gman
10-25-2006, 07:00 AM
:(
Hi guys,
*takes a huge deep breath*
Yup as you can see from the title of thread, the worst has happened and am feeling very low and sad. I know you all have heard numerous stories and well i thought it was only me but having looked thru this site, i guess im not.
i think i'll keep it kind of short... Well i been married for 3 and half years, girlfriend before and known her for total of 6 years. We come from sikh background, had the turmoil of getting married cos caste systems, came over that, with families not having it and now are the best of buddies. Also had the troubles of my family and herself not getting on but now are on a level. She doesnt talk to her bro and sis but is cool with her mum dad, so you could say a very tough time ish and well this has come along.
And to make matters worse, and i can hear you all say "how come im still with her" is that we still havent made love *cries* well she's like when we decide to have kids then that'll be the time. Yeah we have a healthy oral sex marriage, but i mean is that it.
Well, about this time last year, i had my suspicions and she well was on the phone texting non stop, so one day i looked at ther phone and saw text messages saying "i want to sleep with you" from one person and then another text mssg saying "i love you" both from different ppl. I confronted her and she said this guy was hassling her and that this other guy helped her out by saying he was her lover by saying "i love you" confused??well i was for sure. Well we argued and shouted and well i was asking her to come back to me. Stupid me! Then i thought well lets just see. She decided to keep her phone always on her, never let it out of her sight. I called this guys number 2 weeks later only for her to pick up the phone. yeah i know.
Then i let it be, i thought id catch her out. Over the months i managed to get hold of her mobile phone bill, constantly texting and phoning one number. She became distant, we never kissed, never hugged, she never replied to me when i said "I love you" Then another number came up on her bill, the bill becoame really expensive, at time up to 300 pounds. I called these guys numbers, always hung up. i was fed up. really angry, blood would boil. She'd then readress bill to her work, even her bank statments. Then she began to leave her phone under her pillow and that when i thought she's cheating for sure. Saw messages that would kill a pperson, well its killed me. Her phone went on the blink and she changed her sim card, i managed to sneek the sim card from her bag and transferred her sent messages to my phone...as follow are her messages to this guy:
"Morn lovely. I miss u 2 i want u and need u in my life. Wish i had woken up next to u xx"
"sorry for the lack of txt mssgs been out all day. want be with u forever. i thought about our weding conversation2day and it made me smile in my heart. i love you honey always x"
now wouldnt that make anyone blood boil, reading it now makes me sick.
Well i try so hard and thick yeah i can still make a go of this.But no such luck for me. Yeah i would see her panties, so dirty and yeah she'd come home , work late, and go straight in to shower or bath. Yeah even to the point of i would see her naked. I would see her pubic hair down below, all the tell tale signs are there as she's got this damn design going on.
Well last month it was our 4th anniversary and we went to barcelona, was really nice, she seemed so different. Then we got back and via work she's been away for the past few months and then she had to go again i was like ok. But when she came back i sneeked at her suitcase to find some lingeire, that hadnt been used and now she;'s hidden away from me and the most gut wrnching moment was that i found that she's on the pill, yup and had been since we got back from barcelona.
Im virtually dead inside now, im fed up and dont know what to do, i wanna leave her and finsih it. I wanna find out more but am scared...just feel weak need help ...pls....:(
Hi guys,
*takes a huge deep breath*
Yup as you can see from the title of thread, the worst has happened and am feeling very low and sad. I know you all have heard numerous stories and well i thought it was only me but having looked thru this site, i guess im not.
i think i'll keep it kind of short... Well i been married for 3 and half years, girlfriend before and known her for total of 6 years. We come from sikh background, had the turmoil of getting married cos caste systems, came over that, with families not having it and now are the best of buddies. Also had the troubles of my family and herself not getting on but now are on a level. She doesnt talk to her bro and sis but is cool with her mum dad, so you could say a very tough time ish and well this has come along.
And to make matters worse, and i can hear you all say "how come im still with her" is that we still havent made love *cries* well she's like when we decide to have kids then that'll be the time. Yeah we have a healthy oral sex marriage, but i mean is that it.
Well, about this time last year, i had my suspicions and she well was on the phone texting non stop, so one day i looked at ther phone and saw text messages saying "i want to sleep with you" from one person and then another text mssg saying "i love you" both from different ppl. I confronted her and she said this guy was hassling her and that this other guy helped her out by saying he was her lover by saying "i love you" confused??well i was for sure. Well we argued and shouted and well i was asking her to come back to me. Stupid me! Then i thought well lets just see. She decided to keep her phone always on her, never let it out of her sight. I called this guys number 2 weeks later only for her to pick up the phone. yeah i know.
Then i let it be, i thought id catch her out. Over the months i managed to get hold of her mobile phone bill, constantly texting and phoning one number. She became distant, we never kissed, never hugged, she never replied to me when i said "I love you" Then another number came up on her bill, the bill becoame really expensive, at time up to 300 pounds. I called these guys numbers, always hung up. i was fed up. really angry, blood would boil. She'd then readress bill to her work, even her bank statments. Then she began to leave her phone under her pillow and that when i thought she's cheating for sure. Saw messages that would kill a pperson, well its killed me. Her phone went on the blink and she changed her sim card, i managed to sneek the sim card from her bag and transferred her sent messages to my phone...as follow are her messages to this guy:
"Morn lovely. I miss u 2 i want u and need u in my life. Wish i had woken up next to u xx"
"sorry for the lack of txt mssgs been out all day. want be with u forever. i thought about our weding conversation2day and it made me smile in my heart. i love you honey always x"
now wouldnt that make anyone blood boil, reading it now makes me sick.
Well i try so hard and thick yeah i can still make a go of this.But no such luck for me. Yeah i would see her panties, so dirty and yeah she'd come home , work late, and go straight in to shower or bath. Yeah even to the point of i would see her naked. I would see her pubic hair down below, all the tell tale signs are there as she's got this damn design going on.
Well last month it was our 4th anniversary and we went to barcelona, was really nice, she seemed so different. Then we got back and via work she's been away for the past few months and then she had to go again i was like ok. But when she came back i sneeked at her suitcase to find some lingeire, that hadnt been used and now she;'s hidden away from me and the most gut wrnching moment was that i found that she's on the pill, yup and had been since we got back from barcelona.
Im virtually dead inside now, im fed up and dont know what to do, i wanna leave her and finsih it. I wanna find out more but am scared...just feel weak need help ...pls....:(