Army Wife - Marissa Nightingale

[certacito]

It was the day after fathers day 2002 when I arrived home from work and was informed that our marriage was over, as she did not want to "do it" anymore! I of course was devistated, as I thought I had done something to cause this, and desprately attempted to come to terms with what I just heard - let alone a way of fixing this.
I thought, as previously in the marriage, she was home sick. I suggested she go back to her mother for a holiday, leaving our 2 sons with me so she could have a break and really think about what it was she was doing.
On her return a week later, I confirmed her idea of divorce. She again told me it was over and headed to the ensuit to shower, it was at this time the mobile phone received an SMS from CRAIG PEET, I read it and my heart dropped - it stated words to the effect of "I want you, I need you, you are my lover" - this on my wife and my mobile phone and from a bloke I played cricket with.
I confronted my wife when she stepped out of the shower, asking her if she had ever been unfaithful during our marriage - I'll give her this, she didn't lie!

Its not all bad - since that day I have met and enjoyed many women and eventually met a lovely lady that I am now with - and yes I have learnt to trust again.

[Skirtchaser]

Better than staying in a lie. Some stay for the kids, and, you have to admire them for that. I stayed with my cheater, far too long for the kids sake. I am thankful I moved on and found happiness.
Nice post.

[MuffinMan]

Its not all bad - since that day I have met and enjoyed many women and eventually met a lovely lady that I am now with - and yes I have learnt to trust again.


Most certainly you can trust again...just not with the one that betrayed you.

[elainegayla]

I'm glad for you. Thanks for the post.

[xenthius]

Happy for you, and she was honest enought. Kids complicate things, I have two and am not ready to put them through the hell that comes with divorce.

[MuffinMan]

certacito.....this is actually a cause for celebration. You are getting rid of a cheater. She will end up getting bored with her new man, or better yet, him of her, and it will be the same old sh#t all over again.

I'd tell her, "you are a cheater...I'm glad I am finding this out so now you can be someone elses problem"

Tell her point blank, "you're a wh0re, and I'm glad you are leaving"



And isn't there some penalty for military people and adultery?

[demoralized]

Uniform Code of Military Justice (UCMJ)

Adultery is against it's rules for one simple reason.

If you had a loved one in the military, would you want them in a battlefield situation with a person whose mind is distracted by infidelity on the part of their spouse, or worse yet their spouse and another member of their unit?

[Geographical Bachelor]

I have 17 1/2 years in the Active Army. I will be married for 9 years in about 30 days. I cannot wait for my marriage to be over.

I have been faithful in every way imagineable to her and our children. I trusted her and loved her. She cleaned out the joint account to "protect herself and the kids". Now, she is using the kids as leverage against me. I see a lawyer tomorrow.

I have not seen my kids or spoken to them since 11 June. It kills to not be able to talk to them. She knows this. I am afraid she will take her anger at me out on them. She is only angry because she cannot control me anymore.

[MuffinMan]

I have not seen my kids or spoken to them since 11 June. It kills to not be able to talk to them. She knows this. I am afraid she will take her anger at me out on them. She is only angry because she cannot control me anymore.

Then you document ANYTHING she does. If she is mentally abusing your kids, then you need to get custody and get them away from this warped control freak cheater.

men get the shaft with regards to custody, but if you can prove she is mentally abusing them in any way, then you have a shot.

[bchgrl2008]

I have to agree with Muffin. Men do get the shaft when dealing with their kids. I have to wonder why so many people feel like men are always the "cheaters, liars, trash, etc..." women are just as bad if not worse. Being a woman, I can tell you that it is so much easier for us to get away with things than men. I NEVER KEPT MY SON AWAY FROM HIS FATHER. No matter what my H did to me, I supported the relationship between him and his son. Aside from physically or mentally abusing our child, nothing he could do would make me keep him away from his son. My H NEVER abused us. He has a healthy relationship with our son because of that.

Women are vindictive and cruel at times. NOT ALL WOMEN, but enough to make me feel like I am on "Team Dads" when it comes to custody battles. People need to put aside their bullsh!t for sake of their kids.