This is BULLSH-T!

[nickcarbone]

Look, I have been married for over 15 years and have three boys. Everything over the last 15 has been cool, she has always been a great wife and mother. But over the last year things have changed. could be mentapause or some other mid life crisis bullsh-t, i dont know. We went from a loving trusting relationship and never hid anything from each other to the complete oposite.She goes out more than she used to, takes her cell phone everywhere, even in the bathroom when she takes a shower. She is not interested in sex at all right now, and is completely distancing herself from me and our sons. Also she was never a drinker and now its everyday chased with a couple a vicodins. I don't know where this is coming from or whats goiing on, maybe it has to do with her being obused and dumped by her father as a child or the fact that she was molested as a child by family members and this **** is just re-surfacing and messin with her head. Im not sure if this something she is just going through and i should just stick around and support her and we will end up cool or i am gettin f--ked over and bein stupid. If anyone has had similar situation or just has some advice offer, please do. it would be appreciated, thanks.

[Lady_rose58]

Why does she need to take her cell phone to the bathroom? MAN get that phone and look see who she is calling or the incoming calls? Something isn't right! Drinking maybe she feels quilty about something? what else has been happening? Sounds fishy to me.. Menopause doesn't change a person that way. I know been there!

[crissy]

Why is she taking vicodin? That's a pretty strong pain pill and can have some strange side effects with certain people, plus used with alcohol at the same time is dangerous. How old is she (if you expect mid-life or the change)? I don't know if it would be an Affair, don't understand why she would distance herself from the kids? Try talking to her and find out what's going on to cause all the changes in her life. Someone just posted recently signs to look for that your wife is cheating. Being a cheater, this post was more accurate than I cared to admit. I will read through and see if I can find it again. Sorry this is happening to you and your family

[crissy]

Look under cheating girlfriends --- thread is titled - Four signs that your girlfriend is cheating. Not wanting to be with you sexually doesn't mean there is someone else. One of the things this poster does say that I agree with is to make sure they are cheating before you accuse them of cheating. Sometimes that might not be possible or easy.

[Skirtchaser]

follow her or have someone she does'nt know follow her when she goes out. You need proof, before you convict. If she is ditch her a.ss and take care of your children. Put them first and rebuild. :cool:

[markus]

Hi Nick

You'll find that your wife is having an affair , all types of people do it
Abused , non abused , good people & bad people
Its usually with someone they work with , he's probably married and blagging her he's in a bad relationship
he'll be telling her she's the best thing since sliced bread untill finally she gives in and gets emotionally involved .....thats when the unusual behaviour kicks in

the fact that she was molested as a child by family members and this **** is just re-surfacing and messin with her head. Im not sure if this something she is just going through and i should just stick around and support her and we will end up cool or i am gettin f--ked over and bein stupid.

You are being fuc-ked over and its possible her cheating is caused by a lack of love as a child

[markus]

don't understand why she would distance herself from the kids?

She's probably one of those that gets up one day and fuc.ks off out the door leaving them behind
It happens

[MuffinMan]

Your being f#cked over and she is cheating, you can bet good money on that.

She doesn't want to have sex with you, but goes out all the time and takes the cell in the shower with her? She doesn't want you anywhere around it in case "he" calls.

But your in a tough spot...married for that long, and you have a responsibility to your children, even though she could give 2 sh!ts about their happy home by cheating on you.....and them.

I can't tell you what to do her man....but i can tell you, if your portrayal of her is accurate, you can bet she's cheating.

Question...does she really doll herself up when she goes out?...does she wear sexy panties when she goes out? How late does she stay out and where does she go?
Has she recently become obsessed with losing weight or working out?

But mainly, how late does she walk in the door after going out drinking?

[MuffinMan]

You are being fuc-ked over and its possible her cheating is caused by a lack of love as a child

Great...another guy who has to suffer because he married a head case.

[SuckerFree]

She has mentapause, obviously she's crazy....:D

[confused]

She sounds like a teenager....in that somehow she's gotten herself into hanging out with the "wrong crowd".

That's just my opinion.

I just wrote a story to someone on here about how their story was EXACTLY like some friends of mine.
Well...yours happens to be as well.

These two were married for 10 years....had one child together...and she had a child from previous relationship...and he had child from previous relationship...so together....father, mother, 3 kids.

Anyhow...they moved to california.....she got a job with a buncha "fun loving crazy people" so it appeared...

Pretty soon she was going to karaoke every monday night. Hubby thought nothing of it...in fact was happy she was making friends and fitting into the new living envirnment. They never went out before.....and he felt a bit guilty about it since he worked so many hours...and she was home with the kids.

So anyhow....her karaoke nights led to hanging out with a larger extended group from her office...and they all were tweakers. So it wasn't long before she was a speed freak...and a total personality change.

They divorced.

Now....like 6-7 years later? They're back together. Dunno if it will work tho...cuz they (unlike you) have always had their problems.

Anyhow...if she's drinking alcohol...and chasing it with vicodin...thats just not a good mix. And if she hasn't done drugs previously....well.....where's she getting her prescriptions....and why "all of a sudden".

She has HAD to met some "not so good" influences lately. Was there a job change? You moved? New neighbors in the area? New schools for the kids so new parents to meet?

Sumpin sumpin happened.