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[Armyman]

Update-I found out three days ago my wife cheated on me wile i am in Iraq, I told he if she wanted to make it work i would try, she said she need to think about it. With the help of this site and others I call back today to tell her that i wanted to end it. She told me the only reason she told me of the other man was so that i would end it with her. I dont get that but ok. Now I move on with my life. in 49 min. we figured out the details of seperation. funny 12 years together, 7 years maried, 49 min to end it. I wish the pain would go away that fast.

[doesmybuttlookfatinthis]

You are single in a new world my friend. Enjoy.

[bchgrl2008]

It is obvious that she wants to end the marriage. It is amazing how heartless she is. Unfortunately, the pain isn't going to go away fast. I have been wishing the pain to go away for about a year and a half. It does get less though, and now more days are better than others. When I first found out about the affair, everyday was bad. You will heal, and when you come back you get a fresh new start.

[The_Road_2_Recovery]

I'm so sorry to hear that she wanted to end it. Time heals all wounds. I hope that time works in your favor, my Friend. Keep your head up!!!

[The_Road_2_Recovery]

I'm so sorry to hear that she wanted to end it. Time heals all wounds. I hope that time works in your favor, my Friend. Keep your head up!!!

[holikdad]

Hopefully you'll find your life more fulfilling now since you're separating. I decided to stay with my wife and now six months later I wonder if it was the right decision. Don't get my wrong my W is doing everything right to mend our marriage, but it still doesn't feel like it's enough. I wouldn't go so far to say I'm unhappy, it's just not the same as it used to be.

[MuffinMan]

Originally Posted by Armyman

Update-I found out three days ago my wife cheated on me wile i am in Iraq

One of the lowest forms of cheaters....cheating on one of our men or women serving our country and putting their lives on the line in a foreign country. No soldier should have to worry about whether their spouse is cheating on them when they are in harms way abroad. Despicable.

I salute you!!

I told he if she wanted to make it work i would try, she said she need to think about it. With the help of this site and others I call back today to tell her that i wanted to end it. She told me the only reason she told me of the other man was so that i would end it with her.

She is such a gutless turd she didn't even have to courage to leave herself. Cheaters always want it to look like someone elses fault if a marriage fails.

I dont get that but ok. Now I move on with my life. in 49 min. we figured out the details of seperation. funny 12 years together, 7 years maried, 49 min to end it. I wish the pain would go away that fast.

I know its painful. It was for me. But getting angry about it took the pain away, and later the anger subsided and I realized just how great life is!! You will realize that too soon. There are MUCH BETTER WOMEN out there for you. Let your x-cheater be this other guy's problem and say "good riddance".

I know it hurts, but this is for the best. The last thing you need is to be deployed and have to wonder if your wife is back home again cheating.

And when you meet someone else, or simply start dating around, you'll think, "what was my x-wife's name again?" Well, maybe not that, but you get my drift.

Trust me my man, it gets MUCH better and your life will be better.

[tomasingm]

Originally Posted by Armyman

Update-I found out three days ago my wife cheated on me wile i am in Iraq, I told he if she wanted to make it work i would try, she said she need to think about it. With the help of this site and others I call back today to tell her that i wanted to end it. She told me the only reason she told me of the other man was so that i would end it with her. I dont get that but ok. Now I move on with my life. in 49 min. we figured out the details of seperation. funny 12 years together, 7 years maried, 49 min to end it. I wish the pain would go away that fast.

You are serving putting your self in harms way while she is getting a vaj pounded by some one else. Think about it who is missing out??? Yes, the pain will be there for a while but you know what you are stronger than you really are, and if she was so easy to end in 49 minutes it should give you a clear indication of how she felt. But, look at it this way, be strong do not cave in. When you get back home she is gonna have change of heart that I guarantee you. Do no give in, do not let her slide. When you are home you are hers, when you are serving it is one big free for all for her. Do not let her weasel her way back into your graces she is gone have her stay gone.

[Adam Bomb 1701]

Originally Posted by tomasingm

Yes, the pain will be there for a while but you know what you are stronger than you really are, and if she was so easy to end in 49 minutes it should give you a clear indication of how she felt.

And, if she gets pregnant by another guy, DON'T let her talk you into supporting the kid (letting the other guy off the hook.) DON'T listen to her sob story about how she was so lonely she needed someone. Who knocked her up, and then dumped her. Walk away, no matter what. Before you're the one left holding someone else's bag.

[trevormac]

sorry to hear that friend. Time will take the pain away and you'll be able to regain hapiness. It's good that you decided to end it. My relationship with my ex dragged out over 3 years after the first affair and was very painful. I guarentee your wife would have cheated on you again, so you are making the right move. You won't have to always be thinking at the back of your mind what she's up to. Make new friends, find new hobbies and when you're ready meet some new ladies and enjoy life.