

My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years all of a sudden decided to move back to his hometown in January. I asked him if it was to get back with his ex-wife, he said no, and that it was for his sons. When he got into town, I found out quickly that he was living with her. In understanding that he had nowhere to go in the beginning, he kept flying me back and forth to see him once a month. After about 3 trips, he supposedly moved out of her house into another house with a roommate. That last time, I had just gotten into town, we were sitting down to eat dinner, his ex-wife shows up at the door banging on it and the windows yelling at him asking if "she knew about me", "you're never going to see your sons again", and something about his "infidelity". I asked what was going on and all he could say was that she's psycho and that "she wants something she can't have". Then I asked him why she would accuse him of infidelity when he wasn't sleeping with her? He says she's disillusioned. After I flew back here, I hadn't heard from him in 2 days, so I decide to call him at work and found out he had left work the day before and hadn't shown up. Worse yet, his ex-wife was the one to pick him up. I call his roommate and he tells me that my boyfriend hadn't been around for a couple of days and that he'd bet money that he's over his ex-wife's. So, I call his ex-wife's house just to see if she at least would tell me what's going on. To my surprise, she refused to say anything to me! She will not admit to it either! So, I'm left devastated and still not knowing what the story is.

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never trust your boyfriend even if he is 20 years older than you. never trust him when he says he is annoyed with the nasal toned woman who is obviously in an unhappy marriage. never believe him when he says he loves you, and then you go to visit your family and find out he walked all over town with her knowing you were away. thanks for wasting my time.

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the best thing to do was to let her go and look for a real gay woman

First of all, gotta say that I'm gay. I had an affair with a girl who broke my heart. She has a boyfriend, which she always mentioned, but I was very attracted to her. We started having sex, and the sexual tension between the both of us was amazing, but she always denied she liked women, she used to said I was different. I'm 100% lesbian and her bf didn't have any clue about us. One day, he came from his city to visit her, because he lives in "some city" and she lives in M****, and I realized I meant nothing to her, only sex. I felt so bad looking at both of them kissing and holding that I wanted to cry in front of them. I decided that the best thing to do was to let her go and look for a real gay woman because bi-sexual and straight women only look for the same; curiosity and experiment; and I'm not a rat of lab, I have feelings.... Nowadays, I feel very bad coz I realize I was in love with her and I'm losing her.... now I just have to say that cheating is awful and I won't share another relationship any more because I wasn't born for that. Anyways, J****, you know who you are, and you don't have idea what you did to me, now, it's alright, I'm trying to get you out of my head and heart, but I just have to tell you, think things twice and don't hurt women the same way you did to me

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he said she was just a study partner and they had to stay up all night to study. I went to bed. In the morning he was not next to me. Out in the living room i went.. she was on the couch and he was laying next to her on the couch. They had no blankets and seemed really odd after they got up. I told him I was watching what he did and he gave in and told me he had sex with her. What a Rat dog..and he did not use a condom. I dont think it was the first time..what a DOG and she is a ****.

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he said Her DOG died while she was away...

My boyfriend came back from a service trip out of town, and people began to tell me that he and his ex-girlfriend had gotten really "cozy". So I asked him about it, and he said "Her DOG died while she was away.", all smugly like that's supposed to make me feel just awful!! And so naturally, he had to sleep with her, I mean she had the dog since she was four! (gag)

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the doctor who told me I had HERPES...

My hubby got caught cheating after I had a visit to the doctor who told me I had HERPES! He said "IT's JUST THE DOG IN ME!" That was his reasoning for the affair & the UNSAFE {no condom} sex that gave he and I both herpes. Watch out everyone!This was after 9 years of marriage and a three year old son. Guess what he's been at work since 5:00am & it's 8 pm now and still not home & no call, this all just came out Tuesday

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I'm too young to be by myself all the time....

My Husband of five years is cheating. He always gone, every day he comes home from work and then go back out for 4 or more hours. I told him i know what is going on! He will not talk to me. Just gives me a mean look! I moving out! He is going to come home to a empty house very soon. I'm too young to be by myself all the time.

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I was raised that divorce for any reason was just wrong...

I am a 31 yr old woman I have been married for almost 14 years, I have one child and my husband has cheated on me at least 5 times I have caught him in the act but he always had a way of making me think that it was my fault that he was cheating anyway that was within the first five or six years of marriage I should have left but I have a very low self-esteem partly because of his being abusive telling me that I am fat, ugly, whatever he feels like saying at the time anyway I have stayed because I was raised that divorce for any reason was just wrong and that I should make it work no matter the cost so I have tried but it seems like he just has this obsession to sex and porn I just dont know what to do something in my gut tells me that he is cheating again and I have been trying to find out but so far have no real proof I do know that he has been on the net looking at all kinds of porn it just makes me sick he has even looked at some gay sites anyway I have been making myself sick with this for a few weeks and I have been trying to decide what to do my family that I have talked to about this say leave him now even looking at porn is adultery I feel like I am nothing to him and I have been seeing a change in the way that he is with our child as well I have pretty much made up my mind that I am leaving... God only knows that no woman or man should ever have to live through this and any woman or man that would have an affair with a married or otherwise attached person is just a piece of shit the same as the one that is betraying the relationship.

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