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came back to get my checkbook and he had another woman wrapped around him

My husband is always on the internet in chat rooms

My husband of 2 1/2 years decided he was going to make friends on the internet

cant compete with so many who find my husband a cool guy

i saw him on my bed having sex with my best friend

Maybe I should install a spy program

if men end up at the wrong place at the wrong time, they will cheat

I went through his jeans and found a movie stub for two

Now he's doing all he can to make me see him differently

The excuse he gave me for his action was that it was my fault

There were over 1000 messages from the same woman

Maybe I should install a spy program...

My husband who has his own company would always use the line "I am doing up reports for work". I was a fool and believed him kind of then I realized that he never had that man reports to type and he was not billing all the hours he said he was for all the work. I later found some of the emails but after I realized he was using 2 servers and I did not know about it. He did this to cover the usage of hours on the provider we shared or rather I knew about. I thought we got threw all of this but lately it seems there are just to many things going on that are similar to the past experiences to call it a coincidence.

Maybe I should install a spy program!!l!

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if men end up at the wrong place at the wrong time, they will cheat...

My husband had an affair. 4 months on the internet, and one time in person. Amazing how that seems like a long time to both of us in comparison to a 9 year marriage. I always thought my best friend was crazy for mistrusting her husband, who had never given him any reason. She constantly was going through his things and checking up on him. Her Mom's theory is that men are weak. She says that if men end up at the wrong place at the wrong time, they will cheat. Never believed that until now.

The signs were there. Lots of nights on the internet, blamed on insomnia created by a medication he was on. He created my own e-mail address, so I wouldn't be sharing his. Lots more things come to mind, but too detailed to get into here. The bottom line is that I completely trusted him, ignoring all of the signs.

We're working on trying to fix it. He did have enough conscience to tell on himself. Otherwise, I would have never known. So, one day at a time, here we go. Lesson learned...don't be naive. No one is perfect.

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I went through his jeans and found a movie stub for two...

I have been married for ten years it will be eleven in Feb. I recently discovered my husband cheating. At first he was going out on the weekends after work saying he was going to some kind of religious meetings with a coworker. I went through his jeans and found a movie stub for two. My husband told me he took some women he had just met of course didn't believe him. Any way he went away this week for three days with some friends he came back last night I thought everything was find until he came home early today and had to take something over his mom he left his work bag in the house I went through it and found flavored condoms inside. He says he never used them I think he's lying what should I do?

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Now he's doing all he can to make me see him differently...

My husband and I had been only been married two years when It first happened.I found a love note from an older lady in is pocket while washing his clothes. He swore to me he had no idea where that came from that maby he just picked it up, yeah right. There was a lady at his church that liked him at the time and i'm sure she did it. The one night while at home the phone rang and it was her trying to sneak and talk to him needless to say she heard a few things from me she didn't want to here. This woman was married at the time with kids. Next I started to find love letters from another woman to him on the internet now grant you our marriage was already in trouble from the frist time. But this lady was also older than us and married and with kids to!! I was totally in shock two times in a row!!(And he wonders why we can't have kids?) I of course had a few choice words with her as she pretended to feel sorry for me. Well it stopped for a short time after that. But started up again!! This time I had had it I told him I was leaving if he didn't stop his stupid playing around and causing me heartake. Well he begged and pleaded. And I really think he had a problem but I still don't trust him and have lost alot of respect for him because of that. Now he's doing all he can to make me see him differently. But one more time and i'm out. Remember three strikes? How much should a wife take?

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The excuse he gave me for his action was that it was my fault...

My boyfriend and I have a 1year and 5 month old baby. We have been together for now 3 years. On Memorial Day which was on a Monday made the excuse of going out to his friend's house. While he dropped me off at my mothers house at 3 o'clock p.m. He was to pick me up at six o'clock p.m. When he arrivedit was almost at 7 o'clock p.m. He was very happy when I saw him and it was strange to see him very happy and smiling after visiting his friend. Three days later I had a feeling to look in his wallet and while searching through it I found two ticket stubs for the theater that stated the time for the movie showing at 4:30 p.m. which explained why he was late to pick me up that day. I didn't know how to react towards this situation since it's the first for now. I was really upset and hurt but mostly very angry for finding out that he had lied to me. I confronted him about it and he told me he had went out with a female co-worker to talk about our relationship problems. I'm not that's stupid to fall for another dumb excuse like that. The excuse he gave me for his action was that it was my fault. That I pushed him to do this because of all the problems we were having at the time.

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There were over 1000 messages from the same woman...

It's so good to find this site - I was feeling quite alone and most of the people I had told thought I was making a fuss over nothing! I had thought for a few months that my husband was spending way too much time online - especially as his previous opinion was that the net wasn't interesting! He was up for hours in chat rooms (I could hear the little 'ding' of the IM coming in) and he was very secretive about it. Worst of all, he ruined our family holiday by being surly and miserable all week. Last week, two postcards appeared on the mantlepiece, both from California (we're English). I took a look, and they were both from a woman, using words like 'lover' and 'sweetheart' with lots of kisses! I asked who they were from, but he didn't answer. I then waited until he was out, and took a look at his e-mails. There were over 1000 messages from the same woman, full of talk of how much they loved each other and how they are planning to meet. I was very shocked - we have been together 24 years, since we were kids.

I'm so glad there are other people who understand all this - what has hurt me most is that he's apparently told all his work-mates about his 'affair' too - and he has an album of photos of his 'lover', as well as snail mail from her.

Since then, he has password protected everything again, and hidden all the evidence from me, so he knows I looked. I just don't know what to do next.

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i saw him on my bed having sex with my best friend...

my last man well i caught him cheating on me with my best friend but now im dating this man i love so much and im just happy hes out of my life i was so mad when i saw him on my bed having sex with my best friend.

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cant compete with so many who find my husband a cool guy...

i work nights and husband is on late he has 2 buddies that are females the one has gotten between us and has put pressure on our marriage she says she loves him and they plan to meet he says its all lies but still remains friends with her. he also says he loves me and would never meet anyone online he just likes to chat and flirt. this is ruining my self esteem and cant compete with so many who find my husband a cool guy and are interested in him even though they know hes married im fed up and still wondering will he or wont he meet them and have sex.

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My husband of 2 1/2 years decided he was going to make friends on the internet...

My story is pretty simple. My husband of 2 1/2 years decided he was going to make friends on the internet. To my disadvantage they were females. I knew something was going on when I was always waking up to hear tap, tap tap. The sound of him typing. One day I decided toosee what he was doing so I got up and asked him who was he talking to. He said no one, but i knew he was lying because he instantly minimized the screen befrore I got over there. I said pull up the screen. He did I read the message I knew it was a female. But before this I checked one of the logs in our AOL folder to find numerous screen names so I knew he was messing around. See we have a 2yr old daughter, and it sickens me to think that he didn't care about the outcome of this possibly affecting his daughter. Well I thought we worked it out. But I was wrong within 2 weeks he was at it again, but tricked him this time i set his e-mail up to save anything sent or received that had been opened in the filing cabinet, he didn't think to check the filing cabinet because he hadn't saved it there himself. I checked it one day and found 15 outgoing and 25 incoming from a few females, but one that counted. He told her he loved her, wanted to be with her, and he was in a marriage he hated. they talked about sex and other things, what makes it worst is she just like the women he told me he would date if we ever spit up. She also knew all about me and our daughter, she reffered to my daughter in some of her conversations with my husband. I can't even trust him anymore, let along my self worth just seems to get sadder everyday. They don't think there doing anything wrong even though their hinding it. They don't car about the effects it might have on the so called loved ones.

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My husband is always on the internet in chat rooms...

My husband is always on the internet in chat rooms. He stays on from 8 pm untill 1am. Then he gets on again at 6 am before going to work. I asked him about it and he said he cant sleep at night. We just got a webcam and last Saterday he stayed on all night. We only have sex once a week. How can I see how he talks to? What they say? Chat rooms he visits? Please help. I am at the point of filling for Divorce but I need to Know for sure.

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came back to get my checkbook and he had another woman wrapped around him....

Two years ago I moved in with a man. He led me to believe he was a Christian and that we would be married soon. He was great for the first six months, very similar to our courting period, but soon lost interest. He allows me to pay some of his bills, buy gifts for his kids and make modifications to his home. He asks that I buy groceries for three teens and an adult. I love him dearly but feel humiliated because I have had all the symptoms of a cheating partner. I should not have moved in but now I have sold my home and have a short term government contract job which is nearing an end. I have started looking for another home but now my 16 year old daughter is stable in her school and has made many friends. This man has made me feel as though I am crazy for asking where his whereabouts are when he leaves work early, doesn't arrive to work until late or doesn't come home when he knows I have errands. Worse yet, I left one night, came back to get my checkbook and he had another woman wrapped around him. I was in shock - most women would have clapped, made noise, or gone crazy on the two - - I walked in shock and have never confronted him. No, I am not crazy, but wish there could have been some legal way to inform me of his infedility.

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