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Cheryl
03-27-2006, 05:50 PM
:o Hi, everyone.
I'm new to this group so just bare with me. My name is Cheryl & I'm a mother of 6 wonderful children. I've been married for almost 8yrs as of Aug. & have known my husband for alnost 10yrs. As of 1999 or better yet, since then, my husband has been caught numerous times cheating. It's like , every year it's a tradition for him. But anyhoo, the reason why I'm not with him is becauseI thought I could trust him. Until the year of 2004, on "Sweetest day", I was in the hospital with my son during his recovery from a surgery. Well, the next day or so, it clicked into my head that he's out of area to the point he can't make or receive calls . So, I've called his cell ph. & good thing that I've remembered his password but my heart jumped out as soon as I heard some female's voice asking if they were still on for that night. She didn't leave a name till about a couple of hours & she had left him another message & left her name. I was devistated . Well, I thought I could bite my tongue to see how long he thought he could get away with it but unfortunately, when he came walking in, I asked him where he was going tonight. He said nowhere, "why?" Then I had asked him who "Sue" was. Of course, he lied & really got snippy. So, I told him fine, & that if his phone rings, I want to answer it. Well, that night, she had called. Of course I got to answer it. I answered it & brought his cell ph. down to the comp room which is in basement & asked her questions. I told her that I was his sister until I caught her in a lie. But anyhoo, after I hung up, I wrote her phone number down & gave him his phone back. Thats when things were pretty scarry. He got violent & I mean real violent. Then we moved/bought our own house. Situations now haven't really changed besides his his bark is worse than his bite, for now. Unfortunately, I'm still with him. I'm also looking for a job & still notta. For some odd reason, he's gonna actually let me out to get job(probably thinking he's gonna get my check like he's done in the past). But anyhoo, there's a whole lot to this horrifying ordeal that I've been through & still have to be careful not to get caught "telling".

Mandi
03-27-2006, 06:00 PM
i dunno how you put up wit all that u deserve a medal!! im jus new here to an i only think my fiance is cheating. i really wudnt put up wit dat!!! i have a son of my own and thought it was really goin 2 bond us but quite the opposite! i kno u prob feel u cant get away coz of ur kids but seriously hes nt a gd role model! mayb with such experience u cud help me??
was confident and very outgoing but these last two years with my fiance has jus tore me down to a shy quiet and very unconfident little girl. It started 6 months into r relationship he got txts on his fone saying "hi fun guy 1801 just thought id try txtin u rply sn xxx" now his bday is 18/01/1977 and hes very outgoing but he said he leant the fone to a workmate and they mustva bn for him but i had my doubts as we just got the net a few weeks b4. Then i caught him fonin up babestation and chatbox off the telly he admitted to this an said he was bored (3 nites running???) and that he was jus lookin for friends nt women and now we bought a house and got the net here and on his google there was history of date sites and **** sites the **** i cud deal wit but these dates sites are belfast (close to where we live) and casual meet and sex within a day things and tonite he had to work an extra night shift while i found out about these! he completely denied knowing nething about them and said thy must be a mistake. hes also made many trips to aol.com an i think he may have an email add there!

am i overreacting or taken for an idiot????

please help tell me wot u think im goin stir crazy!!

Cheryl
03-27-2006, 08:14 PM
Hi,
I just want to say is: you aredefinately not overreacting & no, you are not an idiot. Thats just what these "men" want us to think. My husband said the same thing about just lookin for friends. Girl,thats B.S. what these guy's are putting us through. My "husband" had single ad profiles here online that I had found & printed out. The 1st time I suspected him of cheating, his brother's friend's wife helped me set him up. LoL, he went to meet "rose" (Me) at Target & I came up behind him, tapped him on the shoulder & asked him if he was here waiting for a "Rose" & he said yes as he turned around & saw that it was me. Then he asked me what I was doing there & I just came out & asked him what was he doing there. his reply was looking at stereo's for our bedroom, & thats when I told him he is BUSTED. He denied it all in the store until I told him we need to step outside to discuss this. Then he started yelling outloud, blaming me, that it was all my fault, in front of a crowd of people. I felt so humiliated & hurt. We had printed out copies of the conversation we had with him also. Most ofit he's either doing it on line or on his cell phone , american singles ads & a whole bunch more. I'll be glad to help you through this & whatever. It's nice to know that there's people such as us that either went through it or are stuck going through it, but sucks real bad to know that we all are basically going throughsomething that none of us deserve. So, feel free to vent, cause we always need someone out there to be there. You've got a friend here, no matter what.
Stay strong & keep in
touch;
Cheryl

silly silly girl
03-31-2006, 02:15 AM
Hi cheryl,

i dont know if you read the thread i put up yesterday but i feel in the same boat as you do - if you read my thread, you will see that he had a gift delivered by a woman that i hid - anyway he asked yesterday if any parcels came and i said no- why, are you waiting for something? to which he siad yes, it was a componenet that was light sensitive and could not be opened (a light sensitive teddy & Chocs? I dont think so!) and he said it would be from a certain place! i am also scared of telling and i know that people will think i am an eejit for putting up with it for so long.

He is in the UK next week and so i am planning to find out if she is with him - if so, then i will tell him never to come back again - i am full of hope that i wil find that strength.

It is hard to imagine someone else feeling this raw pain, isnt it, but girl, we have to stick together, laugh and cry together and have faith in god above that there may be a few decent men out there. Stay strong - dont let him be violent with you as his way of coping with the guilt - i have been there and they have to deal with their feelings of being found out in a way that doesnt punish you more than you already have been

stay strong hun
x