My Situation

[Bdart]

Hey everyone,

My wife, turns out has been takling to this creep since April. I went back and look at the cell phone calls. They met at "church" of all places. This loser is 32-33 years old and lives with his mama. I found out that he also just got fired from his job........PATHETIC! Over the last three months to a year my wife has deceived me. She has lied to me over and over trying to justify her fornicating ways. Someone said on here, once a cheater always a cheater. The sad part about all of this is that she doesn't seem to care that we have two children!! All she cares about is herself and nobody else. Can someone give me some advice on how to make it through this pain that seems unbearable at times.

Thanks

[Skirtchaser]

Yea we thought so.

Ok there is no easy way to get by the hurt. It's just the cross that caring people have to bear. But try this.
Work harder on your relationship with the children. Spend time alone with them away from her.
Work harder at your job, set some goals ahead and strive for them.
Do not fall back on any medications, Do it clean.
Exercise and try to eat right, keep yourself healthy.
Do absolutely nothing to make her life easier, do no favors, try to be mad for what she has done to your family.
The pain will pass, life goes on, and There is life out there. Go look for it. DOnt sit on your a.ss feeling sorry for yourself. You can do it. :cool:

[prex]

Kick her ayss for good measure, too. And the church going mama's boy.If more beatings were handed down for this behaviour it might curtail it.

"this pain that seems unbearable at times."

Don't bear it alone. Tell your friends and family, in laws included. Helping her keep her little secret will result in her screwing more, not her liking you more. Drop a dime on her whoaring ayss. Do not enable, disable. Nothing dries quicker than a tear, my brother, so shed blood before you shed a tear.

[BEALIA]

[Only time will heal our pain. No matter what anyone says or tells us what is right , we will still do as our heart tells us to do..so the only thing i can say to you is to be strong...and try to get out of this cheating relationship once and for all..there are alot of women out there that want a good man like you ...I am going throught some pain my self and decided i deserve better than just sitting around wondering, felling sory for myself and thinking what did i do wrong...its not my fault like its not your fault...so keep a positvie attitude and good luck !!

[MuffinMan]

Hey everyone,

My wife, turns out has been takling to this creep since April. I went back and look at the cell phone calls. They met at "church" of all places. This loser is 32-33 years old and lives with his mama. I found out that he also just got fired from his job........PATHETIC! Over the last three months to a year my wife has deceived me. She has lied to me over and over trying to justify her fornicating ways. Someone said on here, once a cheater always a cheater. The sad part about all of this is that she doesn't seem to care that we have two children!! All she cares about is herself and nobody else. Can someone give me some advice on how to make it through this pain that seems unbearable at times.

Thanks

yes...get angry...get very angry...then get a membership a a local fitness club and pump the weights hard.

Not only will the anger take away the pain, but then you take that anger and work it off in a positive way. You will feel better...look better, and you will be wanted by other women in the event of a divorce.

Do it for yourself.....you have kids...so I can't really tell you what to do, but if only seeing your kids every other weekend is good enough for you, I'd say dump this wh0re...but do try to get custody as you don't want a wh0re raising your kids.

[Lady_rose58]

They met at "church" of all places. trying to justify her fornicating ways. Someone said on here, once a cheater always a cheater. All she cares about is herself and nobody else.

(((That is what I hear! once a cheater always a cheater!!!!))))

((((Church, my my and in gods eyes too! what a *****!)))))

Can someone give me some advice on how to make it through this pain that seems unbearable at times.

Thanks

Come here these ppl have really helped me alot!! Just to vent to someone that understands how I feel!

Jan

[exhausted]

The only thing that will help is time.. TIME is THE KEY FACTOR..

AS far as your wife goes.. Most cheaters only think of themselves.. So, hearing that doesn't surprise me.. Hopefully after all this is said and done... She will wake up and realize what she has pissed away..

I say have her shiznit on the curb.. throw it out there not place it.. She might get the point that you don't give a flying "You know what" about her anymore"..

[tomasingm]

The biggest Church attenders tend to be the biggest hypocrites, its all about the outside, and making impressions. What is, does not matter, only what it looks like. Expose them so their on judgemental people will turn on them. Let the world know and show proof. GO to the reverend, pastor, deacon etc. Whatever or whoever the boss man/lady of your denomination is. Good luck

[mrmaximum]

That's exceptional advice tomasingm, my mother did that to the woman that was 'seeing' my father. She told our then Pastor about the whole deal and he dealt with this woman one Sunday after service, as my father doesn't attend. As far as my mother knows, they have never 'hooked up' again and it has been over 10 years!!:)

[tillymint]

Did you go to the pastor.. would love to know the outcome of this one..

Till

[Bdart]

The "church" where she goes permits this kind of behavior. The preachers own daughter cheated with a married man, married him and they are excepted like it was nothing. Can you say adultery!! These people have no regard for God's word or the eternal consequences of their actions!!

[tomasingm]

back to the curbe (aka congregation)j The Church of Free for all Swingers. SOunds about right.....