Is my wife cheating?

[hallospaceboy]

What do you think? Is this difinitive proof?
http://img223.imageshack.us/my.php?image=lettervj7.jpg

[markus]

Yes

He rodgered this girl in the past and wasn't interested in keeping it going because she butt ugly but now he's getting bored he wants to have another blast on her pussy

Isn't it obvious or do you need video evidence ?



Nice compliment .. she also looks good with her clothes on :D

[prex]

Or lookin' to cheat. Brother, most wives I meet do not give off the type of vibe that would welcome this type of note. Know what I mean?
Broom her a** to the curb until she straightens up. Which will be never.

[jnj express]

hey tell us your details so we know what to comment about

[elainegayla]

Apparently he has seen her naked. I'm assuming there are no nude beaches in your area. There is only one reason I can think of ...and its not good.

[orlando_husband]

It looks like proof to me, one thing I noticed besides the "clothed or unclothed" remark is that he didn't leave his phone number in the note so that means she already has it. Let us know how it goes when you confront her.

[hallospaceboy]

He has seen her naked because they've had sex in the past... say, between 8 and 5 years ago. He did leave his phone number, but I censored it for obvious reasons. They met and she told me about it, but she certainly didn't show me this note, which was left on the day they started speaking- the day I found out that she had been stealing pain-killers for a year and a half, had been discovered and was going through withdrawals and drinking liquor to cope. She was given a drug test and cleared because she hadn't any opiates in her system at the time, thankfully. That was several months ago, and he had just broken up with his girlfriend. They've hung out on a couple of occasions that I know of since then, but she has always assured me that they were not alone. Although we're both quite intelligent, my wife has a history of depression, and I worry about her stability in action. I'm a rather attractive young man, but I'll admit that she is not the hottest log on the fire by any means, and this "gentleman" is quite a handsome fellow by any standard. Her correspondence with him has ceased now, but I'm not 100% sure that I haven't been put over. I doubt they've had sex, but I think that his motive as of the writing of the letter is clear.

An unattractive (physically) wife + depression + attractive male she's been with obviously coming on to her + drug withdrawal + legal accusations + alcohol = ???????

[Skirtchaser]

the list = EXCUSES. Why are you still with her? without the cheating and don't fool yourself, her intent is and if she hasnt the only reason is because you caught her. I know there may be circumstances beyond a persons's control that may lead to temporary problems. But addictions simply evidence that they have given up on the relationship. Committment goes further than keeping one'self faithful to their partner. Both partners have the right to expect that the other will keep disease free, addiction free, and not enter into any actions that would jeopardize the relationship. These are many.
You seem like a good person, But you seem to be looking for an excuse for her actions. There is no excuse. Committment is a hard word to live up to but if you love someone as much as yourself you can easily do it. If you don't have these things with your partner, then, your with the wrong partner. :rolleyes:

[hallospaceboy]

The proverbial 'list' was actually intended to draw the conclusion: "she has or would cheat". She isn't the most savvy person in regards to reading between the lines, one might say she's socially retarded. I doubt that she took the letter as a come on at all, just a compliment. I'm certainly not making excuses. I merely want input regarding the implications of this letter. I suppose the topic should have been "does this guy want to **** my wife". I don't know. I've been drinking a lot lately as well, and this is certainly not conducive to the environment desired either. Thankfully I'm not inclined towards spousal abuse :o


Either way, I think things are panning out fine now... That is all.

[confused]

Well.....glad things are working out.

The letter was odd to say the least...and i would FLIP had it been written by a girl and left in my boyfriends pocket.

But why all the put-downs with your mate? I mean....to paraphrase your own words:

I'm a rather attractive young man, but I'll admit that she is not the hottest log on the fire by any means

An unattractive (physically) wife + depression

She isn't the most savvy person in regards to reading between the lines, one might say she's socially retarded

My question is. If this "attractive" man can want her.....(with all her downfalls that you clearly defined).

Why do YOU want her? I mean...you're a self proclaimed "attractive" guy too! Why are YOU with the "unattractive, depressed, drug addicted downer" woman.

Jeezus. No wonder she does drugs & drinks. She's surrounded by all these GREAT LOOKING bo-hunks.....who are doing her "average a-s-s" a favor for even WANTING her.

[Skirtchaser]

Ditto Confused, wise beyond your years. I don't think he want's advice, he wants to be patronized. He obviously does'nt want to leave, but he knows that is what he should do.