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he opened the door with his towel

are these sad pathetic idiots really worth getting stressed over

well how can i do that if she is leaving the country

Twenty years ago when she was having the affairs

im going to leave her when the money is right

she had a very big crush on a man I knew...

my wife of 18 years decided to have an affair

I found "pics of her" taken with our camera...

In my heart I want to believe her but in my mind I know I have to be real

The person doing the cheating will eventually get what s/he deserves.

First of all cheating plain and simple stinks on either end. The person doing the cheating will eventually get what s/he deserves. Secondly, I had a girl I befriended when she moved to town, she took a liking to this ex of mine (him and I were trying to 'work' things out). He all of sudden stopped calling me and she played little miss angel acting like nothing was wrong. One day I'm at her apartment and he calls there. She was in the shower so I go over to answer it, guess who?!? Yes it was my ex. I walked out of her aparment and never went back. My ex called me around Christmas of last year to wish me a merry one. I find out now he got a girl pregnant and they are being forced into marriage. What goes around comes around. About the girl, she is now in a mentally abusive relationship with someone as psycho as her.

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im going to leave her when the money is right....

I just found out a few months ago that my fiance of two years cheated on me with her ex boyfriend.It went on for 5 months. I have tryed to give her a second chance, because i want to believe in her and trust her. Since then i have tryed to get her to stop lying top me, thats all i asked. I have found out now that she has still been lying to me about some things. She has continued to hide them from me. I have a 6 yr old daughter from a prior marrage, my fiance and her are very close. I think this one reason that i have held on and am still holding on to our relationship. I dont feel the same towards my fiance, actually i took the ring back and called off the marrage. We live together, this makes everything very hard. I havent been able to work and havent been sleeping very welll either.I just wish it never happeden, i think im going to leave her when the money is right. IM LOST!!!! I hate this crap.

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Twenty years ago when she was having the affairs...

In April of 1984 my wife informed me of an affair that she had with a guy she dated when she was in high school and a onenight stand with a friend of her sister. She also told me obout making out with other men during this period of probably about three years. She said she couldn't live with the guilt. Since then there have been no other affairs. Now after all these years, I'm having real problems with my self esteem. She says she don't know what made her want to cheat. She did admit that her high school boyfriend was better looking. So I feel that I wasn't good looking enough. She says that she adores me and that she lives for me. Well, I'm still the same person that I was twenty years ago, so I wonder who what makes her feel different. Twenty years ago when she was having the affairs, she found sex with me repulsive. I feel she must have found me really ugly or something. Well, I haven't gotten any better looking at age fifty seven. I guess I just don't know why I'm worth being with now. My self esteem is in the gutter. I guess it's been a problem for the last eighteen years since she told me, but it's really gotten bad lately. I guess I'm not sure how to handle this.

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well how can i do that if she is leaving the country...

well here i am and the story isnt over yet. my wife of 32 years and 2 wonderful kids has left me cause she cant do without the internet. i cut her off and she could not do without it. she has a cyberlover in scotland and wants to go there. i cought them redhanded one nite and she is not even sorry. trouble is i still love her. i probably will get over it but it has made her kids hate her and damaged their lives badly. those who say its not adultry are only fooling themselves. she now wants a divorce and joint custody. well how can i do that if she is leaving the country and she doesnt even know her future.

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are these sad pathetic idiots really worth getting stressed over...

My wife did it behind my back, but are these sad pathetic idiots really worth getting stressed over? i got rid of my mrs cos i forgave 3 times!!!!! once a cheat always a cheat, and i deserve better, no-ones gonna ruin my selfesteem, i say lets go beat all them sad pathetic little depraved idiots up who hide behind their puter screens waiting to pounce on their next victim :-) :-D
no truly do what i did, "get over it" you all deserve better, there are guys and gals out there who deserve your luv and affection, and take it from me the cheats will be the ones losing out, ending up alone. go meet someone at your local or when your out and about, dont take risks with little pratts who sit sweating on their seats hiding in front of a screen, cos none of us know what them people are really like. i know my wife put on a different personality to the one i had to endure day in day out.

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he opened the door with his towel....

I have been reading the stories listed below and well decided to add my story in. My girlfriend unlike the others i've been reading did not do her infidelity in net, she did it with my best friend. First time I caught her was at a bus stop and she was sitting on his lap. They couldn't say anything. Well I forgave her, god bless the ignorance, the second time, I went to his house to take something, he opened the door with his towel and pushed me away but i barged in just to tease him thinking its one of his galfriend and found out its my girlfriend. I gave him a punch on his face and well took my girlfriend's photos and gave to everyone of my friends and told them that this is a prostitute

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one of these days im going to catch her in the act...

i know my wife is cheating.i get home everyday at 5:20 to 5:30 pm.i cant tell you how many times i have come in to find her naked in bed sleeping or just laying there... one of these days im going to catch her in the act..

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she had a very big crush on a man I knew....

Here's my story. I met her a year ago, and we started dating. We fell in love, we had a very happy, very intense relationship. However, a big problem was that we were in different universities, but the universities were close enough that we could visit each other often enough. After 11 months, we got married. Yeah, I know... dumb move.. with the distance and all.. plus, during the last 3 months, we had been fighting and finding excuses to fight more often, but we worked most of them out and our relationship was very fulfilling despite these problems. Three weeks into the marriage, we had a phone conversation in which I admitted a (very small, insignificant, as far as I see it anyways) lie about my past romances. She decided to confess that she had a very big crush on a man I knew. She offered to cut off ties with him completely, but I said that if she had to do that, then she'd always want to be with him and resent me for it. It turned into a pretty big fight and we decided to take a small break from each other, which was supposed to last a month, the phone conversation ended nicely.. that is were weren't shouting obscenities at each other, and we actually ended with 'I love you's. After two weeks, she called me and told me that either I wanted her or not and that I had to make my choice right then. Now, I didn't even know that there was a choice to be made, because as I understood it, a break is not a breakup, but she apparently thought differently. So, I said of course I did. Then she said that I f**ked up her life completely over these past two weeks and she'd been doing nothing but ask herself why she shouldn't just leave me for that guy. Eventually we were able to decide to work things out. I came to see her the following weekend. We had a happy weekend together and things seemed to get better. Then, over the week, we started talking again and it seemed that everything had gotten completely better between us. I came to see her the weekend after that. We were having a wonderful time, until I went to bed with her and noticed a large number of very obvious bruises around her inner thighs. I asked her what they were, and she said 'she didn't know' and that 'I must've left them last weekend'. Because of how they were left, I know that it wasn't me who did it. I clearly suspected something was wrong. I gave her a lot of chances to explain them, and I actually saw the guy who she had a crush on and they were acting very weird around each other. I wasn't until her roommate decided to confront her (and me) with the news of all the "f**ked up s**t" she was doing while i was gone (she never said anything specific). i said i never wanted to see her face again and i left then. later she contacted me that night. it wasn't until she had absolutely no choice but the confess that she finally admitted it. she apologized profusely and begged for me to come back. i agreed to, on the condition that she doesn't see or talk to that guy again. she agreed. a few days later, she contacted me and said that she resented me for taking him away from her and that she wanted to still spend time with him, but be with me too, and she said that 'i don't trust her' and that i want to 'punish her'. i couldn't believe how inconsiderate and selfish she was being and i ended it, and got a divorce from her promptly. now i'm spiralling between incredible bouts of anger, depression, relief, hate, love, etc... I'm mostly angry that she didn't tell me when she had the chance, and that she cheated on me after we had decided to work things out. I feel like there is a silver lining here because if this happened when we had kids, then it would've hurt so many more.

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my wife of 18 years decided to have an affair...

Beginning of 2001 my wife of 18 years decided to have an affair (emotional investment and sexual investment, either of which constitute an affair)with one of her employees. I didn't find out about it until the sexual part had slacked off. She was still in love with him and wanted to be with him 9 months later. That's when I told her I had known and had been following her since month 8. His wife was pregnant and this had devistated my wife because she thought they would be together at some point. In month 2, she told me she didn't want to be married anymore, she wasn't happy. I talked her into counseling which we began a couple months later. In which she basically said she didn't want to try to save the marriage. When I told her that I was having trouble believing that someday I may see her with someone new, She assured me the whole time that she didn't want another relationship with anyone. We were growing further apart, and finally in month 10, I told her I knew, she denied at first, then admited it. Told me their relationship was the kind we hadn't had for years. I had already cut the strings to the realtionship and demanded she move out and leave me and our two kids (16 and 10) in the house. After six months we would pursue joint custody. If she refused, I would blow the whistle to everyone (family, kids, her employer, friends) and anyone who would care about hearing/seeing my proof. (Money spent, Bills unpaid) I asked her still to give it one more chance. She agreed, but was sick for the next few days. So I told her it was Ok. Her heart wasn't in it, divorce was best. A week later, she decided on her own to try again. We did, for about a year. Things were better than they had been in years. Mutual Communication, Openness, helpfulness, caring, all beyond what we had experienced for years. We had married young, and I felt like we were mature enough to get beyond this. But, I can't feel like a husbund and lover to her anymore. It's gone, Ive tried to get it back. Keeping the family together would be the best thing to do. But I can't. I have been out of the house for about 6 weeks (Seperated). It's tough. On the kids especially. But Staying with her because of the kids isn't right for anyone. We'll take time and see what happens. FYI

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I found "pics of her" taken with our camera...

I caught my wife and she still asserts that it was nothing, despite the fact that she would get up in the middle of the night and i would catch her chatting. She would then jump out of her skin, and close the window real fast. I found "pics of her" taken with our camera, that she said were for me despite the fact that they were taken over a period of time, and i never saw any of them. I also aquired her passwords. One was "mans name here - loves me" and she had an email account called mans initial and her initial secret@soandso.com. I found numerous long distance calls to him, at odd hours and for very extended periods of time. When i confronted her, she said that there is a person on the net with the exact same name as her.

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In my heart I want to believe her but in my mind I know I have to be real...

I'am pretty angry you might say, I've been married for 15 years now and was told a few weeks ago that my wife confided in someone at work about some personal problems with our family. What she is telling me is that they are just friends but she feels that she loves this person much like a person would love their doctor. What in the hell is that suppose to mean? In one breath she tells me that she loves me and in another she tells me this. I have a sick feeling that she has had a affair with this person and now feels guilty about it. I have tried to forgive her but still wonder if this is relationship is going on. Our sex life is bad, she will still have sex because she feels it is her obligation but their is no feelings their. In my heart I want to believe her but in my mind I know I have to be real. I would like to catch them if I could and find out what was really said in the e-mail correspondance, but they correspond at work. I guess I am still looking for the truth. And if she really does just feel guilty about having feelings for another person is that cheating too. I think so, especially when she does not have the same feelings for her husband. Thanks for listening, Mixed up

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