Caught but she will not admit it

[todd]

My wife was starting to show signs of cheating on me. Coming home late from work with alcohol on her breath. Long lunches when i called her office. And always seemed to have a meeting when i was out of town and had out niece babysitting our 2 year old. I finally acted like I was going out of town and rented a car so i could come in my neighborhood as a stranger.
The first night nothing went on but the second night she pulled up with a Co-worker Rich following her. It was almost dark and i parked down the street to come behind our house to look in. We have common ground behind so it's easy to be un-noticed. The drank beer and wine and watched TV as she fed my baby boy. Once he was put to bed she came out and then drank a few more wines on th couch. After a while he put his move on her and they ended up having sex on the couch as i watched from my deck. I was sick to my stomach and almost threw up. My head was spinning and and not sure what to do. I went and got a room at a hotel to think it out before i did something crazy.
I called her acting like nothing happened and tried to talk to her. She was cold and in a hurry. A week later she had to go out of town for her work with Rich and called me at 4:00PM saying they missed the plane and would be home tomorrow. I was pissed off and told her i was. Later that night i called her room and Rich answered the phone drunk off his butt. He told me i had the wrong room and hung up on me. I called back and my wife answered drunk also. I told Her I know what was going on and she denied everything again. I told her I watcher her on the couch a few weeks back and she called me a liar.
I left for a week and she begged me to come back, all the while never admitting she had cheated. I'm staying with her because my son means so much to me. But I can not think of anything but what i witnessed that night i saw them together. I do not know what to do from here. I do not want to leave again but it's eating me alive. She gets crazy mad when i try to talk about it. How can i let it go?

[todd]

My wife was starting to show signs of cheating on me. Coming home late from work with alcohol on her breath. Long lunches when i called her office. And always seemed to have a meeting when i was out of town and had out niece babysitting our 2 year old. I finally acted like I was going out of town and rented a car so i could come in my neighborhood as a stranger.
The first night nothing went on but the second night she pulled up with a Co-worker Rich following her. It was almost dark and i parked down the street to come behind our house to look in. We have common ground behind so it's easy to be un-noticed. The drank beer and wine and watched TV as she fed my baby boy. Once he was put to bed she came out and then drank a few more wines on th couch. After a while he put his move on her and they ended up having sex on the couch as i watched from my deck. I was sick to my stomach and almost threw up. My head was spinning and and not sure what to do. I went and got a room at a hotel to think it out before i did something crazy.
I called her acting like nothing happened and tried to talk to her. She was cold and in a hurry. A week later she had to go out of town for her work with Rich and called me at 4:00PM saying they missed the plane and would be home tomorrow. I was pissed off and told her i was. Later that night i called her room and Rich answered the phone drunk off his butt. He told me i had the wrong room and hung up on me. I called back and my wife answered drunk also. I told Her I know what was going on and she denied everything again. I told her I watcher her on the couch a few weeks back and she called me a liar.
I left for a week and she begged me to come back, all the while never admitting she had cheated. I'm staying with her because my son means so much to me. But I can not think of anything but what i witnessed that night i saw them together. I do not know what to do from here. I do not want to leave again but it's eating me alive. She gets crazy mad when i try to talk about it. How can i let it go?

[doesmybuttlookfatinthis]

You need to leave her till she breaks down and admits the affair. You must remember what she wore that night. I can't believe you didn't move b4 he did her on your couch. I couldn't live with it either. YOU NEED TO MOVE OUT NOW. Then you can figure out if you want to stay with the cheating skanky ho.

[holikdad]

Leave, having 50% custody of your child is better than living with a cheating spouse. Cheaters will lie, you could of had video of them too, and she still would have lied.

[MuffinMan]

I dont know why you didn't bust in while they were having sex and throw BOTH of their asses out without their clothes and locked the door.

THAT was your chance right there to bust them.

I know you are thinking of your little boy, but what are you going to do? Stay married to a wh0re for your kid's sake? I would have never been able to enjoy my time with my kids knowing I was miserable in life and that my wife was a wh0re.

I think you need to get angry...REALLY angry, and let her know what you saw. She needs to feel just how angry you are and you need to tell her to pack her bags and GTF out of the house. I mean you need to put your foot down and show her you are not going to be walked all over and lied to.

What does she fear the most? Whatever it is, you need to use that. Does she fear divorce? If so, threaten her with it. Hell...spend about $300 to have a lawyer serve her with divorce papers. You can always back out later, but I wouldn't

Or, even though I know the thought is unbearable, you get a divorce anyway. She will never change, even if she stops cheating for your son's sake, she will still be the same woman that wants another man's d!ck in her and she would cheat if she knew there was no way you'd ever find out.

So question is, you going to be happy living with a wh0re for the next umpteen years or for the rest of your life?

[Flynn]

Sorry no man would catch his wife starting to have sex with another man and not stop it!!! Nice try!!!

[Adam Bomb 1701]

Originally Posted by todd

She gets crazy mad when I try to talk about it. How can I let it go?

That's the typical reaction of a cheater when confronted. In their eyes, they've done nothing wrong, and they get angry if someone else confronts them.

Originally Posted by doesmybuttlookfatinthis

YOU NEED TO MOVE OUT NOW. Then you can figure out if you want to stay with the cheating skanky ho.

Actually, DON'T move out. Make her do it, although if she hires a lawyer, the lawyer will tell the cheating skank not to leave. My lawyer advised me not to move during my divorce, and I didn't. My ex didn't bring her lover(s) home, though; they went at it in hotel rooms, and I guess the other person's place.

Originally Posted by MuffinMan

What does she fear the most? Whatever it is, you need to use that. Does she fear divorce? If so, threaten her with it. Hell...spend about $300 to have a lawyer serve her with divorce papers. You can always back out later, but I wouldn't.

Now, that is a good idea. Might be worth it. Go for it. Even if you don't go all the way with the divorce, you've shown your skank that you mean business.

[Skirtchaser]

Of course the Bit.ch will lie. That goes with the character of someone who cheats. Your on a sinking ship fellow. You don't seem to know it's going down.


As for old Rich, you missed your chance to kick his ass. You let them violate the sanctity of your home. There is not one chance in hell that this who;re won't do it again.

Get you a good lawyer and fight for custody of your son.

[bchgrl2008]

You cannot continue in a relationship where she won't even admit to what you saw. Don't stay with someone because of children. It is more destructive to have them be in a home that is unloving in regards to their parents. She needs to admit what she has done. If not, then she is never going to stop and you are going to be miserable.