sadally
10-01-2006, 09:02 PM
I have been dating this guy for about 9 months. Everyone including me views him as a very nice, respectable person. He opens car doors, he takes care of me, etc. We get a long very well and I know that he loves me. However, four months into the relationship, I check his phone and stumble upon a text message saying something very disgusting. I ask him who this is? He tells me he doesn't know, and it was probably accidental, I believe him but I take note of the phone number in case I see it again. A couple of months later I see a text message again by this girl, only this time he replied something equally perverse.. I figure who writes this type of stuff if they have never fooled around. He tells me she works with him, she's crazy and lonely, she's ugly and he felt bad if he didn't reply but nothing has ever happened. blah blah blah I ignored him only for a day and he kissed my feet and told me he would quit his job if i wanted him to.. of course i said no. So, I remained with him but of course I am going crazy bc I think he's cheating on me. I snoop around his room, see her number on a post it, look at an old phone bill, saw her number twice, checked his email- he wrote a woman from work when he was in taiwan saying that he hadn't found his wife, and hasn't been with any girls bc his parents let the cat out of the bag and told everyone he had a girlfriend.. way to make me feel good! oh and he writes this one girl who he claims to be his cousin, but there is no mention of me in the emails.. Anyways, two weeks ago, I go through his phone again, he pretty much hands it to me bc if he did do anything he can delete it b4 i see it. well, he must have forgot to delete one cuz i saw another one, same girl, new number- sexual text msg that mentions he came over to her house, and says RE: at the top which means he must have wrote to her, and his msg was underneath hers too! He denies that he wrote anything. I am crushed, heartbroken, I go through his wallet, her new number is there! That's it we broke up.. He came crawlin back with roses and a card. I have no proof that he actually cheated on me, I am with him everyday pretty much, I know that he loves me, he talks of marriage, so we get back together, but I still don't trust him and probably never will. I would rather be with him than without, but I think I am crazy for still wanting to stay.. I don't know, my friends think I am a masachist and ask me what will it take for me to break up withhim, finding him in bed with another girl? I don't know and I am sick of snooping.