She went to the other side

[DennisMac]

Hmm... Well I was checking this site out while I was at work tonight. And since I'm home I will tell you my story and hope some of you have some feedback(Please be nice I'm going through enough **** right now).

Well it all started about two weeks ago when my wife went bowling with these two gay girls (both nasty looking). I was supposed to go with but it was late and I didnt want my wife to come all the way home to pick me up so I said "just go without me, you'll have a good time".

Now me and my wife have been going through a rocky part in our marriage. Just recently she was denied a huge promotion at work and we had a miscarrage. So things have been kinda crappy.

After that night she started hanging out with the one by themselves. And one day I noticed a huge change in her attitude. Like day and night. I began to think something was up and started doing a little investigating.

I found that she went as far as she could with this girl. It was concrete when the girl's girlfriend told me. She said "I thought you knew" F#CK. I began to see red. I thought i was having a panic attack, my heart felt like it was going to explode out of my chest.

I was the guy that said one great thing about my wife is that she would never cheat on me. Well I guess I was wrong.

So anyway I gained my composure and started asking questions. Trying to feel her out and if it was just a mistake. But every question I asked was answered with a "I dont know" and "Stop". She stonefaced me and when I even broke down she laughed and said I was crazy for thinking this. Then I told her how I knew and she seemed to get pissed. She completely shut me out no emotion at all except when I would get in her face and make her look at me. Somedays she still will laugh at me when I bring up certain question like did you like it or are you gay.

Its been two weeks now and I have moved out because when I told her I would forgive her and I wanted to work it out, but she had to stop having contact with her. And she said we made a mistake and she is my friend we are still going to hang out. Well I'm not down with that so I left. But I told her when she is willing to commit to me and me only will I come back. She cried hard when I left. Wich was hard to watch because I love this woman with all of my heart.

Well now that Im out it still drives me nuts because she tells me and her parents that she didnt want me to move out and that I over reacted. But on the other hand she tells her sister that she doesnt want me back and is still obssesed with this girl. Friends RIGHT I found out tonight that they are still screwing around. But here is where it get complicated. The 18 year old girl my 25 year old wife is "In Love" with has a fiance(female 20). And this 18 year old has a track record of cheating on her fiance. Three times now. Every time with a straight girl. So I looked at her emails and this girl is just hanging around and saying I love you because of the guilt. When my wife tells the girl to choose she just beats around the bush. She wants her cake and eat it to. In my opinion.

Like I was saying my wife is so F'ed up about this and is acting like a totally different person, My hope is that this girl will eventually leave her alone and my wife can clear her head and find out whats important. And not to mention realize how bad she f%cked up not only our marriage but her family is devistated.

I dont know. I just want my wife back. She called me last night at 1:00am Trashed and stuck at a bar so I called her a cab to bring her to my new place. I thaought to myself why the hell is she calling me. HUH.. I guess she can only count on me. WELL I took her out to lunch today and she was texting the girl while we were eating. I want to help her but it tears me up that its not appreciated. And she doesnt realize that I would give everything away for her.

It is like a sickness she isnt well when she came to my new place i saw cuts all over her stomach. My GOD she used to be so stable like a rock. I think she is addicted to this feeling she gets with something new. And before you ask is she on drugs no. I do think that she is having some kind of breakdown though but she wont talk to me about what she is feeling. But yet she will talk to some 18 year old B!tch that has no clue how to have a healthy relationship or what life is about.

i want her to be happy and not this false sense of happiness she gets from this Piece of $hit lesbo. She keep feeding her this sickness and it only makes her worse. The b!tch needs to let go of my happiness. She is going to end up killing her emotionally.

Listen I know I have been rambling and Im shure I missed alot of details so if anyone has any questions, Advice, or opinions. Please feel free.


Dennis

[Skirtchaser]

I probably should'nt be responding to this, I have a very narrow view on homosexuals. I think it is wrong. But here goes.
Anything a partner has to hide from the other one is wrong. Cheating is cheating any way you look at it. Her health problems and the miscarriage are no reasons for her to cheat on you. What possessed you to let her start hanging out, bowling or associating with them in the first place? Would you have let her go out with a couple of guys to go bowling?
This has all been a matter of her choosing to do the wrong thing, which bottom line is cheating on you. Once it starts it usually doesnt stop. You said you were willing to give up everything for her. That puts you in peril. She already knows this. She has no respect for you or herself. She's broken off communication, that usually kills it everytime. Not what you wanted to hear, but problems like this almost never work out in the end. Save some of the pain and walk away from her. Concentrate on you, It will be hard but break your part of the communication. Get a new phone number and a Lawyer. If her next partner is not fagging, it will be a man she cheats with next time.
I know you won't take my advice and you will continue to struggle to come to her rescue. You'll hang on to the hope that if your nice to her she will come back to you. Good luck.:cool:

[mrmaximum]

Wow, Dennis, that really is the sh!ts!! I remember feeling something like that for an Ex, and she walked all over me for it. I hate to say this but I think it will help you if you hear it. It’s a shame that people, men or women will use that sort of unwavering devotion against us, I loved my ex and put up with all sorts of crap to be with her, your wife is doing the very same to you. She had the audacity to text this lying sl@t right in front of you!!! She is thinking NOWHERE NEAR logically right now, only God knows when she will snap out of it. You know your wife better than anyone of us ever will, the choice is up to you, I bet I won’t be the only one to say that you should dump her cheating ass. Yes she has problems, yes I have no idea the extent of them, you are absolutely right, but that DOESN’T give her the right to cheat on you!! From what you said she is absolutely confused right now, that’s life, and we have heard of people turning their lives upside down trying to get their bearings once more, however, there is ‘cleaning house’ and then there is ‘Thermonuclear Explosion”. This isn’t cool not by a long shot. You have to make the choice for yourself in the end Dennis, but you need to focus on yourself right now to end the pain she has caused whether she is willing to admit it or not!! Good move on moving out, it may be a good idea to keep her away from you until she comes around, stick to your guns, bud :o

[tomasingm]

I care about you and it is truly sad to hear this. I hope for the best but here goes......


That is it, it is all over. She discovered something that you can't compete with. Your a man, the other person is a woman. Also, when she had this lesbian affair with this broad something happened to her, she expereienced something that she hadnt before and obviously enjoyed it. You see if she cheats on you with a guy its because of a void, neglect yada yada yada. But you can do things that the other guy can and win her back. This is different the carpet muncher introduced her into a world that you know nothing about, and a relationship that is different from what you can offer and are about, quitre frankyly 180 degrees different, and the unfortunate part of it is that she really loves it, likes it whatever she is into it. That being said even if you do get back with her, you will not be able to complete her because she will always know that there is muff out there that she wants. Also not only do you have to worry about her cheating again, (most cheaters are repaeat offenders) with a man, now with a woman. You will have twice as many insecurities and it will be impossible to keep her locked up, or build trust, now you have not only men to worry about but women also. Take your pride, take your diginity, take your self-worth and self-repsect, it will hurt, will last months, maybe years. But move on, find a woman that prefers sausage over pink taco, exclusively, and rebuild your life. Also during the divorce on the way out, dont hide anything from her, tell her parents what happened, expose her to her friends and family. She ruined her marriage over tennage muff.......You seem like a really nice guy, you love her alot, but on this woman there is no turning back. Move far away from her if you have to.............Just get away. I wish you the best we are all here for you. Also the next time she calls you up in the middle of the night tell her to call her rug muncher to come get her. If you are moved out divorcing should not be much harder. Good luck and tak care

[mrmaximum]

Print Out Tomasingm's Advice And Post It On Your Mirror,SO YOU CAN SEE IT EVERYDAY!! He Speaks The Truth!!!! Do Yourself A Favor, As Hard As It Is, Do Your Best To Silence The Emotions And Think Logically Or The Pain Will Continue!!!

[markus]

Hi Dennis


Sounds like your wife has lost the plot allowing this tramp to damage your marriage
I cant see this lasting too long .... these ugly little lesbo muff muchers are messed up , they go through relationships like hot cakes
you need to work out what your going to do when she comes back begging for forgiveness
It sounds like you'll have her back and work on repairing your relationship so plan it now
plan on dragging her through twice as much sh't as she put you through
have her in councilling , make her feel ashamed to the extent where she's a bag of nerves
get a hypnotherapist to rid her brain of filth
Thats what im doing to my wife , she's put me through hell and now she's paying the price
My b'tch is not going as far as the shops without asking me if its ok untill she's learned who's the boss ,who pays the bills , who feeds her and our children
and if she dont like that she can pack her bags .... fu'cking little homewrecker
Rant complete :D

[whattodo!!]

Dennismac
I know this is painfully confusing for you, but if you love your wife and want to work it out, don’t tell her family or your friends that will definitely end everything. It sounds like she may wanted to bat with the other team, but this girl is way to young and is going to sleep around with other girls, than just your wife.
Your going to get a lot of different advices and you need to think what is going to be best for you. You need to stay away from her as well as talk to her for a while, she’s only thinking of herself right know. She may realize she doesn’t want this type of lifestyle.
Hang in there, keep us posted.

[Skirtchaser]

Why should he want to keep her dirty laundry from her family.
Dennis you will never be able to trust this woman. Are you really sure that she's not already had an affair with someone else too? You deserve something better than living in this mess. I think she is hiding more than you know and the fact she thinks it's funny, just shows she is a coniving Bi.tch.
I would really be tempted to be real nice to this slu.t she is sleeping with.
Just long enough to sleep with her. Ultimate revenge, Banging your wife's cheating partner.:)
Then kicking both the worthless pieces of shi.t out of your house and life. Your in for a lot of misery if you try to patch things with this one. No Hope.

[whattodo!!]

Skirtcatcher,
I'm just saying that alot of advices are going to come he's way and he going to follow his heart, regarless what we think or what he should do. Yes, she may cheat again, but who know's, we're not in his shoes and we only know one side of the story, we just need to be there for him regarless what he chooses to do!!!!!!! I know your against homosexual or lesbain relationships but life happens!!!!! and we have to learn from it, and I'm one of them!!!

[markus]

Theres nothing wrong with lesbian relationships as long as they share the action - Theres nothing better than being sandwiched between two muffs :D

[Skirtchaser]

If your one of them whattodo, then your advice to him is the least he should hear now. I thought you said no more tacos for you???
Dennis':cool: path is crystal clear. He can follow his heart right into a maze of madness. Pretty soon he will be like Prex.
As for you whattodo, I never mistreat someone who is , But it is something I was raised in believing was wrong. I don't judge, But I don't approve. But then again I guess most people don't give a sh.it bout what ole chaser approves of.
He still is holding out false hopes with his cheater and needs to wash his hands of her.

[Skirtchaser]

Tell the truth, whattodo, I think you have a crush on Markus.:p

[whattodo!!]

Yes,
I do love markus's reply's and they crack me up, who know's we (Markus and I) may bump into each other one day and never know it, :D .
But Dennis needs to read everyone's input, some may be heartfelt, some are just on revenge, he needs to decide. I love you too skirtchaser:p no hard feelings.

[DennisMac]

Hey I really appreciate all the feedback. I just wish this whole situation wasnt so cloudy. My wife came to my place the other day and we had a long talk. She said she wanted to work it out, but she needed some time to forgive herself. She says everytime I look at her she feels that all I am thinking is how much of a wh@re she is and she feels like a piece of sh!t.

The whole conversation went well. It seemed she was trying to open up to me. She doesnt realize that when I look into her eyes I am looking for the woman I married. Not thinking she is a wh@re. I said to her that I will not move back in at the moment(especially back in that house). I said I want to start all over. I want to take her on a date and go from there. If it comes to getting re-engaged. But I am trying not to think that far ahead.

She mentioned that she is not attracted to women and she feels disgusted, but the girl gives her attention and that is something I havent been doing in the past few months. So I owned up to what I did, but I told her that is no justifcation for what she did.

Well she left that night saying that she wouldnt talk to or see this girl anymore. the next morning I recieved a call from that girls girlfriend. Supposedly my wife called the Wh@re and talked to her for like 2 or 3 hours. She mentioned them laughing and she also found text messages from my wife saying Im glad its not over and I love you. And last night she gave her a ride home. (D@MN):mad:

So I want to let go. But I also want to hold onto the hope that this will end and she will snap out of it. Her Father tells me to just hang in there because her whole family is her in town today to see what the heck is up. He tells me that this should open her eyes but.

Like I said I am not just going to take her back if she decides to show that she wants to work this out. I am in full guard and I will not push the issue anymore. I want to see actions not bullsh!t words. So yes I am letting go of pushing the issue, but not the hope for now.:confused:


Thank you all for your concern,

Dennis

[MuffinMan]

Hey I really appreciate all the feedback. I just wish this whole situation wasnt so cloudy. My wife came to my place the other day and we had a long talk. She said she wanted to work it out, but she needed some time to forgive herself. She says everytime I look at her she feels that all I am thinking is how much of a wh@re she is and she feels like a piece of sh!t.

Well she should feel like a piece of sh!t, because she is.

And what is this time to forgive HERSELF sh!t?

The whole conversation went well. It seemed she was trying to open up to me. She doesnt realize that when I look into her eyes I am looking for the woman I married.

Quit looking, she isn't there anymore and never will be.


Not thinking she is a wh@re. I said to her that I will not move back in at the moment(especially back in that house). I said I want to start all over. I want to take her on a date and go from there. If it comes to getting re-engaged. But I am trying not to think that far ahead.

You should not be the one taking her on a date...she need to be bending over backwards for YOU.
Sounds like she has you right where she wants you.

Lemme get this straight, she betrays you, but you are the one making the most effort? Oh no you just didn't tell us that!!!

She mentioned that she is not attracted to women and she feels disgusted, but the girl gives her attention and that is something I havent been doing in the past few months.

First of all, not giving someone attention in just a few months time, or any timeframe for that matter, is absolutely NO excuse for cheating...NONE WHATSOEVER.

Secondly...if she feels she wasn't getting attention and looked elsewhere, why another woman if she isn't attratcted to them?

She is no less of a carpet muncher now than when she was with this other Rosie Odonnell.

So I owned up to what I did, but I told her that is no justifcation for what she did.

You just DID justify it for her. She now knows that if you have lapses of time where things just arent as rosey as she'd like, she can stray again.


Well she left that night saying that she wouldnt talk to or see this girl anymore. the next morning I recieved a call from that girls girlfriend. Supposedly my wife called the Wh@re and talked to her for like 2 or 3 hours. She mentioned them laughing and she also found text messages from my wife saying Im glad its not over and I love you. And last night she gave her a ride home. (D@MN):mad:

So she lied to you already and you are STILL folding like a cheap suit? *sigh* Have we taught you nothing?

So I want to let go. But I also want to hold onto the hope that this will end and she will snap out of it. Her Father tells me to just hang in there because her whole family is her in town today to see what the heck is up. He tells me that this should open her eyes but.

You are going to regret it if you stay with her. If you have kids, then I can see, but if you don't...you WILL regret it later.

Like I said I am not just going to take her back if she decides to show that she wants to work this out. I am in full guard and I will not push the issue anymore.

If youd don't push the issue, she will walk all over you.

I want to see actions not bullsh!t words. So yes I am letting go of pushing the issue, but not the hope for now.:confused:

You want actions? She has already shown you actions. She told you she would not talk to this other woman and then immediately had a 3 hour conversation with her on the phone. It was obviously enough to piss her lovers OTHER lover off to call you on it.

Good luck, but I can see she has total controll and has you right where she wants you...she even has YOU taking HER out on a date like you are courting HER all over again....should be the other way around.

She's playing you like a fiddle.

[mrmaximum]

Dennis, take a good look at the situation, I mean a good LONG look!! Listen to what Muffinman is saying, we aren’t just blowing smoke up your @$$. You need to drop this woman as soon as possible; she is using you because she can. She is being used but this b!tch (and she knows it) and she’s just keeping you around as a backup just in case things don’t work out. Muffin is right!! She f@cks up, and you are taking her out for a date?? Now way man?! You should call her @$$ up and tell her about what you found out and then tell her to ‘get to steppin’!! Read this post, Dennis, SHE DOESN’T DESERVE YOU!! YOU ARE NO-ONES BACKUP PLAN. Stop bending over backwards for her; she should be doing this for you! Dennis, you don’t want a woman like this, hell, even a PERSON like this in your life, they will continue to use you because they know they can. This is going to be harsh but you have to see this for what it really is, this woman is a cancer in your life, AMPUTATE IT!! All she is going to do is string you along for her own whims, you deserve more than that, okay? The woman you married is gone, and from the looks of it, she isn’t coming back. The faster you realize this, the better for you and you need to look out for yourself right now, not someone who doesn’t deserve to even be in your presence. She had her chance, she screwed it up, and she is making things much worse as time goes by. You need to see this for what it really is, okay? Dennis, you deserve so much better than this!! God Bless.

[Skirtchaser]

Some peeps will never learn. Will never listen. When she has his head rolling off the chopping block the last thing his ears will hear is "You should have paid me more attention" :confused:

We were all wrong It guess it was his fault she went out muff diving.

[tomasingm]

Hey I really appreciate all the feedback. I just wish this whole situation wasnt so cloudy. My wife came to my place the other day and we had a long talk. She said she wanted to work it out, but she needed some time to forgive herself. She says everytime I look at her she feels that all I am thinking is how much of a wh@re she is and she feels like a piece of sh!t.

The whole conversation went well. It seemed she was trying to open up to me. She doesnt realize that when I look into her eyes I am looking for the woman I married. Not thinking she is a wh@re. I said to her that I will not move back in at the moment(especially back in that house). I said I want to start all over. I want to take her on a date and go from there. If it comes to getting re-engaged. But I am trying not to think that far ahead.

She mentioned that she is not attracted to women and she feels disgusted, but the girl gives her attention and that is something I havent been doing in the past few months. So I owned up to what I did, but I told her that is no justifcation for what she did.

Well she left that night saying that she wouldnt talk to or see this girl anymore. the next morning I recieved a call from that girls girlfriend. Supposedly my wife called the Wh@re and talked to her for like 2 or 3 hours. She mentioned them laughing and she also found text messages from my wife saying Im glad its not over and I love you. And last night she gave her a ride home. (D@MN):mad:

So I want to let go. But I also want to hold onto the hope that this will end and she will snap out of it. Her Father tells me to just hang in there because her whole family is her in town today to see what the heck is up. He tells me that this should open her eyes but.

Like I said I am not just going to take her back if she decides to show that she wants to work this out. I am in full guard and I will not push the issue anymore. I want to see actions not bullsh!t words. So yes I am letting go of pushing the issue, but not the hope for now.:confused:


Thank you all for your concern,

Dennis


sigh*

You can not tell some one something they dont want to hear. Consider this a loss cause.

[DennisMac]

Ok guys I need help. I have been putting myself out there for her and its obvious that she is ashamed and feels like **** for what she has done. I was with her last night and when she dropped me off I made one last attempt to try to get through to her. She wept and I wept but I wept because I want her back but she was weeping because when she sees me she cant forgive herself and she is also not willing to stop what she is doing.She seems to just want to forget me so she can live with herself. So I am going to takeyour advice and stop this torture. But I am going to need some support I have been saying that I am done for the past couple of days but yet I called her last night and hung out with her. So If you can point me in the right direction for help.(i dont have insurance for councling). I need to get past this and I also dont want to be bitter or hate her. I just want to move on. I am starting to scare myself with these thoughts of helplesness and doom. I just want them to go away. And realize how good of a man I am. And maybe someday meet a woman that will apreciate the love I have to give. But for now I need like day by day help just to get me through. So I hope you guys will be here for me because I cant do this alone.

Dennis

[mrmaximum]

Although I can't point in you in the right direction, I still wanted to take the time to pat you on the back. what you did took b@lls man, it's obvious that you have some very strong feelings for your wife and you reconize the fact that you need assitance. I'm sorry that I can't offer any more help but you are in my thoughts and prayers Dennis. I'm sure that the more experienced guys like Muffin, Shirtchaser and Markus will give you the advice you need. Keep a stiff upper lip man!!:o

Good luck and God Bless :)

[Skirtchaser]

Yes we are here for you dennis. I don't try to give one false hope. Your last post here says it all. She is not willing to change.
You don't deserve this dennis. There are good women out there who will treat your right and not cheat on you. I am living proof. Take my word. All you have to do is find that special one. She won't tell you she is not willing to change. I promise you. Takes a lot of courage to pick up and leave someone you feel deeply for. One thing for sure, You can't make a person love you.
Don't waste your time on this one dennis. Keep us posted. Move forward. Be a little selfish for a little while and worry about yourself. You have earned it my friend. Hang in things will get better. Only you can do this. good luck.

[MuffinMan]

But for now I need like day by day help just to get me through. So I hope you guys will be here for me because I cant do this alone.

Dennis

We will be here for you Dennis....we have all been there...I have cried my tears, my tears turned to anger/rage, and eventually it turned into me not caring anymore.
I only stay in the marriage, which is so so, because of my children. Some people will say thats stupid, but I'll be damned if a cheater will keep me from seeing my kids EVERY day, not just every other weekend.

But we will be here. I am a lost cause because I found out way too late, but if you don't have kids with this woman, it isn't too late for you.

Oh and one other thing, if you get out there and find another woman, and you want to know if she is cheating...the most obvious sign I have experienced is if they all of a sudden become obsessed with losing weight and working out, and you aren't getting any sex. That is a sure sign. She is wanting to look good naked....but with some other guy.

[MarkR0801]

I'm reading between the lines and sense that what you really want is to join your wife and her new lover in bed. Why don't you just be honest that this excites you and tell your wife what you really want.

[MuffinMan]

Why don't you just be honest that this excites you and tell your wife what you really want.

Why don't you just shut the f#ck up. If you want to live some 3-some fantasy that you'll never have...go somewhere else and get it.

[DennisMac]

Well that guy two up is a ****....

I just got on here to tell you guys that I went back to the house today with the cheetee's girlfriend. I went there with the ententions of getting my sh!t and hearing what she had to say with all four of us there. And she re-established my drive to move on. I got my sh!t, and broke stuff...lol. And I feel kinda good that all my tools and stuff are out of there. Plus now I have that complete closure. I guess I will take it slow from now on and really think about life changing decisions like marriage next time.

[Saintas]

It is sad what happend to you. I believe from now you must to focus on yourself. Your wife was part of your life , not your life . Take it slow, go out with your friends , try to have some fun. Sometimes life is a B***H , but I am sure that good times will folow for you. Focus on you by now, let her to live her life and make a new one for you.

[tomasingm]

I dunno where you are from but if you want to PM me a grou p of us guys hang out go hunting, etc. Every once in a while if you ever need some one to talk to we are ALL here for you. Forget about the trolls that come one this site for attention. It is hard to go at this alone, many of us have been there. WE ARE HERE FOR YOU. Hold your head up high my friend this is NOT your fault.

[Adam Bomb 1701]

Your mistake was in moving out. You shouldn't have done that, especially if you own a house. What should have happened is that she should have moved out. If you get divorced, you would have a better standing if she was the one who moved out. Now, she can claim abandonment.
Like you said, she wants to have her cake and eat it too (don't they all?) Get rid of her. She'll never get past the girl; why should you suffer?

[Ravage]

Hey Dennis I followed your sitch and you came out alright I thought you would be a quivering mess. But you got to be strong one day your soon to be ex-wife is gonna want to reconcile with you, she'll claim she 'll make it up and she wasnt thinking, blah , blah,

Stay resolved. Go out and date other chicks but file for divorc before you do. And also if you purchased the house together and your name is on the mortgage or the deed force the sale, through a lawyer and get half. Let her buy your ass out, if it's your house too.

It's gonna be hard but you stay up, some women are just ****ing crazy and she doesnt know what she wants. Also she's what 25? and your young too right, trust me by next year you aint gonna be thinking about her at all.

Get your paper right and get some gorgeous women to roll with, you'll be fine.

As always: Do what must be done...

[mrmaximum]

Hey Dennis I followed your sitch and you came out alright I thought you would be a quivering mess. But you got to be strong one day your soon to be ex-wife is gonna want to reconcile with you, she'll claim she 'll make it up and she wasnt thinking, blah , blah,

Stay resolved. Go out and date other chicks but file for divorc before you do. And also if you purchased the house together and your name is on the mortgage or the deed force the sale, through a lawyer and get half. Let her buy your ass out, if it's your house too.

It's gonna be hard but you stay up, some women are just ****ing crazy and she doesnt know what she wants. Also she's what 25? and your young too right, trust me by next year you aint gonna be thinking about her at all.

Get your paper right and get some gorgeous women to roll with, you'll be fine.

As always: Do what must be done...

Awesome advice and completely true!! Dennis she may just realize what she threw away and come crawling back on her slimy belly asking for another chance. My ex did the very same thing 5 years later. Her life had pretty much gone to sh!t after I left and it was pretty apparent that she would have sold her soul to get back with me. I swear I saw her twitch when I told her about my fiancée. Ravage is right though, she hurt you horribly and since she is so young, she has no idea what she has done. You will bounce back and I believe she will regret it;)

[DennisMac]

Good thing is we rented and we just finished our lease in sept. The landlords never had us sign a new lease so I am free and clear as that goes. As of getting a divorce she can friggin pay for it.

On another note I have been getting some wierd emails from someone that doesnt want to be know. I could take a very good guess at who it is though. Here is a copy of what was sent to me. Its kinda pathetic that my estranged wife or maybe some random person (who knows) keeps wanting to **** with my head.

dont give up. she talks to me. you talk to people i know. you two are meant to be together. just like the other two girls are meant to be together. she feels like she doesnt deserve you. she feels like she doesnt deserve anything. it is really sad. she puts on a good front, but really she is dying inside. you need to go to her. you and jacqueline need to go to them. go together. both of you. go to amandas house and get them back. that is what everyone wants deep down inside but you all are being dumb about this. amanda is your wife. dont forget that. i know she loves you because she has told me. she doesnt need to tell me though because i know it just as you do. she feels like what she has done is too much for her to handle. she is worried about what your family will think of her and she is hiding. you know her better thank anyone does. she needs you and you know that. this hasnt gone too far yet, but it will if you dont stop it. she is hiding from life and i cannot stand to let her keep doing it. she is hurting and she wants you back. very bad. go to her. comfort her. be there for her. do not make her come to you because it will not happen! she is terrified. she has no idea what is going on. please take my advice. get a hold of jacqueline and together go get them back. they are only together because they feel like they deserve each other and nothing else. so please take my advice. i care about amanda deeply and i want her to be happy as im sure you do too. you can write back to me if you want. i wasnt planning on making any other attempts to contact you. ive tried calling both of you and that hasnt helped. so please, help amanda. she loves you. and i love her. so please go to her! soon! before you regrete it! i wish you luck. i will be watching from afar and i wish you 4 the best of luck. but most of all i wish you dennis and amanda the very best that life has to offer. god bless.




Pretty crazy huh? I think I am stuck in high school again..

Dennis

[Ravage]

Okay sounds to me like someone wants you to stay together? possibly one of her best friends or this could be the OW's girlfriend in disguise trying to amp you up. It's nice to know that her friends want to see you back together but as a man you dont have to put up with no disrespect. If she wants to come back she has to want to come back period. You should force the matter. If she does want to be married she would make every attempt to be married.

When does a person automatically forget they have a sposue at home? I mean does she honestly believe this relationship with this girl can honestly work out. It is a fantasy plain and simple. how are they gonna support one another? The OW is only 18! and besides why would an 18 year old want to be in a LTR with a woman who was already married? If she'll cheat on her husband she'll cheat on you stupid.

Dennis I'm praying you stay away from this woman and dont dwell on her anymore she's a lost cause. Especially if you dont have any kids. I know it hurts because your watching your dreams for the future slip away, and all the unrealized promises and things you made to each other. But this could be fate you know. This could be your new path in life who knows? maybe it wasnt meant to be.

I know that any woman worth her self worth would have put her own marriage abover her own self-endulgence. Every spouse has an opportunity t cheat but it's resisting the temptation that makes you strong and makes your marriage worthwhile. Dont be weak...

[tomasingm]

Quit playing games, man up and mov eone with your life.......This is High school crap and form the sound of it you are enjoying it. Screw everybody, get your life back find a real comwan that loves C-ock and only c-ock and rebuild your life. BE A GROWN UP FOR GODS SAKE.

[mrmaximum]

HAH, if I where you and I got a message like that from my EX, or someone that knew her, I’d be smiling, I admit it. However, remember one very important thing. It’s not you that walked away, it’s her. Just like Ravage said, she disrespected you, herself, and her vows by screwing with this other woman. She’s shown her true colours, and she isn’t worth having. Dennis, I can’t imagine what you are feeling right now, it must really suck being in your position, but Tomasing is right, man up, join a gym, or better yet take up martial arts, I read somewhere it's one of the better ways to forget an ex, especially one that wronged you. Keep this in mind, YOU where the honorable one, and the only person who will live to regret anything is your SOON TO BE EX WIFE!!! You deserve better than her, honestly, you do. NEVER forget this fact:)

Good Luck and God Bless