help with cyber affair

[janets]

I see I have 39 views but no one has commented. My husband claims nothing he never masturbated but I know he got intimate with this girl online behind my back. I can't let it go. Need some feedback?

[NHBfighter]

he says he doesnt jack off? first off that is a lie, try making him jealous of you by doing the same. dont confront him like joey or you might end up the same

[twicebetrayed]

I went through that with my husband (then fiance) about 8 years ago... I forgave and forgot and he hadn't touched the computer in years. He recently started playing poker online and last week I saw some emails from and to and some girl he'd apparently been cybering with. They've also talked on the phone. She made reference to thinking of him that night while she was in bed. She even asked him about our children. We have and 8, 4, and 2 year old. I'm sure she doesn't know about me. He probably told her we were separated or something. I've installed spy software on our computer and haven't mentioned it top him yet, even though it's tearing me apart. I'm 29 years old and we're been together for 14 years. So i've been where you are and he's back to his old ways. I fully trusted him and believed it would never happen again. I don't know if I should try to work it out or not. The saying goes "Fool me once, shame on you, fool me twice, shame on me", right?

[Aaron]

sorry to say but yes, "fool me twice, shame on me"

i wish u wernt put in this situation, why does it have t happen!! AAARRGGHHH

[brensgrrl]

All men masturbate. Who cares if he does it alone? You shouldn't care unless some floozy is helping him. Monitor your computer. I cannot emphazise this enough. Many women are computer illiterate, and that is their undoing. Install some monitoring software that does screen captures.

Another thing is to absolutely ban ****( it can be done!) and do not allow web or cyber cams in the home. The only thing webcams are good for is allowing someone to watch and encourage him while he masturbates (or allowing him to watch HER). Simply remove the cam and put it away. Save it
for when the kids are talking to Grandma or Grandpa.

If he wants help masturbating, he should come to YOU--not get on the web.

[MuffinMan]

All men masturbate. Who cares if he does it alone? You shouldn't care unless some floozy is helping him. .

Men have to do it. As Seinfeld said, "its part of our lifestyle".

Men have to do it because their women have WAAAAY too many headaches or excuses to not have sex.

Be glad men masturbate...better that than cheating. I don't do it to keep from cheating...I just do it because I rarely get sex.

But since I have a wife who has cheated in the past...I really don't care if she wants to have sex or not.

[Skirtchaser]

And if you are a truly caring wife you will give hubby's mule a wank or two if you have a headache.

[markus]

Every man has the right to beat his meat ... and if you dont like it then suck him off a bit more often

[elainegayla]

its ok for them to "beat the meat" but it should be him alone not some girl on the internet. I know for experience where that ends up. He will eventually graduate to phone sex with them and then meeting in person for sex.

Don't care what men say...its not right...it leads to the inevitable...or an addiction...how would he feel if you were doing yourself on a webcam with some strange man?

I was so ignorant about this stuff...when I found out what my hubby had been doing, I went into a chatroom and within 2 minutes I had some guy pulling his PeePee out and wacking off to me on his webcam. I was so disgusted! Its easy, cheap, and disgusting. What kind of loser woman would want to watch that?

[MuffinMan]

iwhen I found out what my hubby had been doing, I went into a chatroom and within 2 minutes I had some guy pulling his PeePee out and wacking off to me on his webcam. I was so disgusted! Its easy, cheap, and disgusting. What kind of loser woman would want to watch that?

Question is...did you watch?..LOL...could he see you on webcam?

[elainegayla]

Its funny because I was ducking...I knew he couldn't see me (I don't have a webcam) but I FELT like he could. And yes, I watch about 2 seconds and freaked out and turned the computer off!

[MuffinMan]

Its funny because I was ducking...I knew he couldn't see me (I don't have a webcam) but I FELT like he could. And yes, I watch about 2 seconds and freaked out and turned the computer off!

Well..you could have flashed him your boobs and he would have never known then...LOL.

[elainegayla]

No offense, but if you've seen one you've seen them all. Women are not nearly as fascinated by the one-eyed snake as men are. As long as it works , is big enough for us to feel it and the operator knows what to do with it, women are happy.

[MuffinMan]

No offense, but if you've seen one you've seen them all. Women are not nearly as fascinated by the one-eyed snake as men are. As long as it works , is big enough for us to feel it and the operator knows what to do with it, women are happy.

Well damn...then I sure as hell don't know why my little fickle wife cheated then.

[elainegayla]

I know I'm not that type, and according to my husband their are plenty of women out their interested in d*cks (pun intended) but I can't imagine a woman interested in "just sex".

Do this women have abnormally high testatorne levels? All the "experts" claim woman need the relatinship, feelings etc. Thats how I am. I wouldn't be interested in sex with a stranger AT ALL (unless I was REALLY REALLY REALLY out of my mind drunk).

Are women becoming men? Is this a part of the after affect of the women's movement? Or was my husband lieing (that would be a first! LOL) and he really did have a relationship with these women? Or did these women think sex with a man they met on the internet and blew into town for sex was actually going to fall in love and have a relationship with them?

This is one of my big unanswered questions. Crissy and other women cheaters, your input here would be greatly appreciated. This is a chance to add constructive input on this site and help out those that tried to help you.

[MuffinMan]

This is one of my big unanswered questions. Crissy and other women cheaters, your input here would be greatly appreciated. This is a chance to add constructive input on this site and help out those that tried to help you.


NO!!!!! Crissy's input here is NOT appreciated. All Crissy does is make excuses for cheaters....putting the blame on the betrayed.

And people, including myself, did try to help Crissy until it was plainly obvious that she could not ditch her part-time d!ck while her husband was risking his life in Iraq. He has enough to worry about getting killed, or worse...adbucted and getting beheaded, without having to worry about WHY his wife is getting pounded by another man.