Stoped communicating with him only after baby

[phillipsosophy]

This is an update to my previous thread "My innocent Japanese wife". After making up a creative story about being able to view old text messages from her phone and her calls only then admited that after the 1 year 1 month affair she still continued to email and talk to this guy for 7 more months... This time she tells me she loved me and was happy in our marriage. The only reason why she stopped contact with him was because she got pregnant with our 2nd child. I was ready to start moving forward until I found this out...What does this mean? She never would have stopped? She claims she knew she had no future with this man but yet she would risk our marriage just to see how he was doing? This to me cheapens our whole marriage and "love story". She says that since then she has changed and I am her future and she would never do anything like that again. We married only one year after high school, way too young. She says that she was a "girl" then and not a "woman". Should I believe this?? It sounds possible but I just dont want to be a ****ing door mat. The last 3 years of our marriage have been wonderful and heartfelt. She felt cooped up then but now she says she has changed and appriciates her life. Does this sound realistic to all of you out there? ADVIVE PLEASE!! Im dieing here!

[artyp3]

I was married for 17 when my loser of wife cheated on me and she was Thai
Now I am very happy to have my divorce she has nothing she lost the house and most of all her respect.
In your case get her out of your life and start over she is not worth it once a cheater always and loser think about this can you trust her? will you ever forgive and forget what she has done not just to you but to evryone else and most of all her self its all about EGO and I can tell you this she will do it again think very very hard on what you need to do. Hard it is let her find out what she has done can she ever help and mend your broken heart and I hope you joking by saying "innocent".
I have not even meet her and I do like her. She trash in my eyes and a disgrace to the Japanese way of life just like my ex she has is not even called a Thai no more for her disgrace and hse must live with that for life.
I tried very hard to make it work but when your daughter of 13 comes to you and says to think you where going to take her back WOW that made me think and say to my now ex I will never ever take you back and she wanted me to take her back but may times and I said for what. and the piece of **** that was with her dumped her now she has a new one but will not last with him either. She still things the world is for her and she finding out that it is not I hope the best for you and that you do the right thing and God Bless you

[markus]

Well she is human regardless of her past so maybe since ending the affair she has had time to appreciate you and the children
Still you are better off knowing the full truth rather than having false idea of events
in this case it looks like circumstances kept your family together , if you didn't have children and work/army commitments didn't get in the way then she would have dumped your ass long time ago

[toamsingm]

But you have way too many doubts to be sure of anything now. Not that you know the truth you need to evaluate of you can pull through this for your family or it is better that you walk.