Feel like an expert but still dont know the answers!

[silly silly girl]

Hi guys - i am new to this site and thanks god i can talk to someone!
I have a husband who has been cheating on and off for the past 17 years (i am 33 - kinda pretty and good figure, nice person too!) and i keep forgiving him! he is very secretive of his belongings,his phone etc, but he says that he doesnt want a snooping wife, so after the last time i stopped looking, though i have known he was seeing someone in another county.No proof of an affair but he tells me they are good friends (enough for him to take her to Germany on a business trip without telling me!) but i now have evidence that i cant explain and dont know the way forward.We had a trade show in Dublin, we he received flowers wishing him well (him, not us, though i am an equal inthe business) from 'Frosty & Chilly'. He siad he didnt know who they were from so i left it at that. Anyway we got a parcel to teh business yesterday so i opened it, and it was a teddy bear & chocs, 'to eddie & Chilly, thinking of your from Barbara' the senders address being a county that he has been working in alot recently! ok so i hide the message and the gift for now...... Anyway as i was tidying up i found a bar receipt for two people in a hotel in the county where this other girl lives (the one he took to germany) for a night when he had told me he was somewhere totally different (overnight)!
I am no good at keeping things in and dont want to mess things up til i have more proof but what do i do? i have 2 children to think about in this also he always turns it round so that he can be angry with me for finding things out!
i am an expert with teh pounding hearts, sleepless nights and contant feeling of pain, it never gets better! i need proof - that all!

[doedoe]

I'm brand new today on this site -- I was told a few years ago when I called a private detective -- he said you don't need to spend your money on me -- follow your gut -- and yes eventually I found proof he was cheating -- oh yes, he denied it over and over again, until I threw the black and white printed copies of emails and letters at him and then he said -- gee I was just stupid but nothing physical -- yeah right. Honey, if you feel it inside, you know the truth. Hang in there.

[tdhg]

Hi guys - i am new to this site and thanks god i can talk to someone!
I have a husband who has been cheating on and off for the past 17 years (i am 33 - kinda pretty and good figure, nice person too!) and i keep forgiving him! he is very secretive of his belongings,his phone etc, but he says that he doesnt want a snooping wife, so after the last time i stopped looking, though i have known he was seeing someone in another county.No proof of an affair but he tells me they are good friends (enough for him to take her to Germany on a business trip without telling me!) but i now have evidence that i cant explain and dont know the way forward.We had a trade show in Dublin, we he received flowers wishing him well (him, not us, though i am an equal inthe business) from 'Frosty & Chilly'. He siad he didnt know who they were from so i left it at that. Anyway we got a parcel to teh business yesterday so i opened it, and it was a teddy bear & chocs, 'to eddie & Chilly, thinking of your from Barbara' the senders address being a county that he has been working in alot recently! ok so i hide the message and the gift for now...... Anyway as i was tidying up i found a bar receipt for two people in a hotel in the county where this other girl lives (the one he took to germany) for a night when he had told me he was somewhere totally different (overnight)!
I am no good at keeping things in and dont want to mess things up til i have more proof but what do i do? i have 2 children to think about in this also he always turns it round so that he can be angry with me for finding things out!
i am an expert with teh pounding hearts, sleepless nights and contant feeling of pain, it never gets better! i need proof - that all!

I don't see you need any more proof. I wish i would of left mine a long time ago. Now he is unbearable. It will be tough but I would go toa lawyer and ask for some papers to be drawn up. Living like this will take a HEAVY toll on you...it has me and everyone I know who has put up with it.