Caught Wife Cheating while on vacation with me.

[Finman]

We are on vacation in Vegas. On our 2nd day there, I receive a phone call from my boss saying that the company has decided to eliminate my position and I will be offered a severance package. "WOW, this is just great" I say to myself. "I am on vacation and I find out I lost my job via a phone call." Trying not to let it spoil my vacation, me and my wife continued our activities. On the last night of our vacation in Vegas, I was playing Poker at a different hotel/casino until late(3:00am). I go back to my room and I find that the lights of our room are on and my wife is not there. I go back down to the Casino in our hotel(that is where we gambled most of the time) and I do not see her anywhere. I call her cell phone and get no answer. I try again and still no answer. I call 10 times and get her voice mail each time. I walk around the casino a half-dozen times thinking she might be in the bathroom, but to no avail, she is nowhere to be found. I call her cell phone again and again and no one answers. At this point I am getting worried. It is now 4:30am on our last night in Vegas and I cannot find my wife. I finally leave a message on her voice mail at 4:40am. I go back to the room, call her cell phone a dozen more times and still no answer. After freaking out for another 2 hours and continuing to call her cell. She calls me at 6:30am. Says she out at the Hard Rock playing video poker with a coupld of the Hotel Security guys she meet at our casino. We have a heated exchange and I hang up on her. She show up 30 minutes later saying she was out dancing and partying and having a good time. I do not believe her, something does not seem right. We argue, she proceeds to pass out and I pack my bags and leave while she is passed out. By this time it is now about 9:00am and I am heading to the airport to catch an earlier flight. She calls about 9:30 and we begin to fight again on the phone. She talks me into coming back to the room and we can have make-up sex. Tired and wanting to believe her, I go back. We have sex and head to the airport together to catch our flight home. We are both exhausted. The next day, while getting ready to go to the office to clean out my desk, I decide to turn on the phone recorder that I purchased a month earlier. I get home that night and listen to the tape. The very first call she makes after I left that morning was to her girlfriend in Florida. She proceeds to tell her how she tricked me into going to play poker to "get my mind off of my job". Then tells her how it is "a free in" when looking for cute guys to talk to, it is much easier in a casino because you can look for the cute ones and then just sit down next to them and gamble. She then proceeded to tell her how she began talking to these two guys and ended up going to the Hard Rock Casino because they had a night club there. After dancing for several hours and making out on the dance floor, the guy she liked suggested getting a room. While in the lobby at the registration desk, she takes her phone out of her purse, checks her voice mail and hears my message. At this point she says it is about 4:45am. She then goes up to the room with the guy and has sex with him. Hears her cell phone ring again at 6:30am and then decides to call me back while in the bed with the other guy.

I am listening to the tape player just aghast with rage. I confront her in bed an hour later. After much denying, she finally admits to it. She also admits to a similar tryst while we were on a business trip in FL a year earlier. Now I am really steamed.

This all took place about a month ago. I cannot get the thoughts and feelings out of my head. I am not sure if our marriage is over or not. We are going to counseling, but I am not sure it is going to work.

[LatinManny]

Look man this women abvouisly has problems. If she has cheated on you and you still love her you have to be kidden me. You must have balls of steel man!! Look man i understand that she hurt you real bad when you found out about this. And i know that you have thought about revenge. YES REVENGE!!!!!! dont lie man. I know you have. If you honestly dont think that its going to work out anymore play it cool for a while. If she decides to go to counseling and everything and she wants to ger back together play it cool. When she least expects it BANG!!! Cheat on her. This will burn her butt. TRUST ME!!! YOU DONT HAVE TO CHEAT ON HER!!! for real. But make it seem like you have been seeing another women. Smear lipstick on your shirts and buy womens perfume and spray some on your clothes. BE CREATIVE. When she finds out about this she will go crazy and she will realize what she has done for you to take these measures. This will make her jeaolus TRUST ME! Aterthat if you still love her it will make things easier to work out if you dont love her and you dont want anything to do with her leave her and pretend that you left with the other women. She will go crazy because she wont be able to find the other women because you made her up. HAA sweet revenge..

[NHBfighter]

Look man this women abvouisly has problems. If she has cheated on you and you still love her you have to be kidden me. You must have balls of steel man!! Look man i understand that she hurt you real bad when you found out about this. And i know that you have thought about revenge. YES REVENGE!!!!!! dont lie man. I know you have. If you honestly dont think that its going to work out anymore play it cool for a while. If she decides to go to counseling and everything and she wants to ger back together play it cool. When she least expects it BANG!!! Cheat on her. This will burn her butt. TRUST ME!!! YOU DONT HAVE TO CHEAT ON HER!!! for real. But make it seem like you have been seeing another women. Smear lipstick on your shirts and buy womens perfume and spray some on your clothes. BE CREATIVE. When she finds out about this she will go crazy and she will realize what she has done for you to take these measures. This will make her jeaolus TRUST ME! Aterthat if you still love her it will make things easier to work out if you dont love her and you dont want anything to do with her leave her and pretend that you left with the other women. She will go crazy because she wont be able to find the other women because you made her up. HAA sweet revenge..

You really are an ignorant human being. I mean clearly the guy is having a problem and you put something this idiotic on here. I am ashamed to even read this. I am sure she will really be upset right? she will more than likely take that to heart and continue cheating even more.

[Sara]

I just found out that my husband is having an affair with his acting instructor. I can understand the world wind of emotions that you are feeling. One minute you are angry, then sad, and numb. I believe at this time you have to stop listening with your heart and start listening with your head. I think that if you are in marriage counseling you are willing to try again. I am worried about never being able to trust again.

[NHBfighter]

LOL@ spamming on a chatcheaters forum

[BillDance]

This is hard, but she doesn’t care, it's not you, it her problem(s).

-Mafia hit. Cold analytical calculated set-up to get you away from her with the full intention of cheating. No sympathy for lost job, no compassion. Some people you just can't change. Cold Cold Heart no amount of therapy can change.

-Pathological detachment for your feelings. No concern that you may think she is kidnapped or murdered when you can't find her. She could have called and lied (meet some girls having fun) but no left you worried sick. Called you with the guy still lying beside her. Her scandalous behavior knows no end. Some people you just can't change. Cold Cold Heart no amount of therapy can change.

-Unrepentant. She joyfully brags to her friend of her conquest. Then continues to lie. Cold Cold heart.


Cunningly manipulated you to get laid. Her disregard for you feeling is astounding, breathtaking, and boundless. Gleeful that she pulled it off, no guilt whatsoever. This is a personality trait that probably cannot be changed. So is the manipulating lying given her joy in planning and pulling it off. It hard to say what's worse about her. Ability to manipulate, pathologic disregard for your feeling or unrepentant joy and satisfaction of her "achievement". Any one of these would be hard for her to control (you can change behavior, desires are much more persistent) but taken together the odds are stacked against you. You rolled caps on this one. She will go down in a cesspool of her own steaming desire.

-Cold Cold heart

That said, I hope I'm wrong and you (actually she -she owns this not you) can work it out. More than likely you will be looking over HER shoulder the rest of your days. Good luck.

[Victoria A.]

If you can handle the truth about what your lover has been so recklessly doing behind your back…if you’re sick and tired of not being able to eat, not being able to sleep, and struggling every day with sadness and uncertainty…

What should you do now?
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[HitMan]

Excellent post.

This is hard, but she doesn’t care, it's not you, it her problem(s).

-Mafia hit. Cold analytical calculated set-up to get you away from her with the full intention of cheating. No sympathy for lost job, no compassion. Some people you just can't change. Cold Cold Heart no amount of therapy can change.

-Pathological detachment for your feelings. No concern that you may think she is kidnapped or murdered when you can't find her. She could have called and lied (meet some girls having fun) but no left you worried sick. Called you with the guy still lying beside her. Her scandalous behavior knows no end. Some people you just can't change. Cold Cold Heart no amount of therapy can change.

-Unrepentant. She joyfully brags to her friend of her conquest. Then continues to lie. Cold Cold heart.


Cunningly manipulated you to get laid. Her disregard for you feeling is astounding, breathtaking, and boundless. Gleeful that she pulled it off, no guilt whatsoever. This is a personality trait that probably cannot be changed. So is the manipulating lying given her joy in planning and pulling it off. It hard to say what's worse about her. Ability to manipulate, pathologic disregard for your feeling or unrepentant joy and satisfaction of her "achievement". Any one of these would be hard for her to control (you can change behavior, desires are much more persistent) but taken together the odds are stacked against you. You rolled caps on this one. She will go down in a cesspool of her own steaming desire.

-Cold Cold heart

That said, I hope I'm wrong and you (actually she -she owns this not you) can work it out. More than likely you will be looking over HER shoulder the rest of your days. Good luck.

[Aaron]

Hi,
Im honestly sorry to hear about your wife! It cuts like a knife, I found myself asking my wife every detail about her sexual experiance with her BOSS. It was 2.5 years ago but gee it hurts just as much. I tend to tred on egg shells these days just so i dont create any tension in the house. She only works part time 5pm-9pm in a call centre as we now have our second child. What really fired me up was today she has after work drinks with work and when i questioned it she say i need to get over it!!!!! Ummm, what do u say to that, she is acting like im the bad guy.

Im interested to chat to people just as a support for when im feeling like crap.

Look forward to messages from everyone.

Regards
Aaron

[Adam Bomb 1701]

Don't bother to try to get back together with her. It will never be the same. My ex put me through a living hell the last two years of our marriage - infidelity, admissions to mental hospitals for "suicidal ideation." Even during our 14 year marriage, my ex never took my side in anything. Even though I'm in a relationship now, I know I will never marry again. It's just not for me.
So Finman, you should let us know what happened. Hope you got rid of her.

(The 2004 movie Along Came Polly has a plot in which the wife [Debra Messing] of the Ben Stiller character cheats on him. On their honeymoon, no less.)

[Saintas]

Yes ! Run like hell .
Your wife is "cold blod murderer ".Manipulative and disregarding your feelings.
Worst . Run. Quick .Don't waste your time with therapy.t Is not the type for this ! and soon you will regrete the time you waste.
I'm sorry for you.
PS Sorry for my bad english.

[MuffinMan]

We are on vacation in Vegas. On our 2nd day there, I receive a phone call from my boss saying that the company has decided to eliminate my position and I will be offered a severance package. "WOW, this is just great" I say to myself. "I am on vacation and I find out I lost my job via a phone call." Trying not to let it spoil my vacation, me and my wife continued our activities. On the last night of our vacation in Vegas, I was playing Poker at a different hotel/casino until late(3:00am). I go back to my room and I find that the lights of our room are on and my wife is not there. I go back down to the Casino in our hotel(that is where we gambled most of the time) and I do not see her anywhere. I call her cell phone and get no answer. I try again and still no answer. I call 10 times and get her voice mail each time. I walk around the casino a half-dozen times thinking she might be in the bathroom, but to no avail, she is nowhere to be found. I call her cell phone again and again and no one answers. At this point I am getting worried. It is now 4:30am on our last night in Vegas and I cannot find my wife. I finally leave a message on her voice mail at 4:40am. I go back to the room, call her cell phone a dozen more times and still no answer. After freaking out for another 2 hours and continuing to call her cell. She calls me at 6:30am. Says she out at the Hard Rock playing video poker with a coupld of the Hotel Security guys she meet at our casino. We have a heated exchange and I hang up on her. She show up 30 minutes later saying she was out dancing and partying and having a good time. I do not believe her, something does not seem right. We argue, she proceeds to pass out and I pack my bags and leave while she is passed out. By this time it is now about 9:00am and I am heading to the airport to catch an earlier flight. She calls about 9:30 and we begin to fight again on the phone. She talks me into coming back to the room and we can have make-up sex. Tired and wanting to believe her, I go back. We have sex and head to the airport together to catch our flight home. We are both exhausted. The next day, while getting ready to go to the office to clean out my desk, I decide to turn on the phone recorder that I purchased a month earlier. I get home that night and listen to the tape. The very first call she makes after I left that morning was to her girlfriend in Florida. She proceeds to tell her how she tricked me into going to play poker to "get my mind off of my job". Then tells her how it is "a free in" when looking for cute guys to talk to, it is much easier in a casino because you can look for the cute ones and then just sit down next to them and gamble. She then proceeded to tell her how she began talking to these two guys and ended up going to the Hard Rock Casino because they had a night club there. After dancing for several hours and making out on the dance floor, the guy she liked suggested getting a room. While in the lobby at the registration desk, she takes her phone out of her purse, checks her voice mail and hears my message. At this point she says it is about 4:45am. She then goes up to the room with the guy and has sex with him. Hears her cell phone ring again at 6:30am and then decides to call me back while in the bed with the other guy.

I am listening to the tape player just aghast with rage. I confront her in bed an hour later. After much denying, she finally admits to it. She also admits to a similar tryst while we were on a business trip in FL a year earlier. Now I am really steamed.

This all took place about a month ago. I cannot get the thoughts and feelings out of my head. I am not sure if our marriage is over or not. We are going to counseling, but I am not sure it is going to work.

If you do not have kids together...then divorce her..plain and simple. You will NEVER trust her again. And she is not worthy of marriage. She will cheat again...she wants sex with other men...PERIOD. Your marriage will never work because she doesn't want the same partner sexually for the rest of her life.
She deserves to be alone.

[MuffinMan]

Hi,
Im honestly sorry to hear about your wife! It cuts like a knife, I found myself asking my wife every detail about her sexual experiance with her BOSS. It was 2.5 years ago but gee it hurts just as much. I tend to tred on egg shells these days just so i dont create any tension in the house. She only works part time 5pm-9pm in a call centre as we now have our second child. What really fired me up was today she has after work drinks with work and when i questioned it she say i need to get over it!!!!! Ummm, what do u say to that, she is acting like im the bad guy.

Im interested to chat to people just as a support for when im feeling like crap.

Look forward to messages from everyone.

Regards
Aaron

Oh no she didn't...she told YOU to get over it? Tell her, "let me go have an affair of my own and see how quickly YOU get over it".
You shouldn't be taking any crap from her at all...and you shouldn't be the one walking on eggshells. SHE is the one that did this to you...not the other way around. YOU should be calling the shots now.
She is acting like YOU are the bad guy? My wife did the same thing.
You shouldn't feel like crap at all. I told my wife that things are gonna change around here. She now knows if she doens't do anything I much approve of, that she will lose her happy home. I don't want to because I want to keep the family together for my kids, but if she even thinks she is going to go back to acting like a college freshman hussy, she has another thing coming.

Don't get down on yourself...SHE is the one that caused this...SHE should be kissing your a$$ bigtime. It amazes me that cheaters act like this.

[MarkR0801]

YOur wife needs more than you can ever give her. She cheats because you are not man enough to hold a job or to satisfy her. While you were playing poker alone she was beeing felt up by complete strangers and eventually spread her legs wide for one. They probably had a quicky right after your call at 6:30. They both laughed about what they had done while you were all alone.

[Skirtchaser]

You really are an ignorant human being. I mean clearly the guy is having a problem and you put something this idiotic on here. I am ashamed to even read this. I am sure she will really be upset right? she will more than likely take that to heart and continue cheating even more.


Glad you didnt charge this guy for this pi.ss poor advice.:p