shocked&appalled
09-23-2006, 10:56 PM
Hi. I have been with my boyfriend for 2 years now and we both have been married previously and he has 2 young children i love them dearly. we were looking at buying a house together and starting a family. I became pregnant unexpectedly and i was just getting used to the idea of a new baby. I am 24 and he is 34. he seemed happy about the baby. I thought it would be a few more years before we had one but i was just starting to get excited about it. anyway to make a long story short he says to me WE HAVE TO TALK in a way that i knew somthing was up. He tells me he cheated on me. i asked if he used a condom and he said no. I nearly rung his neck! I asked if he had been with me since he was with here and he said yes. I fliped out and took off but we talked about it later he was so honest with me he said it was done and it would never happen again. I forgave him for cheating. With me having a baby I thought I should give him one chance? Well any way this woman he cheated with called him up and told him how she loves him and all this crap. they were only together twice. He told me she is 40??? but hot for 40??? wtf! i dont get it but the point is hes telling me what she said to him and he said he "feels torn between two woman!!!" he was only with her twice and he feels torn between two women?? i asked if he thought he wanted to be with her instend of me and he said he didnt know!!!!! I left him with out saying anything. I dug realy deep to forgive him for cheating in the first place but now i dont think i can forgive him for even considering leaving me for her. if he wants to be with her now after only seeing her for a few weeks then i must not mean anything to him. i dont want him to stay with me just because in pregnant if he really wants her. what kind of a relationship would that be? i dont want to be with some one who isnt shur he wants to be with me much less have a child with someone who feels like that! but i dont want to be a single mother and have my kid growing up with out a father. i dont know what to do. i should leave him. he shouldent even have to think about who he wants to be with. Its all really got my head wrecked. he called me and wants to talk tomorrow. im just here trying to figure out what im going to say. i should leave him he shouldent get to choose between me and her. aggggg i cant sleep i cant focus at work and i dont know what to do. i have no one to talk to so thanks for listening. any feedback would be apprechiated.