She say,s he was just a friend, WRONG!!!!

[gregor_51]

I met my wife eight years ago, She had a bad marriage and ended it with a affair with this married guy and later broke it off when I met her. I knew they still talked sometimes about computer problems at her office to help her, but she told me that was all. I believed her for all these years. She is 45 and Im 55 now and thought we had a good marriage. I had some issues with her kids living with us and that was causing some problems, but I worked thru them. Sex was very good, but she is very sexual demanding and I was not always ready to preform all the time liked she wanted. I can hold my own but my wife is a very horney women. I think this other guy knew this also because he never went away. I found out in the end that she would call him every morning on her way to work and again on the way home. I can only go back two years on the Verison account. I was sick when I seen that.
I called her out on it and she begged me to believe her that they were just friends and talking about their kids.
So I did..........I then installed a FREE software called
ChatChecker on her computer to check her IM Message and found the truth that they got together a few times and had sex. We now go to MC but I still cant think she stopped talking with this dude. We are working on our marriage now and she says she loves me so much more now. If I find out she is still even talking to this FRIEND
of hers, I out of here!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[markus]

Mc or no Mc ..... You know she would be on his **** right now if she had half a chance .....and you also know that they have made an agreement to lay low for a while

thats the kind of women you've married ... a selfish **** hunter

[Adam Bomb 1701]

Don't bother with marriage (or "couples" or "relationship") counseling. Chuck it. Any affair is never their fault - it's always yours. She will spin that HER affair is YOUR fault - that you never paid enough attention to her, that everything wrong with her life is your fault, and all those other lies. And the syncophatic "therapist" will take her side. They always do. Start looking for a lawyer now, and CYA.

[toamsingm]

You seem like a straight up guy, especially putting up with some one else kids when at your age you didnt have to, so there you went far beyond anything you had to do for this woman. Keep in mind that the MC is there to make something that is her fault, BOTH of your faults. So instead of having problems because she cheated, you really had problems because all this time you neglected her needs. The 2 previous posters nailed the nail on the head. It may seem harsh and judgemental but they are telling you how it is. She lied about the cheating, how do you know she isnt lying now???? Where is trust??.....I wish you the best and if you ever need some one to talk to as a Buddy, one friend to another, as a friend you would drink beer and watch football with I am here for you. As most are some of these guys that refuse to be pussified.......

[jnj express]

hey gregor------------as i think you really already know, let's go back to the beginning. this guy took her out of her first marriage, and as you are thinking he never went away. I think relationship wise you have been getting sloppy seconds for the whole time you have been married----------------she calls this guy twice a day every day to discuss how HE THINKS SHE SHOULD CONDUCT HER DAY---------------I wouldn't be surprised if she was talking to him and thinking of him on yours and her WEDDING DAY, and i am just willing to bet she has had sex a whole lot more than she admits to OVER THE COURSE OF YOUR ENTIRE MARRIAGE-----------------------you don't need a MC, you need to lay down the law and enforce NO CONTACT with this guy from now on forever, and i would use a private investigator to check on her for a good month, if necessary. She also needs to make some amends to you for the way she has been decieving you. BUT BOTTOM LINE, i don't have any idea how you could ever trust her again, and you might love her enough to stay with her, but i think you need to end this marriage, or -------------------maybe a trial seperation, and let us see how your wife functions completely on her own financially, socially ,and every other way, she may not want to do that, she may not be able to do that, if you want to stay with her let her know it is totally you and no one else in any way shape or form ever again, or hit the road jack and don't come back no more.

[SuckerFree]

Re-read your first sentence you posted. You are paying for a younger woman with a large sexual appetite. It depends on how you look at it. With her history and personality, you couldn't actually expect her to be different with you. What's the rule. People's relationships end the same way their last one did.