This belongs on Springer.

[gregl71]

I can't even believe that I can tell this story and it is my own but it is true. Believe me. My wife and I have been married for 7 1/2 years. In that time we had 2 daughters and our lives became ALL for them. We have grown apart as a result. I was contemplating moving out a few months ago and I had talked to my best friend in Atlanta who's wife used to be my wife's best friend. They have since divorced. When he heard about the troubles he told me that his wife had been told by my wife at one point that she had been unfaithful in our marriage. I approched my wife about this and she assured me that she was talking about her prior marriage when she said what she said. I believed her and went on my way. This scenario happened again on Monday. I prodded my friend much harder this time and he actually gave up specifics. It turns out that when my brother got out of prison 3 or 4 years ago and we were helping him get a leg up and put him up in our basement he slept with my wife several times. I have no idea what to do about this. I have no point of reference for this one. I am hoping to find some 3rd party advice on the internet. I am still living with my wife and as a matter of fact had sex with her twice the night I found out. My wife came clean and swears that is the only infedelity that has ever happened. My brother came clean and I haven't talked to him the last couple of days. Somebody please help me.:confused: :confused: :confused: :confused:

[SuckerFree]

What are you looking for? They both came clean. Nothing more needs to be said. Now it's up to you how you wish to handle this. And only you can decide that. All I know is I would be one mad as hell SOB. Also, it's pretty obvious your brother has little character. If you were gonna move out a few months ago, I'm curious as to why this wasn't the final straw to decide that.

[markus]

I'd find it very hard to move forward with a women that done the judas with my brother but you have children so you have to decide if its worth staying for them and if you can make it work with her

About your brother .... i personally wouldn't have anything to do with him again for a long time

[Skirtchaser]

ultimate wrong, your quite a guy for staying as long as you have with her. Staying together for the kids will only delay your miseries. This was a fling of convience, therefore I think it will happen again with someone less convienent. As to your brother, who definitly has no characater, remember the old saying, blood is thicker than water. You can change her name, But can't change the blood line. You better really love her if you stay with her, are you willing to give up your brother, as sorry as he is, for your marriage?
How will the rest of your family react if they find out, and they usually do.
Not my advice but before I left her, If SHE had a sister, hmm, don't do that.

[MuffinMan]

Disown your brother and kick that bish out of the house. And I am serious about that. You don't need to leave your daughters, make the adulterer leave and get a divorce. And as far as your daughters are concerned, you should use her adultery to gain full custody of them and kick her out of the house. You don't want your daughters being raised by a wh0re so that they do the same things to some unsuspecting husband in the future.

Kick her a$$ out, tell your brother never to knock on your door again, and move on with your life. There is someone out there for you.
Oh, and tell her entire family and yours what they both have done.

[tomasingm]

And expose him them to the rest of the family, also this will work in coourt in divorce aginst her. Imagine that a Convcted felon out of prison was the type of person that your wife would associate and be with hmm....you know yourbrother and his crimes use it aginst her in custody battle for the your girls and kicking her to the curbe. Love is blind dont let it be stupid you have daughters who have been shamed and disgraced it is for them you should be proud and CLEAN house" Expose them to your family, to society and to the world let them live in shame. Also, use what your know of your brotehr (everything) in court for your daughters lord knows you will need it. If you were ever going to need something to prove to a judge why you should get custody and not your s-l-u-t of a wife, the fact that she likes to get porked by Felons and criminals is just the right ammo to sue in showing why your daughters need to be away from her and her friends.

[tomasingm]

You should have had beat the hell out of both of them and make HER leave and stay with your two daughters. This is FAR beyond counseling..... This is the **** that people get killed for in other countries...........