read wife's journal

[mac15665]

I know it is a breach of trust, but I read my wife's journal. She had a very strange entry. We had a party at our house and she got hammered. Not much of a drinker. She was locked in the bathroom with one of her female friends. I figured the friend was just trying to sober her up. Anyway, I read her journal some months later and she wrote in there about being drunk and being in the bathroom tasting chocolate "candy". She wrote the word candy in quotes. She wrote something about me being in the other room like it was risque or something. Then she wrote that she would just have to resist the urge to taste chocolate "candy" in the future? I confronted her and she gave me some bull**** about how a friend brought her some candy and how she knows I don't like her to eat such crap because she will get fat. I told her why in the hell that would be notable to write in a journal?! Also, she has been more assertive--no way she would write in her journal some crap about how she secretly ate some damn candy. I think "candy" is a term she used for vagina, or maybe she blew one of my friends, but I think that is far fetched since I knew she was locked in the bathroom with a female friend as I thought back on it. She won't fess up to what happened. Am I imagining ****, or does it really sound like something innocent. I think it's bull****.

[exhausted]

I guess, I'm thinking on the same lines as you are.. "Candy" doesn't mean sweet tarts in this phrase!!

[Skirtchaser]

was the person in the bathroom with her Black??

[Saintas]

In no way the words : party, drink, candy, bathroom, my hubby in the another room put togheter represent somethin small.
Is there something but not enough evidence.
Another strange behavior of you wife in the last time?

[exhausted]

was the person in the bathroom with her Black??
That's what I'm thinking..

[Saintas]

You have black man as guest to this party? How do you know that girlfriend was not only alibi. She wrote that you was in another room in that moment!

[mac15665]

another friend confirmed that she was in bathroom sobering up with one of her girlfriends, black. Also, she has never behaved inappropriately at a party when drinking and no signs of infidelity, just this nagging question about this goofy entry in her journal. She denies it. Says she doesn't remember writing it, about two years ago. I say it's bull****. It was memorable enough to put in a journal. I don't know what to make of it.

[Saintas]

That wasa chocolate involved there , but was with a litlle hole .

[hurditallb4]

if you feel in your gut that she's lieing then she is. come on she tasted some chocolate candy? she's either kissed her or gone south. there's no need in asking her cause she'll deny it til the end!! all cheaters do until they're caught red handed. Even then they'll still lie. like that song by Shaggy goes "wasn't me"!!!:p

[Skirtchaser]

This happened 2 years ago? Is there any other tastings going on??
Any other suspicious activity? Something made you check up on her, what led to that? You may have tipped your hand too soon with too little to confront her with.
If you intend to stay with her, since she knows you know now, Lay the law down about cheating. Tell her how you feel and won't tolerate it. Be true to your word with her or she will take advantage of her.

I've had women friends tell me, Once you go black, you never go back.
Check out the friend that was in the bathroom with her. Maybe some insight into her will reveal more of the truth. Good Luck:cool:

[exhausted]

If this happened 2 years ago and you have been on her about it and she hasn't told you what has happen that day.. I doubt she will ever tell and take it to her grave... JMO

[mac15665]

I"m sure she's lying. I figure she made out with her, or went down on her. I don't think she is a cheater, but the deceit is what really bugs me. No odd behavior otherwise to make me suspect her of other transgressions. If she experimented with another women, I would hope she could be honest with her husband, but I guess not.

[Skirtchaser]

She could also be ashamed to admit it to you.

[Saintas]

With woman or with man, cheating is cheating .It is not less dangerous for your marriage when is a whomen involved .(you can see here another post with the same situation and the end is not good) .
Shamed, embaresement , afraid , who nows but if it was an extramarital relation she will not tell you still you have a strong evidence.
Or with this note from her diary you can not proove nothing . See furher her behavior , where spend the time ,with whom..