confession

[Chrissie]

my bf and I have been together for allmost a year in April. we are expecting a baby aug. 28. about a month ago I had to go back home to colorado for awhile. when I came home he was acting real strange. I was real suspicious about him cheating on me anyway just a gut feeling I geuss. he was being real mean to me and getting mad when I asked him about if he cheated saying I probably did and whatever other stuff guys say to turn it around. he wanted to stay real busy never sit down and relax. to make a long story short we were upstairs at his grandmas house (she dosent live there we kind of do) and one of the beds was messed up I went in the room and found his hat on the floor I calmly picked it up and said here is your hat babe. he came up to me kissed me and said I love u. I just walked downstairs he knew I was mad and kept saying are u ok? whats wrong? I told him he knew what was wrong and that he would probably get mad if I said anything. then I said tell me the truth did you cheat on me. he started crying and confessed to sleeping with another girl.I geuss he went to the bar some girl hit on him (that happends a lot to him) and he didnt tell her he had a girlfriend. said he woke up naked the next morning confussed and full of guilt never got her number hasent talked to her since and dident intent to Im sure.I freaked out and was going to leave him. I will not tolerate cheating even if I suspect it I dont want to stay in that kind of situation of allways looking like the crazy one. well like I said we our expecting a baby so that changes things. we ended up working it out the only reason I stayed was because he was honest and Im pregnant. he has allways been very honest with me about everything and he felt gulty it hurt him to see me hurt that was very obvious it appeared he learned his lesson. Im very confident he wont cheat when Im home well Im out of town again hes going to move here with me in a month since for certain reasons I cant be home for awhile. he has been calling me all the time he still gos out with his friends tells me all about his night the next day but of course I still wonder. If anybody has any advice Id love to here it.

[tdhg]

A man with his first baby coming starts acting out anyway. Men feel that having a baby is the end of the road and the sense of responsbility it will bring usually overwhelms them emotionally. They see their girl friends as their mothers...REALLY...they start behaving as if you are their parent and any unresolved issues that brings to the table remain until addressed...BY THEM...which usually isn't until after their 50's. They have not been raised to see family as desirable. These days with so many rotten male role models either personally known or celebrity it isn't surprising the country has a 60% divorce rate.

Don't be foolish and waste your life. You now have to think about the baby. That is goal one. Can you be financially independent? If not then start getting there. Go back to school....it will be hard but believe me it is the gospel truth it is harder the older you get. I only gets uglier and meaner. They become better liars. What I find ironic is that the more dishonest they become the less self esteem they have and the more they feel the need to bolster it with new partners.

You would not of posted this if you did not have a good moral foundation. A cheater will drag your morals, self esteme, and every thing else thru the mud. You become a slave to the fear. Winston Church hill said that we have nothing to fear but fear itself... Constantly dealing with the suspision isn't going to help you raise your child right. Trust your instincts but prepare.

[frostymanadvice]

It never ceases to amaze me how women tend to bend for a man even when they know he's no good for you. Now I understand your pregnant but that is NOT an excuse for staying with someone who obviously is waning on his responsibilities which is getting ready to be a father. If he truly was sorry he wouldn't be going out with his friends and be home with you. This is like saying, "I am not going to use drugs anymore but I'm still hanging out with my friends who use them."

Look lady do yourself a favor and focus on you not him. By you forgiving him now, he will know you are weak and will forgive anything as long as the baby is involved. Something triggrered his cheating and it has to do with your emotional connection with him. It is so fragile that unfortunately chances are he will do it again. The reason he was sorry is b/c your carrying his child. If you weren't pregnant he wouldn't care less. Sad to say this relationship, unless he turns around and realizes his faults, is headed for heartbreak again.

Frosty

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[Allie]

:( :( My bf I was seeing for bout almost 1 year well he started calling some gurl he met on the ineternet but he sed he knew this gurl from work I need some help what should I do?

[wtcs]

The fact that you are pregnant should have made him even more responsible.

Dawn