I'm not finished

[loksgirl]

Hi, I just found this site today and broke up w/ my boyfriend this weekend. We'd been together for 5 years and I thought we had a strong, solid, honest relationship until I got a really bad feeling. I followed my gut and read his email and found out that he was emailing sexual emails to a girl I didn't know. Worse, I found that he was emailing a girl I knew A LOT! The subjects of his emails told me that he had a relationship, not fling w/ her. So I confronted him. He first denied but later admitted that there was a time he couldn't choose between us but he eventually chose me! Needless to say I was DEVASTATED! I always told him that we could have an open relationship if he wanted but he said nothing! So this weekend we sat down and really talked about us. I know I deserve better and I'm ready to move on which he knows. I was really proud of the way I conducted myself (not calling him or the others names,etc) but now after it's all said and done I still feel angry. I know we're through but I want to hurt him and her like I've been hurt. I've contemplated smearing her name on-line and calling him in a rage but the rational side of me always wins out. How do I get through this residual anger? I don't hate him but really want to scream at him. I want him to know how badly he hurt me.

[markus]

Justice does not come from the outside. It comes from inner peace.
Learn to be more aware of your thoughts and choose not to feed the ones that dont lead to happiness ;)

and no im not a bible basher

[Pam]

Justice does not come from the outside. It comes from inner peace.
Learn to be more aware of your thoughts and choose not to feed the ones that dont lead to happiness ;)

and no im not a bible basher

Very true. Hanging on to the anger is keeping yourself attached to this person (or people). Let it go - even if it means telling yourself out loud that you're finished with this guy and you don't deserve to be treated that way.

Trust me, you can get over it and there ARE better people out there. I've been dating for 23 years - more guys than I could even keep track of, been married twice, divorced once, widowed once - break-ups, no matter what the circumstance, are always painful. But we press on and get over it. Eventually that screaming pain of hurt goes away. Inner peace is what helps us cope - so when you start getting angry about the situation, find something to be thankful for - like the fact that you're not with this guy anymore and now you have a chance to find someone better.

Pam