Heartbroken

[GED]

We,ve Been Together For 7 Years
Evry Night Was The Same We'd Put Our Two Children To Bed
We'd Go Downstairs She's Then Light Up Her Marajuana And She'd Be In There All Night Long It Ended Up That She Was Smoking It Through The Day Then She Started To Change She Was Demanding More And More Money Off Me I Just Couldnt Earn Enough For Her
Nothing Was Happening In The Bedroom She Told Her Dad I Learned Later That She Hadnt Loved Me For The Last 3 Years Her Dad Said Why Dont You Speak To Him About It But She Said She'd Tried But We Just End Up Arguing
But She Never Tried To Tell Me What Was Wrong She Lied
I Found Out She'd Been Sending Pictures Of Herself With Nothing On
And Videos To This Certain Number
I Have Left She Asked Me To
Thisguy Is A What Yo Ucall A Coke Head
She Has Gone The Same Way Ive Contacted The Police They Said They'd Been Round But Couldnt Find Any Drugs
There Was Food In The Cupboards So The 2 Children Are Fine
Ivecontacted The Social Workers They Dont Want To Know
Theres Nothing I Can Do
Apart From All That I Am So Broken Hearted The Pain Comes And Goes But I Am Willing To Forget It If Only I Could Have All Of My Family Back Including Her It Hurts So Much
I Asked Her Why What Was The Reason And Her Stupid Answer Was
Because Im Ffing Ugly And Becuse She Hates My Music It Depresses Her I Hardly Play Any Music This Women Who Was My Wife And A Good Mother As Changed Into A Person Who Doesnt Iron Doesnt Clean The House,leaves Plates And Pans In The Sink,the Toilets Are Caked,and She Hates Me I Was Working 7 Days A Week To Get The Money She Wanted And To Pay Bilols And Pay The Owner Of The Taxi Firm His £175 A Week The Pressure Was Intense
Ive Actually Bought Myself Some Clothes Now And Ive Paid My Overdraft Off And Ive Also Got Money In The Bank Since The First Time In 7 Years Since I Met Her
My Head Says She's No Good
But My Heart Well They Say Your Heart But Its In My Belly That It Aches So Badly The Big Question Is Why

I Said To Her As I Was Leaving You Know Something I Said All Of Your Friends Ar Eeither Drug Dealers Or Druggies She Said No Their Not I Said Go On Name One Then That Isnt And She Couldnt
So These Two Comedians Are On Drugs Her Boyfriend Has Been In Prison What For I Dont Know
I Seriously Hope He's Not A I Cant Spell It A Pedophole
But As Long As Shes Getting Her Stuff The World Is Great
She Was Going Through £350 A Week And There Was Never Any Food In The Cupboards, I Feel Sorry For Any Person Who's Partner As An Addict Of Any Kind Cause You Do Tend To Blame Yourself As I Have Done She's Changed And My Kids Are Living With Two Druggies And Im Here In Pain Thats So Damm Strong
I Miss My Family So Badly

[markus]

My Head Says She's No Good
But My Heart Well They Say Your Heart But Its In My Belly That It Aches So Badly The Big Question Is Why

She's a good for nothing tramp , forget what your heart is saying and concentrate on getting the children away from that life
if you could call that a life

[GED]

Thank You Marcus Thats Very Nice Of You
Ive Tried To Get My Babies But The Social Workers Wont Listen To Me
The Pol;ice Said That They Went Round But They Couldnt
Find Any Drugs And That There Was Food In The House
I Pray To God That Nothing Happens To Them
Thanks Marcus Ged

[elainegayla]

I'm so sorry. That really sucks for you and the kids.

Would her family agree to help you do an intervention concerning the drugs for her sake and for the kids' sake?

Do you know what an intervention is? If not, I can tell you more.

Try talking with her parents, siblings, old friends of hers that are not druggies and see if they will do an intervention with or without you. Stress the fact that its for her sake and the kids and you aren't doing it for revenge or to win her back. Lay out the FACTS about her drug history. Try to stay calm so they will take you seriously.

You may not get her back even if she goes off drugs but you can at least have peace of mind concerning the welfare of your children.

In the end, the decision will be hers but an intervention with everyone that loves her just might do the trick....might get her to see her problem.

I know a little bit about what you are going through, so if you need to vent your feelings or talk or ask me anything...you can send me a PM and I will try to help. Start reading all you can about addictions.

Good luck. God bless.

[GED]

That Makes An Awful Lot Of Sense I Felt Like Ive Used Up Every Avenue But This May Be Opne More

You've Been Very Kind

[tomasingm]

should find something in her car ;), like drugs, or a stolen fire arm, I mean that kind of thing could lead to her arrest and possible drug test shwing that sh eis a drug abuse and would only hurt her in a custody battle for the children. I mean heaven forbid. Sometimes my friend all it take for evil to prevail over good is for good men to do nothing.......

[littlered]

Situations like this totally suck. :mad: Can you talk to her family at ALL? Can you get them involved? The intervention thing is a good idea, but she may not listen to anybody at this point. Your main number one goal has got to be to GET THOSE KIDS OUTA THERE. Maybe get a PI to find out where they go to get their stuff. Use what the PI finds out in custody court.

[Lifeisshort02]

my friend you ain't alone, a really close realative of mine just went through a similar situation, always having overdrafts because of his wife, at a time it went to about $1000 in a week, $2000 in a month, and imagine that for a person who only makes about $500 in two weeks, with gas,electric bills, insurance, you name it. right now your main focus should be gettin the children back, because sadly enough there will never be a future between you and her ever again, dont expect it. She has gone to a point of no return, after getting the children back, be prepared because she will be trying to envade your lives, phone calls, unexpected drop ins, stuff like that. trying to disrupt, but just as long as you are able to get the kids, you'll be better off. Their futures will be very dim if they stay with a mother like that, i've seen it happen, a certain lady here left her husband because of a somewhat similar situation, she apparently wanted "The good life". she wanted a lifestyle higher than her limits. she ran off with the kids, thinking and saying that she could take better care of them better, but sadly today, the lady can't control the first born, smoking, stealing, even their future in terms of schools seems dim. Just keep your head up man if you are able to get the kids, you'll be fine. The rest will just be down hill, from there.