"Its my friends phone #"

[lybra975]

Have u heard that one before?? Well here is mine. I find a # on his phone that he called at midnight. I called it the next day and find it is another girl. We start texting each other and she acts like she doesnt know who I am talking about cuz as she says "i talk to a lot of guys". Well my bf and I confront each other about it and his excuse is that his friends # is long dist. so he gave him his wifes #. So i decided to ask him about when he called the # the day before. Of course he denied even callling it. I was ready to end the relationship cuz as they say "once a cheater, always a cheater", I was done. He got all pissed off knowing that i had gone through his phone and said he didnt need to put up with this crap. Well of course he comes back and appologizes for his attitude and reassures me that he will never cheat on me. What he doesnt know is that me and her have been texting each other for the last 2 weeks. I was noticing she would text him everyother day, which is unnecessary! Finally she admitted that she worked with him. I asked her why he was calling so late that one night and if they were just co-workers, why did he have to lie about who the # was for. I have male friends that I work with and have a friend only relationship. Plus if he ever asked me about them I would be more than happy to tell him who they are. I tried to make it clear to her that I am not going anywhere so she better not have any high hopes with him. I dont think anything has happened yet between them and if he is smart, he wont let it happen!! So for the time being he keeps his phone locked (not hiding anything huh?) She told me that no man is worth that kind of hassle and she will keep me up to date.

[Jules]

This situation you're describing kinda reminds me of something that happened to me in college... I was going out with this guy for a couple of weeks... All of the sudden one Sat. afternoon, I receive a call on my cell from some girl saying that she was that guy's girlfriend... this caught me completely off guard because we talked abt ex's with the guy before and he said his last relationship ended 3months ago... So when I got the call I was completely shocked and said pretty much what this girl said that I don't even know who you're talking abt...Goodbye (I was with my family at the time and didn't want to start discussing any of this for them to hear)... Anyway long story short that evening I call the guy and say that I got a call from his CURRENT girlfriend and wtf is going on.... So he tells me this whole long story about how she's an EX gf but she still lives in his house, on the couch (yea right!) and that she has no place to live bec her family wanted nothing to do with her, so while she was looking for a place to live she stayed with him even though the relationship was over months ago... And that she is crazy and she stalks him and breaks into his voicemail (that's how she got my number supposedly) and that she just doesn't get the hint that it's over but he doesn't have the heart to kick her out in spite of her irrational behavior. Me being young and naive at the time, I really wanted to believe him and so I convinced myself that he was telling the truth....
Meanwhile as time went on, and we continued going out, she would call me and ask me who I was and what I was doing with her bf... and I would say...just like the girl you're texting... that oh we're just friends and that we go to school together...and that I had no interest in him and we're nothing but friends and classmates and that he's all yours I don't want him blah blah blah... I said those things to avoid any confrontations with her because I didn't really know what was going on and didn't want her blowing up and screaming at me and coming over to the school or whatever... All this bec. at the time I believed that whole oh she's a crazy stalker story....
My pt is, that don't trust that girl you're texting too much, maybe she is telling the truth BUT if she is seeing him she might be lying for him... and making you look paranoid and distrusting...:confused:
But (like me) until you have any solid proof of what's going on, you can't say for sure that he's cheating...guys suck!!!:mad:

[lecha]

Simply put: know yourself in order to know the other person. Trust your instincts and don't take crap from anybody, no matter how much they say they care about you/love you. If your bf/gf is not acting on those words and they say they care about you, they obviously don't since they don't have enough respect to be faithful to themselves in the first place. If they are not respectful to themselves, what makes people think that they will be respecful to their partner? Realize that you don't depend on any one particular person to satisfy your emotional needs-there are plenty of people
10x better able to the job. Be independent and show that you are worth much more than the crap that your bf/gf treat you like!

[grumpy_shay]

Male brains may function the same no matter the location, place, age, date, or time... My bf has also, "locked his phone" and denied numbers. Evil, I tell ya! :mad: I shouldn't be one to talk considering I still put up with this nonsense.. mainly because I'm a believer in hope and forgiveness. Does this work? It's hard not to say, "Don't feel bad!" because in reality it bites! Confuses our hearts and has us guessing. Seriously, do you believe that at some point he'll snap out of it? Or is that just me thinking out loud? :confused: I'm sorry. This gurl hears you and knows your pain and frustration. Do I have the advice? Perhaps not but somewhere out there, someone understands. That'd be me!