Wife's Been Cheating!

[Bdart]

To all members,

I am new here and have been hurting. On Aug 10th my wife told me she was leaving me. She said that were just two different people. We have been married for 7.5 years and have two children together. What tipped me off to her infidelity was a cell phone bill for $696.00!! I got on the net and got an itemized list of her phone records and in one months time, made or received 477 calls for almost 5000 minutes. They also texted each other and she sent him picture messages. She sent him one at 2:31 in the morning. I asked her what in the world kind of picture she would be sending this guy at that time and she said probably a wedding cake!! She has denied that she has been cheating, but I'm not stupid!!

Please make comments freely.

[elainegayla]

yea, right. She is cheating.

[MuffinMan]

Well bud...at least she is ending it. If she is doing these things with another man, then there isn't much you can do to make her have the hots for you again.
My wife cheated long ago and ended it before I could find out, but I found out 7 years later anyway. So I believe she has not cheated in that time, but I still don't trust her.

In your situation, she is openly cheating....and the fact that you asked her what the hell kind of pictures she'd be sending at 2:30am and she said, "wedding cake"??? What a b!tch. This woman is truly a cunnt!!!
She is damn right the two of you don't have anything in common...you sound like a great guy, she sounds like a heartless dirtbag.

Since you have 2 kids...it isn't easy. But, if she was this way to me and was going to divorce me anyway, I'd play dirty...use her cheating to your advantage in court. Get FULL custody of your kids...your kids don't need to be raised by someone so heartless and morally bankrupt.
Smearing her in court with her cheating and evidence...(get that cell bill) won't help you financially as far as splitting the marital assets, but it can help with custody.

Get your kids man...they need you more than they need someone who didn't give 2 sh!ts about f#cking up her family and their home.

[Bdart]

Muffin Man,

Get this. I also found a letter she had written to this loser in her night stand next to our bed. I also found out that when I had the children she would go and spend the night at this losers house!! I've got my car over there on video tape!! I also got the cell phone she was using and discovered some voicemails this jerk left!!

[prex]

Keep your cool, brother, keep your cool. Wait. Gather more evidence. She's too stupid to hide it, or doesn't care. She's doing this because she doesn't respect you and it excites her to step on you. I'm telling you to just wait, and, one day, the opportunity will present itself for ultimate revenge.

But make this bytch own up to her responsibilites. She brought your two brats screaming into the world, she should have to help raising them, and not just money. Every cheating scumbag has a responsible, faithful, mate inside them. You just have to do whatever is necessary to set that person free. Torture, blackmail, violence, lawsuits, whatever. Be flexible. Adapt, overcome, improvise. Make her your bytch again. Then you can do whatever you want to her.

Life is about choices, and having as many choices and options as you want. When an option is closed off to you, it hurts and is depressing. You want the chance to cheat on her, get rid of her, not the other way around. Right right? Right right.

[prex]

"Should you hit your wife after she admits cheating?"

Pay particular attention to my posts. You can't let her do this to you. SHe already thinks you're a pvssy in the first place, otherwise she wouldn't be cheating on you. So, confront her again, watch her lie to you, imagine her svcking on this other guy's crusty dyck as she looks up into his eyes, and then bytch slap this lying cvnt right to the pavement. And then call the cops and say she attacked you. See what a little jail time does for her.

[Skirtchaser]

:cool: Hey Prex, why would he want her back. It's always the same, new posts want to gather more evidence. When it's there it's there. Gathering more evidence is just giving things more time while secretly hoping they will work out. I know some stay or get back together for the children's sake, I admire these people for their committment to their kids. I stayed with my first wife till the kids were in their teens, 18 years of misery. Most of them for the childrens sake. I will tell you this, looking back, it would have been better to cut the ties and start over. The kids remaining in the house came to live with me. I met a woman later that became a true mom to them. Im still with her. 13 years. After getting out of the misery, I can tell you this. I did not realize how miserable I was untill I got away from her. I wasted years that I could have been rebuilding a life for me and my kids. Each one of has to walk in their own paths, but I believe you should move on. Find some happiness. I am living proof of the advice I give. There is life out there afterwards. Believe me. I wish you luck. Keep us posted here. Your not alone.

[Skirtchaser]

Oh yea, BDART, If someone named Chelsea posts for you, dont listen to her. She is full of shi.t. She will try to justify the cheating by asking you what you were or were not doing for this cheater. Don't pay her no mind. She kinda sounds like one of those cheap counslers, They tell you the same thing. You are the victim, She had no right to cheat on you. You are better off without her. I hope you read this post Chelsea. :p

[Bdart]

Skirtchaser,

All the people in the world could tell me it's my fault, but I know the real truth. It comes down to integrity and making a promise before God and man. When someone breaks that vow of marriage for just any trivial reason, there are dire consequences that that have to be reaped. I was faithful to my wife and now can scripturally get a divorce and remarry if I choose. I can forgive my wife, but will never forget. Oh, by the way, guess where my wife met this jabroni? Where she goes to church!!

[MuffinMan]

Muffin Man,

Get this. I also found a letter she had written to this loser in her night stand next to our bed. I also found out that when I had the children she would go and spend the night at this losers house!! I've got my car over there on video tape!! I also got the cell phone she was using and discovered some voicemails this jerk left!!

Keep all of this evidence and make sure your lawyer has it. And get a lawyer with a reputation of fighting dirty.

[MuffinMan]

Oh yea, BDART, If someone named Chelsea posts for you, dont listen to her. She is full of shi.t. She will try to justify the cheating by asking you what you were or were not doing for this cheater. Don't pay her no mind. She kinda sounds like one of those cheap counslers, They tell you the same thing. You are the victim, She had no right to cheat on you. You are better off without her. I hope you read this post Chelsea. :p

Skirt is 100% correct. Don't EVER listen to Chelsea. She thinks cheating is a right. A pure entitlement princess b!tch.

[prex]

WHy want the cheater back? To totrture them, why else? However, be aware what you consider torture they consider being polite. So bring your "A" game. Typically, a narcissistic mindfvcker appears very emotional and vulnerable.

They are, however, about as vulnerable as a velocoraptor in the tall grass. Physical pain works with everyone, however the cheater is drawn to it because it makes them feel deep emotions sometimes, a quality they are typically bereft. Hound them and put them down nonstop. If they make movements to leave, lay on guilt heavy: Why, you never left while they lacerated your emotions?! Making sure friends and family know of the betrayal leashes their natural and overwhelming desire to jettison you. They cannot let the villagers know there is a monster in their midsts. This will justify flight to fantasy cheating land once again, where you can make the smooth transition of easing your symbiotic cheating parasite on to its next host.

[MuffinMan]

WHy want the cheater back? To totrture them, why else?

LOL...just like in this article I found on the web a year ago.
I don't condone what was in it, but it sure made me feel good to read it!!

http://www.badsamaritan.com/archives/2001/04/bad_advice_this_cheating_heart.php

[Cosmic_Jihad]

HA HA that badsamaritan post was funny:) :) :) :)