headhoncho
09-02-2006, 05:16 AM
Me and my wife have been married for 5 years. A few years back I decided to be an idiot and chat online with women and flirt and be a typical pig man. Well needless to say, my wife busted me 3 times. I felt horrible. I am now done with that. I still chat and wife knows...I no longer am naughty.
I have been a jerk to wife because I am not able to deal with issues she has in her life. It almost seems as if she is punishing me and I am always wrong. This past year has been rough for us financially. I quit a job that paid well and was unemployed for 9 months. I now have a good job again and things are getting back on track.
She had gained some weight after our child was born but she was still very physically attractive to me. Now she is losing the weight and getting her self-esteem back. She looks great and I tell her that all the time.
Well, about 2-3 months ago she started using msypace. Not my thing but I;m not one to tell my wife what she can and can't do. Well, it seems that she has connected with some of her old pals that she used to sleep with. Doesn't make me happy. So she went to NJ in July to visit her mom and meet up with these guys and gals she used to hang with. I didn't think anything of it. A few weeks later I came home from work late and she had kept her myspace open. I was snooping and saw how she had wanted to meet with these old flames and hook up. She went on about how much of a jerk I am and how the marriage is over. She woke up and we talked. I still didn't feel good about it all.
Then a few days later while in bed her phone kept beeping with text msgs at 2am. I went to go shut her phone down and saw a rude msg from some ex of hers. I started to text him on my wifes phone and he just more crude. I then text him on my phone and told him what I thought. He then text me and said that he is married to and just having some fun and the he won't do it again.
Well, I was up late tonight and wife was asleep and I was curious as to what's on her phone. She has more rude and crude msgs from this guy not to mention some naughty pics. I am no prude when it comes to sex. I would love to have sex with her everyday if possible.
So aftre I confronted her about that she says that she loves me and is just flirting. She feels good again losing weight. But am concerned because this guy seemed to be making plans for her b-day in two months. I am going to ask her when she plans on going to PA again (thats where this a-hole lives) when she wakes up.
I want things to work out between us but it doesn't help the cause when she is out searching for sex from other men and possibly women! What do I do? I am so pissed off and confused right now.
She has been nice to me and even has had sex with me which she hasn't in a long time. I think that she is just lulling me into a false sense of security. What she doesn't realize is that I used to be one of those pigs that would love a married woman to tell me she wasn't happy at home. Men thrive on that stuff. They always think that it's an opportunity for no-strings sex. Plus it boosts their ego by "being the man" that can satisfy her. I feel that she is being used and is very confused. She is starting to look and feel good about herself and seems to want to hear it from other men. Maybe even act upon some of these nasty texts and emails she gets.
Would love to hear any and all suggestions......
HH
I have been a jerk to wife because I am not able to deal with issues she has in her life. It almost seems as if she is punishing me and I am always wrong. This past year has been rough for us financially. I quit a job that paid well and was unemployed for 9 months. I now have a good job again and things are getting back on track.
She had gained some weight after our child was born but she was still very physically attractive to me. Now she is losing the weight and getting her self-esteem back. She looks great and I tell her that all the time.
Well, about 2-3 months ago she started using msypace. Not my thing but I;m not one to tell my wife what she can and can't do. Well, it seems that she has connected with some of her old pals that she used to sleep with. Doesn't make me happy. So she went to NJ in July to visit her mom and meet up with these guys and gals she used to hang with. I didn't think anything of it. A few weeks later I came home from work late and she had kept her myspace open. I was snooping and saw how she had wanted to meet with these old flames and hook up. She went on about how much of a jerk I am and how the marriage is over. She woke up and we talked. I still didn't feel good about it all.
Then a few days later while in bed her phone kept beeping with text msgs at 2am. I went to go shut her phone down and saw a rude msg from some ex of hers. I started to text him on my wifes phone and he just more crude. I then text him on my phone and told him what I thought. He then text me and said that he is married to and just having some fun and the he won't do it again.
Well, I was up late tonight and wife was asleep and I was curious as to what's on her phone. She has more rude and crude msgs from this guy not to mention some naughty pics. I am no prude when it comes to sex. I would love to have sex with her everyday if possible.
So aftre I confronted her about that she says that she loves me and is just flirting. She feels good again losing weight. But am concerned because this guy seemed to be making plans for her b-day in two months. I am going to ask her when she plans on going to PA again (thats where this a-hole lives) when she wakes up.
I want things to work out between us but it doesn't help the cause when she is out searching for sex from other men and possibly women! What do I do? I am so pissed off and confused right now.
She has been nice to me and even has had sex with me which she hasn't in a long time. I think that she is just lulling me into a false sense of security. What she doesn't realize is that I used to be one of those pigs that would love a married woman to tell me she wasn't happy at home. Men thrive on that stuff. They always think that it's an opportunity for no-strings sex. Plus it boosts their ego by "being the man" that can satisfy her. I feel that she is being used and is very confused. She is starting to look and feel good about herself and seems to want to hear it from other men. Maybe even act upon some of these nasty texts and emails she gets.
Would love to hear any and all suggestions......
HH