New and kinda lost PLEASE HELP

[tessa38]

I have been sitting here all morning trying to figure out what to do with some information that I have. I have recently found out that my best friend's husband has been unfaithful. I know now of two incidents with two seperate woman. I am not sure what I should do with this info. My best friend has two little kids and she has no idea that her husband has been cheating.

Will she hate ME for telling her? The info I found out is no surprise to me, as I have always thought that he was a "slim". I found out about his infidelity through a friend of the woman he was with. So, it's not like i have it from the horses mouth. And as far as I know these affairs are now done, as this happend a couple of years ago. But, who knows what he is doing now and with who?

I just need to know from other woman what you would want? In a converstaion over drinks at one time I had asked her about cheating and if she would want to know if her husband had cheated and she said "no, what I don't know won't hurtme". So........do I take that converstaion to heart? It is because we were only talking about one AFFAIR. Would she want to know about multiples??? And how do I go about telling her, how do I go about ruining her life and her family???
Please, any suggestions would be appreciated
T

[BROKEN]

Hi there ......... gee by her saying that I t almost sounds as she might now he has cheated adn or is cheating.I had a similar situation with a family member who was cheating on her ,So what i did was i knew she woudl be furious if she knew i was mendling in her personal life so what i did was,I took all the information i had and mailed it to her annomonisly,and i even went to a different part of town and mailed it.So she wouldnt think it was meit worked out as i aexpected she came over with the information i mailed to her and was crying i just listened and offered support and told her she should leave him,and i also told her she needed to get tested for stds to be safe seh just had a baby 8 weeks old and this happened to her!!! Well guess what it was good i didnt tell her it was me that sent the information because she ended up staying with him and he is still cheating on her.I am so disgusted with the whole ordeal.... So you kinda gotta figure 6 in one half dozen in the other.. Good Luck :confused: :

[Amber]

I would want to know if my husband was cheating on me even if it happened years ago. It is still cheating. You have to think of her safety too. he could bring something home to her and u would never forgive yourself for that. suggest that she should go and get tested for std's and tell her what u know. It may hurt her and ruin her family but at least she won't get sick from the truth.