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My posts in here probably look like they come from a madman. Its because I've totally lost my grip and am, in fact, a madman.
I met my wife when I was 37. She was 21. We got married after 9 days. She was pregnant 1 month later. Our son is two now. He's the coolest kid ever, but honestly, if I had to do it over, no fricking way. Not even for him. His spirit would find its way into the world some other way. I'm a criminal defense attorney. She was a stay at home mom, supposedly.
A year after his birth she took an un-official job with a governmantal agency. About a month into the job she began an affair with a target of the job. I suspected immediately but was simply too busy with my new firm I had formed. About four months into it I started finding conclusive circumstantial eveidence, like hotel receipts, new lingere, etc. She was able to crazy-make me because of the nature of her work. Finally I just said screw it and filed for divorce, then she somehow wormed her way back in and I've dragged it out to this point. It has been an excruiating year. I'll leave out the details. You who have been there know what they are. About a week ago she told me she was 5 months pregnant with this ****er's baby.
It all must have had some purpose, because I would have never discovered this pregnancy, and I'll bet she would have had this kid from this loser if I wasn't still around. But it ain't over yet. My son is not going to have a half sibling like this, no way. We shall see.
The mind blowing thing is she expects sympathy from me for this mess she's in. And initially I was the only one she had told. That fact, to me, was the most disrespectful act of the whole sordid deal. That it was ok if I knew. I told her, if you had any respect for me at all you would have told anybody BUT me, and taken care of this. She hasn't even told the baby's daddy. So I said screw it, everybody is going to know. Like Markus said, I need support. To give a small insight into the utter demonic nature of this girl, she tried to overcharge everyone donating money for the abortion so she could make some extra money.
To add an even more twisted aspect to it, she tried to get me for $700 extra dollars for the abortion. I figured it was more chicanery but called my banker and told her to let the clinic bill it. I wanted this done. Well, my bank branch manager has a crush on me and wants me to leave my wife. (we're good friends)SO she figures she will deny the $700 charge coming thru, my wife will have to have the baby, and I'll leave her for sure now.I'm not making this crap up. SO the bank denys it, for absolutely no reason at all, and my wife refuses to pony up the money she has that can get this done!!! She makes another appt for next week, and I'm at my wits end with this scandelous pyscho. She's like at 24 weeks. (Its just speculation about my banker doing anything, but this woman used to call me and take my calls, and right after this I can't get a hold of her. (Scratches head?)).
This girl lives in a world of her own making, some bizzare dreamworld where she can truly do no wrong. I sometimes think all women live there. Sorry if i sound like a women hater, but the double punch pyscho combo of my wife and banker leaves little doubt in my mind. I lived 37 years before I met this girl without one restraining order, no drama, nothing but peace and love. Now I've had two baseless restraining orders filed against me, for all the judges and prosecutors I work with to joyfully see.
When this is all said and done with this baby, I'm dropping a bomb on this ***** she will never forget. And everyone says to move on, get on with your life, thats good advice. But I must have revenge. Somethig subtle and clever and devastating. I don't know what it is, but I know the opportunity will present itself.
I think what new people in here are looking for is some formula by which you know you can get this out of your mind and your cheating spouse can make you feel number one again. I think both those things are impossible. And folks who stay together for the sake of the kids are gutless. Our one year old son knew the tension between us, and knows it to this day. Even if you think you're presenting a cooperating front to your kids, the tension is there and it is secretly devastating. Get rid of the cheating spouse and create a happy home on your own.
And seek a way to restore balance to your mind. I don't know if revenge is the best answer. but just walking away and living well doesn't feel like the best revenge. Destroyed trust, destroyed dreams of a big family, destroyed perceptions of what the type of person your spouse was supposed to be, to make your spouse insane to cover your infidelity, to villify your spouse to family and loved ones to hide your affair, fills me with a hatred and rage so pure and consuming that I think its driven me over the edge. Thats it.
tomasingm
10-20-2006, 10:50 AM
You were 37 she was 21, you have a successful career...??? See something here???........Arm candy is good to have every once in a while, but not to marry. Find a grown-up woman that has a head on her shoulders and live well. I really really like the fact that you are going to get pay back, I think it is great and as an attorney with your experience I can imagine you have an insight as to what can be used against her. Wow, thank you for setting a great example on how gold digging heffers are to be treated this day in age.
There's a saying, a rule so to speak, in the art of cross-examination. That rule is "Consequences modify behaviour". You never let a witness play dumb, or ask you a question, or get smart. You shut them down. As an example you ask "What color was the traffic light" Witness says "What do you mean by "color"" Throw your pencil down on the lectern. Turn your back on the witness. Shake your head and hold your hand over your eyes. Slowly turn back around and ask the witness "Are you telling me you don't know what the word "color" means?My two year old son knows what color means! Your honor, may I have time to go get a dictionary so we can define for this...witness... what color means?Enough of this and the witness will give answers you put in his mouth. "The light was red, right?" "Yes"
The problem for women in society is there are so few consequences for their actions. They mouth off in public, then YOU have to fight. They can say the most outrageous things, hit you, and you have to take it. They tell the most ridiculous lies, and because guys want to screw them, they think they're beleived. They go on and on about the most hairbrained crap thats supposed to be deep, and its shallow drivel about their own lives that only they could care about, and no one ever says "Christ woman, do ever think or talk about anything but yourself?" So they grow up thinking its all about them. Then when they get married, and daily drudgery sets in, and they actually have to give as well as take, they are disappointed and seek to have their "needs" met elswhere. Being upfront with your husband could have serious negative CONSEQUENCES, and since females never have to own up to their problems, facing consequences is out of the question. "Better to torture my husband than risk him being mad at me. That would make me uncomfortable. And then I might look worn out when I go to have my brains screwed out, and my boyfriend might think I'm upset with him, and and and...."
elainegayla
10-20-2006, 01:25 PM
its cheaters! Men act the same way.
Big babies getting all the sex and attention and the minute a child of their own comes into the picture and mom is tired from haveing a baby hang off her boob all day, daddy finds a little hottie that will treat him like a king and jump when he says jump. They can't stand sharing their wives affection and attention EVEN WITH THEIR OWN CHILD.
Sure, they want kids. Sure you can explain the sacrifices that will be made, but somehow they think it will be only the woman that sacrifices.
Its not women or men. Its cheats and selfish PEOPLE.
MuffinMan
10-20-2006, 03:11 PM
its cheaters! Men act the same way.
Big babies getting all the sex and attention and the minute a child of their own comes into the picture and mom is tired from haveing a baby hang off her boob all day, daddy finds a little hottie that will treat him like a king and jump when he says jump. They can't stand sharing their wives affection and attention EVEN WITH THEIR OWN CHILD.
Sure, they want kids. Sure you can explain the sacrifices that will be made, but somehow they think it will be only the woman that sacrifices.
Its not women or men. Its cheats and selfish PEOPLE.
Exactly right. In my situation, BEFORE I found out she cheated on me years ago, I'd stay home with my sons while she goes to the local bar on Friday night and has drinks with the girls. How damn lucky would a woman have to be for a man to be willing to let her have her time after staying home all week with the kids, and I watch them so she can get some girl time in?
Needless to say, after I found out she cheated on me years ago...and I don't give a f#ck how many year ago it was..betrayal is betrayal..after i found out I now refuse to watch them while she goes out. She now stays home. I am not going to be betrayed like that and give her that kind of consideration.
Skirtchaser
10-20-2006, 04:20 PM
Hey Perry Mason listen to this,
A woman was at the cemetary with her small son at the funeral of a friend. The little boy was tugging on his mothers dress. The Mother said what dear?
The little boy replied, Momma do they put 2 people in 1 grave?
The mother said, why of course not, absolutly not, whatever gave you that idea.
The little boy pointing at a nearby headstone replied then why does it say......
Here lies John Brown, A good man and a Lawyer.:)
markus
10-20-2006, 04:49 PM
' Its not women or men. Its cheats and selfish PEOPLE '
Agreed
Read Women's Infidelity: Living In Limbo: What Women Really Mean When They Say "I'm Not Happy". Because of how women are conditioned from an early age that they are "naturally monogamous" "not as in to sex as men" and that many sexual partners is shameful, they cheat in a manner that is simply more diabolical and hurtful, in an effort to save face and their reputations. Read the book. Its pretty good.
"Its not women or men. Its cheats and selfish PEOPLE '"
This phrase doesn't apply to lawyers, who, as skirtchaser implies with his joke, are less than human. I'm free to cheat with impunity!
MuffinMan
10-20-2006, 10:06 PM
When this is all said and done with this baby, I'm dropping a bomb on this ***** she will never forget. And everyone says to move on, get on with your life, thats good advice. But I must have revenge. Somethig subtle and clever and devastating. I don't know what it is, but I know the opportunity will present itself.
Well for starters, you can do as I suggested in one of these posts before...mix a little Nair in with her shampoo bottle.
She'll start to get patchy spots. Lets see how many guys want to f#ck a bald woman.
Skirtchaser
10-21-2006, 03:59 PM
In that case your lowering to the same level as her, do you lower yourself to the clients you defend?? Wise up, I think you are looking for a reason to do the same thing. It's not the right way. Separate divorce her and then go do your thing. You will feel better about yourself, Perry.:cool:
Skirtchaser
10-21-2006, 04:02 PM
oh and yes, Lawyers are not sub human's. Your rating yourself too high. A little lower on the scale, :)
trevormac
10-23-2006, 12:47 PM
They tell the most ridiculous lies, and because guys want to screw them, they think they're beleived. They go on and on about the most hairbrained crap thats supposed to be deep, and its shallow drivel about their own lives that only they could care about, and no one ever says "Christ woman, do ever think or talk about anything but yourself?" So they grow up thinking its all about them. Then when they get married, and daily drudgery sets in, and they actually have to give as well as take, they are disappointed and seek to have their "needs" met elswhere. Being upfront with your husband could have serious negative CONSEQUENCES, and since females never have to own up to their problems, facing consequences is out of the question. "Better to torture my husband than risk him being mad at me. That would make me uncomfortable. And then I might look worn out when I go to have my brains screwed out, and my boyfriend might think I'm upset with him, and and and...."
Wow, that sounds like my high maintenance wife. All she ever talks about is how rough she has it and life is so lousy and we don't have enough money, blah, blah. She's very good looking but I'm starting to get hostile towards her.
MuffinMan
10-23-2006, 01:04 PM
Wow, that sounds like my high maintenance wife. All she ever talks about is how rough she has it and life is so lousy and we don't have enough money, blah, blah. She's very good looking but I'm starting to get hostile towards her.
Does she have a job? If not, tell her to get her bon bon eating a$$ off the couch and get one.
confused
10-24-2006, 09:26 AM
Listen...i don't want to get off the subject....but i am rather sick to my stomach thinking of an abortion happening on a 6 month old baby. It IS A BABY. no longer a blip on the screen. Babies are born 3 months premie and survive.
*heavy heart, heavy sigh* UGGGHGHGHGHHGHGh......i wish i could friggin go KNOCK SOME SENSE INTO YOU BOTH.
Why after being pregnant THIS LONG...cant a person friggin wait another month or two and have the thing?
I understand terminating a pregnancy at 6 weeks or something...but 6 months?
*going to the restroom to puke now*
Even if i friggin HATED SOMEONE SO BAD I WANTED TO KILL THEM MYSELF....i would find a different solution for the pathetic loser.
confused
10-24-2006, 09:30 AM
The problem for women in society is there are so few consequences for their actions. They mouth off in public, then YOU have to fight. They can say the most outrageous things, hit you, and you have to take it. They tell the most ridiculous lies, and because guys want to screw them, they think they're beleived. They go on and on about the most hairbrained crap thats supposed to be deep, and its shallow drivel about their own lives that only they could care about, and no one ever says "Christ woman, do ever think or talk about anything but yourself?"
Wow.....Yes. If this is your experience with women, then i would turn homosexual if i were you.
OR...try dating "women" rather than "girls".
OR...look on the other side of the tracks.......
I've never known any of my girlfriends and people i associate with to act this way. You're painting a picture that suits your needs now.....just admit you've had a wife who cheated on you. And RATHER THAN attacking the entire population of women now...(to serve your ego)...just knock her.
Do you think I could convince someone who is this morally bankrupt into having this baby? The first doctor i took her to said the baby was fine. I told her she should have it, and left it at that. I'm not going to bust my butt anymore to cajole this monster into doing the right thing. The death of this baby is on her head.
And i don't buy this "men and women are all the same" crap. They're not, there are distinct differences both good and bad. How much longer must we suffer this curse of political correctness vomited out by 1980s crack babies? Its this attitude that allowed the Bridges of Madison County to be made and applauded and not resoundling condemned as a glorification of whoarification.
confused
10-24-2006, 02:31 PM
Then live the rest of your life alone......you deserve it if you indeed do believe what you believe. Then i guess it's okay for ME to say "ALL MEN ARE THE SAME". They are ALL hound dogs. They ALL cheat. And they ALL think with their d-i-c-k-s.
And about the baby.
Listen.....I wouldn't be talking her into sh*t either. But you had never mentioned anything about trying to talk her OUT of it. YOu only talked about the MONEY YOU WERE SPENDING to get rid of it.
If its all on HER head. Then let the CASH be on her head as well.
If YOU AREN'T BANKROLLING THE ABORTION...then MAYBE IT WOULDN'T HAPPEN pinhead.
MuffinMan
10-24-2006, 02:55 PM
Then live the rest of your life alone......you deserve it if you indeed do believe what you believe. Then i guess it's okay for ME to say "ALL MEN ARE THE SAME". They are ALL hound dogs. They ALL cheat. And they ALL think with their d-i-c-k-s.
Oh I think with my d!ck alright...but i always wanted my wife to have it...problem is, seems my d!ck wasn't the only one she wanted.
confused
10-24-2006, 02:58 PM
so you are NOT the normal guy.
So suffice it to say "I" am not the normal gal either.
I just hate this pigeonholing.....cliche' making.......lumping everyone into one category crap.
Listen. If the guy got wronged by his girl. That's the sh*ts. And if i got wronged by my guy....thats the sh*ts too......
Why then, do we have to make these political statements...and act like its something that its not. WOMEN ARE NOT ALL THE SAME. and MEN ARE NOT ALL THE SAME...
that was my point.
elainegayla
10-24-2006, 03:57 PM
Women ARE NOT ALL THE SAME ... please!
So you think I'm the same as the women my husband met on the internet, scheuled a F>U>C>K with while on a business trip? Met him in a bar on a predetermined date and screwed after knowing my husband the time it takes to chug down a beer?
NO WAY!!!!!!
Do you think I'm the same as the prostitutes he screwed?
Do you think I'm the same as the women he picked up in bars and got B/L/O/W jobs from in the PARKING LOT?
Better yet, are those women mentioned above the same as your Mother?? Sister?
Of course not!~
Skirtchaser
10-24-2006, 04:10 PM
It all must have had some purpose, because I would have never discovered this pregnancy, and I'll bet she would have had this kid from this loser if I wasn't still around. But it ain't over yet. My son is not going to have a half sibling like this, no way. We shall see.
I believe this was your post prex. The death of this baby is on your head. You forget your lies on here. Damn the torpedos and full steam ahead, Gonna get all the pussy you can get, I believe you relayed this too. Sounds to me like you got someone you really deserved. Maybe you'll find you a gay lover. Sounds like you have homo traits. You must be a second rate attorney as well. Ambulance chaser. Ha! At least your gay lover wont come home with another man's baby. :cool:
I'm gay. Now we can be gay together.
I prefaced the begining of my e-mail that i was going mad. Ultimately, I don't think i should have been put in this position, to make these kind of choices when all i wanted was a family. Who is prepared for this? Every time I said to myself, this can't get worse, it got worse. Thats the diabolical irony of all this, when you have a mate, male or female, motivated to decieve you, and using your trust as the bedrock of that deception, you're in real trouble.
I guess the death of the baby is on my head. It only seems fair, doesn't it? I forced her, thru my neglect, to open her legs, over and over and over and over and over again, and get pregnant. And then once that happened i made her kill it. As was my evil plan all along, for I must follow Satan's orders and kill children. What a bastard am I!
Bullshyt. This is all her fault.
toamsingm
10-24-2006, 07:58 PM
You are no way resposnsible for the actions of this c-u-n-t. She is the one that made her choices and now has concequences this is her bed that she made, now let her sleep in it.
elainegayla
10-25-2006, 11:13 AM
You are not responsible for this baby....no way.
I'm not a big fan of how you blame ALL women and I do think you are mad but you have been through h.e.l.l. at the hands of the woman you love and you are in the thick of it and I'd be WORSE than you.
I think its good you are venting on here so you get some of it out. I'm sure its not nearly enough, but maybe it will keep you from doing something that will ruin your life forever.
Right now, as bad as it seems, you can leave anytime. You will get over her if you do, eventually.
I know a man that had a wife like yours (she left him for the other guy) and he is now raising his son alone. At first, this woman took their son to live with her but you know how selfish people get sick of the responsibility. I say you have a good chance of getting your baby, if thats what you want. Maybe not right away. But eventaully she will realize how the child is not all fun and games. Plus, your child will see what a piece of crap she is and will want to live with you.
No matter what, you do the right thing by your child. Don't let your child see you fight (if she has, stop it right now). Don't bad mouth your wife. It will backfire. Be your child's rock. Be your child's FATHER.
elainegayla
10-25-2006, 11:14 AM
You are not responsible for this baby....no way.
I'm not a big fan of how you blame ALL women and I do think you are mad but you have been through h.e.l.l. at the hands of the woman you love and you are in the thick of it and I'd be WORSE than you.
I think its good you are venting on here so you get some of it out. I'm sure its not nearly enough, but maybe it will keep you from doing something that will ruin your life forever.
Right now, as bad as it seems, you can leave anytime. You will get over her if you do, eventually.
I know a man that had a wife like yours (she left him for the other guy) and he is now raising his son alone. At first, this woman took their son to live with her but you know how selfish people get sick of the responsibility. I say you have a good chance of getting your baby, if thats what you want. Maybe not right away. But eventaully she will realize how the child is not all fun and games. Plus, your child will see what a piece of crap she is and will want to live with you.
No matter what, you do the right thing by your child. Don't let your child see you fight (if she has, stop it right now). Don't bad mouth your wife. It will backfire. Be your child's rock. Be your child's FATHER.
tomasingm
10-25-2006, 12:17 PM
DOnt fight or turn your kid against the mom but what is wrong with honesty???....... When your child is old enough and asks Dad, how come you and mom spilt. Well, son/daughter she had an affair with another man, on top of the she got pregnat then aborted this poor innocent child because she was more concerned of what people thought than this child's life." It was not because of you, you are a great kid, you are the best thing that has ever happened to me. Since the day your were born I realized how lucky I was .....Somethign along those lines.........No point in lying to the kid, he grows wondering, questionsing doubting and it will make him an insecure grown up if he develops like that. If he is able to look back and say my father set an example as to why infidelity should not be tolerated he will never let osme **** do the same thing to him....
confused
10-25-2006, 01:25 PM
I guess the death of the baby is on my head. I forced her, thru my neglect, to open her legs, over and over and over and over and over again, and get pregnant. And then once that happened i made her kill it.
Not where i wanted my comment to go.
Listen.....I had mentioned that i didn't want to take this thread "off topic"...and it did of course go there. The bottom line as Elainegayla mentioned is...that you've been hurt. And you NEVER should have been put into the position you have been put in. Your wife is pregnant with another man's baby....and i just think that IS (in and of itself) enough to drive anyone to insanity. I would probably literally "die" (at least inside) if this were to happen to me. And i don't wish that on ANYONE. I too am glad you found this forum.....for it helped me....and i hope it will help you as well.
And so that the baby issue is NOT on your head......WASH YOUR HANDS of her. And the baby's future or lack thereof. Do not fund her for ANYTHING. Regardless of whether it's an abortion...or a plane ticket to "fvck off land". NOTHING.
You do have a child to look after. And I'm sorry you now have a "broken" family....but you both (you and your child) WILL overcome this......eventually.
It's going to be a freegin rough road.....but don't let your wife turn you into something you're not.
Meaning.....MANY people become "hardened" against the opposite sex....and begin holding resentment toward them...when they've been jaded in the past. And prior to the betrayel? They were FUN LOVING great people...who adored and treasured and loved the "opposite" sex.
Don't let a cheater EMPOWER you....by changing your beliefs or warping your views.....don't be a bitter soul now that this witch has destroyed your dream of living 'happily ever after' (so to speak).
Skirtchaser
10-28-2006, 06:51 PM
No the baby is not your responsibility, Yes she is at fault. But remember the unborn child did not ask for any of this either. The unborn child is a victim just as you are prex. Leave divorce focus on the child you two had together. This all will pass. Gonna take time.
As for the lawyer jokes, Im a cop and I work for some attorneys privately. So does my family. Wuz jus hacking on ya. No disrespect intended. I have grandchildren natural ones and ones from step daughters. Blood doesnt matter if you love a child. I would fight for the unborn one with my legal skills and whatever child agencies I could use as well. This unborn child does not deserve it's mother nor its natural father. Youve got a lot on your shoulders.
Good luck with what you decide to do. :cool:
SuckerFree
10-30-2006, 12:09 AM
There's a saying, a rule so to speak, in the art of cross-examination. That rule is "Consequences modify behaviour". You never let a witness play dumb, or ask you a question, or get smart. You shut them down. As an example you ask "What color was the traffic light" Witness says "What do you mean by "color"" Throw your pencil down on the lectern. Turn your back on the witness. Shake your head and hold your hand over your eyes. Slowly turn back around and ask the witness "Are you telling me you don't know what the word "color" means?My two year old son knows what color means! Your honor, may I have time to go get a dictionary so we can define for this...witness... what color means?Enough of this and the witness will give answers you put in his mouth. "The light was red, right?" "Yes"
The problem for women in society is there are so few consequences for their actions. They mouth off in public, then YOU have to fight. They can say the most outrageous things, hit you, and you have to take it. They tell the most ridiculous lies, and because guys want to screw them, they think they're beleived. They go on and on about the most hairbrained crap thats supposed to be deep, and its shallow drivel about their own lives that only they could care about, and no one ever says "Christ woman, do ever think or talk about anything but yourself?" So they grow up thinking its all about them. Then when they get married, and daily drudgery sets in, and they actually have to give as well as take, they are disappointed and seek to have their "needs" met elswhere. Being upfront with your husband could have serious negative CONSEQUENCES, and since females never have to own up to their problems, facing consequences is out of the question. "Better to torture my husband than risk him being mad at me. That would make me uncomfortable. And then I might look worn out when I go to have my brains screwed out, and my boyfriend might think I'm upset with him, and and and...."
Yes, and this has happened because of Attorney's like yourself. As an Attorney you should know that the answers are always right in front of you. You were thinking with your ****. You knew how Women were, and when guys like me told you so...you said, oh please..I have a graduate degree, I know everything. You saw the case loads, the 6 months back-ups on divorce and custody battles, the endless he said/she said Police reports. I feel for you, but I think you should have known better.
SuckerFree
10-30-2006, 12:18 AM
Women ARE NOT ALL THE SAME ... please!
So you think I'm the same as the women my husband met on the internet, scheuled a F>U>C>K with while on a business trip? Met him in a bar on a predetermined date and screwed after knowing my husband the time it takes to chug down a beer?
NO WAY!!!!!!
Do you think I'm the same as the prostitutes he screwed?
Do you think I'm the same as the women he picked up in bars and got B/L/O/W jobs from in the PARKING LOT?
Better yet, are those women mentioned above the same as your Mother?? Sister?
Of course not!~
I know and understand why you ladies get angry when us guys generalize Women like we do. But, I have had this argument with my Mother as well. I tell her, mom, you don't understand. Women aren't like you anymore. And I personally believe that. I am going to assume, Elaine, Red, a few others are at least in their mid 30's. And I'm here to tell you, they don't make em like that anymore. Take a good look at some of these 18-27 y/o's out there. Our Women are a mess. Feminism must continue to preach the victim mentality to keep their racket going, and young girls gobble it down like Turkey. Within 20 years the only people that will even get married are the unmarriageable along with all the other genetic defects out there. E.G Gays, Lesbians, TG..etc. I plan on being on a beach in Costa Rica with some 19 y/o girlfriend by then, so I'm not worried.
markus
10-30-2006, 12:37 AM
There's a saying, a rule so to speak, in the art of cross-examination. That rule is "Consequences modify behaviour". You never let a witness play dumb, or ask you a question, or get smart. You shut them down. As an example you ask "What color was the traffic light" Witness says "What do you mean by "color"" Throw your pencil down on the lectern.
Theres a saying ' circumstances dont make a man ...they reveal him'
Maybe if you realised earlier that theres more to life than your work you wouldn't be in this mess ?
Jerry
10-30-2006, 08:05 AM
It's too late to abort. Try to let her have the child and give it for adoption so it might stand a chance to have a decent life. Being raised by a **** without a brain will likely be disatrous for this baby.
Get your divorce, take your kid with you and move on- don't look back, don't even give the ***** another moment of your time. There are decent women out there for guys like us - we just have to look in the right places and be lucky. I for one don't intend to ever marry again after my betrayel this last summer. See "Infidelity in Spain" that I posted last week.
I'm in the process of a divorce right now - my wife ****ed around last summer in Spain and wants to go back thi next summer-she's free to do whatever she wants now so she can go and do whatever she wants. *****s will be *****s and there's nothing anyone can do to stop them. My wife had been married before and I'd only known her for a month or so before we started to live together. I had come to work on a project near where she lived and didn't know anyone so I knew little of her previous activity with other men.
After meeting some of her friends on a couple of visits to her home town (Southeast Mexico - State of Tabasco) I overheard them talking about a lot of partying and men which is natural. She also mentioned several times that her first husband had accused her of having affairs which eveentually led to their divorce.
It could be that your wife's lifestyle was pretty wild and she has no intention to stop having new men in her life without regard for you, you children or other members of her family. That's the way mine was acting in Spain.
Anyway keep your head up abd just walk away-forget the revenge. Your child needs to have his tranquility and doesn't need you spending your energy persuing negative actions.
Good luck-
"Maybe if you realised earlier that theres more to life than your work you wouldn't be in this mess ?"
Actually, today, my partners, in the firm I founded, are kicking me out. Finally they do something that makes sense. I'm amazed at how much time this situation thieves from you. Too much too late, I guess. I'm probably going to jail. No joke. Its the only conceivable way this could get worse.
Oh yeah, the little girl, it was mine. She had to trick me so I wouldn't be so hurt when she put it down. Her compassion knows no bounds.
If she wasn't pretty the villagers would be chasing her with pitchforks and torches.
Skirtchaser
10-31-2006, 09:03 PM
Start another firm, Did they kick you out because your wife cheated on you?
Or did they kick you out because you have handled this not so well. Good things come from bad, You have your skills, your education. Rebuild. You are not still with her are you?? Good luck things will rebound for you. Your gonna have to let go of this sh.it and move on. You can do it. :cool:
I handled it bad. There's lots of drug use involved by all parties. Lets just say I haven't led from the front.
Yeah, I'm still with her. I have a new understyanding of who she is. I think a significant amount of women cheat more than the stats show. Like a lot more. I was no angel, fooled around a little bit, utterly ignored her, and talked and yelled at her like a dog after our son was born. Bottom line, my behaviour doesn't excuse hers, but this shyt doesn't happen in a vacuum, there's a dynamic at work.
I'm just concentrating on my work and my son, she's in rehab, I've set the divorce out 45 days, sees what happens. :confused:
Tawnee1969
11-02-2006, 01:25 AM
So lets get this straight. The story so far...
You married very quickly to a woman a lot younger than you. She got pregnant and now you have a young son.
Then you say that she is 5 months pregnant to someone else and wants you to pay for a late term abortion.
Now you are saying that you did pay for that, that you then found out that the baby was yours and that you guys are heavily into drugs and that you have been sacked and may be arrested.
Now is this all correct?
Can I ask you one thing that I think has slipped yours and your wife's mind???
WHO THE **** IS LOOKING AFTER YOUR SON???????
Stop living in a soap opera and start being ****en parents to the child you have.
tomasingm
11-02-2006, 09:19 AM
Focus on getting your self better and healthier, and please, please think about the well-being of your son. I went down that path one before and it almost cost me my life. Your son is going to need atleast one "sane, sober, drug-free" parent if he is even to have anything close to a normal life. Focus on loving yourself a little bit more, so you can be healthy and stick around for your son. Good luck, I wish your the best and take care.....
elainegayla
11-03-2006, 04:04 PM
Prex, you have some nerve bytching about your wife when you cheated (not to mention the other stuff). After finding out my husband cheated he lost his ability to enforce fidelity on me. If I give it, its a gift and by no means a given or a right. If I am faithful now its for my own reasons, my own values and what I want for myself. Maybe your wife figured you must not give a crap about fidelity (obviously you didn't) so she figured you wouldn't care. Makes sense to me. You get what you put into marriage just like everything else in life.
Also, my husband was doing coke. I know from experience you can't have a marriage at all with one partner addicted or doing drugs. So if only one of you gets clean and stays clean you are still out of luck. I was drug-free and faithful and my marriage was a nightmare. It takes two to make a marriage work and only one to f@ck it up.
elainegayla
11-03-2006, 04:04 PM
Prex, you have some nerve bytching about your wife when you cheated (not to mention the other stuff). After finding out my husband cheated he lost his ability to enforce fidelity on me. If I give it, its a gift and by no means a given or a right. If I am faithful now its for my own reasons, my own values and what I want for myself. Maybe your wife figured you must not give a crap about fidelity (obviously you didn't) so she figured you wouldn't care. Makes sense to me. You get what you put into marriage just like everything else in life.
Also, my husband was doing coke. I know from experience you can't have a marriage at all with one partner addicted or doing drugs. So if only one of you gets clean and stays clean you are still out of luck. I was drug-free and faithful and my marriage was a nightmare. It takes two to make a marriage work and only one to f@ck it up.
elainegayla
11-03-2006, 04:04 PM
Prex, you have some nerve bytching about your wife when you cheated (not to mention the other stuff). After finding out my husband cheated he lost his ability to enforce fidelity on me. If I give it, its a gift and by no means a given or a right. If I am faithful now its for my own reasons, my own values and what I want for myself. Maybe your wife figured you must not give a crap about fidelity (obviously you didn't) so she figured you wouldn't care. Makes sense to me. You get what you put into marriage just like everything else in life.
Also, my husband was doing coke. I know from experience you can't have a marriage at all with one partner addicted or doing drugs. So if only one of you gets clean and stays clean you are still out of luck. I was drug-free and faithful and my marriage was a nightmare. It takes two to make a marriage work and only one to f@ck it up.
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