Can men NOT stray?

[elainegayla]

Just for my own sanity ...I need to know if there are any men out there that have been married for a decent amount of time (say 5 or more years) that have NOT cheated. I don't know you, so no need to lie. Ony post if you remained faithful (as opposed to not been caught).

I'm gonna define cheating as no internet hook-ups, no phone-sex, nothing that you wouldn't feel comfortable admitting to your wife.

Is this possible? Are there ANY out there?

[exhausted]

Me!!!

I will tell my wife anything.. I thought she would tell me.. but, I guess I was wrong...:(

and BTW.. Is looking at **** cheating? :confused:
I wouldn't chat or have phone sex or any of that other mumbo jumbo.. I don't roll like that..

If so, disregard this reply.. BTW my wife knows I look at it..:)

[goldpine]

GOOD QUESTION????
I start to question it as well....

Just looking at ****...thats not cheating...those are things husband and wife should be able to do together...right?

[elainegayla]

I don't know what to think here. Only one?!

Exhausted...want to get married? :D

[exhausted]

I don't know what to think here. Only one?!



That's what I was thinking!!!

One thing I have learned in my short life is, you only get one-shot at life!!
So, why would you want it to be difficult while your here?

And I have learned alot with the "****" stuff I look at..:D more than most men think they know!! I don't want to get into details. Trust me!!;)


Exhausted...want to get married? :D

If my Marriage ever goes sour again.. I will look ya up..

[elainegayla]

It seems to me that no man but Exhausted has a right to be pissed off about their wives cheating.

Like I told my hubby, your the head of the family and I follow your lead.

If fedility isn't important to you (when you're committing it) then don't expect it to be important to your wives.

[exhausted]

It seems to me that no man but Exhausted has a right to be pissed off about their wives cheating.

Like I told my hubby, your the head of the family and I follow your lead.

If fedility isn't important to you (when you're committing it) then don't expect it to be important to your wives.

WE HAVE A WINNER!!!:D

That would be the pot calling the kettle black wouldn't it?

[littlered]

And I have learned alot with the "****" stuff I look at.. more than most men think they know!! I don't want to get into details. Trust me!! --from exhausted

A funny thing happened a few years ago. I was getting ready for work and had turned the tv on to see what the weather was doing (something I almost never did, but it was starting to rain really hard.) Onto the screen pops ****, and these three people were going at it, all the "uhhhhnnn, uhhhhn, UHNNNNNN!" and I yelled my husband's name, as it was clear he'd been watching it after I fell asleep. (I wasn't mad...**** doesn't bother me unless it's something he wanted to see ALL the time, ya know? *shrug*) It was just a shocker to turn the TV on while I'm stumbling around still half-asleep.

Anyhow, my husband comes into the room, looks at the TV and says,

"Aw, ****! I *USUALLY* remember to change the channel before I turn it off."

LOL--BUSTED!!! And by his own mouth. I still laugh when I remember it.:D

[elainegayla]

Only one man worth it on this whole site.

I give up. UNCLE!!!

[Icon73]

No cheating here, 12 years married , 14 years together. I cook (at one time professionaly) and do laundry. :D

[elainegayla]

Thanks for taking the time to share that. I need to believe its possible.

[exhausted]

I know I have already posted..

But, background..

11 yrs married(almost) and been together almost 16 yrs.

[SuckerFree]

Of course Men can not stray. What a dumb, generalized statement. If you bothered to do some simple research, these days many studies have shown more Women than Men are now unfaithful. I personally know of not a single Woman who has not commited adultery.

[Duck Quacker]

I am just one of Millions of Men, who do not cheat in relationships.
However rarely are these Faithfull men Edified, for their Fidelity, so it seems all men cheat because that's what you do hear about because people talk about Dirty laundry not clean laundry....

I was together with a woman for 14 years,
whom after the first year of living together chose to be my wife of her own free will, and confirmed it in 2 different weddings on 2 diferent continents,
3 years apart.

I never cheated on her any of those 14 years any of that time all open book policy. After she Abandoned me on the 14th year, after coming back from a family vacation only she attended. I never cheated on her for another 7 years after she left the continent 7 years passed and the lonelyness
was just too much to bear anymore and the right person showed up in my life then, so I guess you could say I cheated on her then , but who wouldn't ?

This was not do to a Lack of offers,
it was more do to how much what I had felt for her, meant to me.
Obviously It didn't count much to her :)

Appretiation of the good, forgiving and attempting with serious intent....to forget, is the Key To Happiness, which comes from Peace, after you have forgiven,them that are just like us, who know not what they do, yet do it anyway.
About a Million Timesover and over again.
Forgive them you and the rest of the world
no small task and you will eventualy find the one who doesn't cheat.

Here is a bit of advise after much observation :

Try and be aware of details, and appretiate those who are aware and appretiate the same details of ethics that you do, the results may surprise you

God Bless !
Quack Duck

[SuckerFree]

Good point. No one ever talks about the good things people do.

[elainegayla]

I told me hubby all the time how I got the best guy b/c he was the only husband I knew didn't cheat.

I guess that must have felt a little akward since he WAS cheating. He says he doesn't remember me ever saying that. I said it a lot. I think he must of blocked it out so he could live with his sorry ass.

But I do get your point.

BTW. My hubby never thanked ME for not cheating.

[MuffinMan]

Just for my own sanity ...I need to know if there are any men out there that have been married for a decent amount of time (say 5 or more years) that have NOT cheated. I don't know you, so no need to lie. Ony post if you remained faithful (as opposed to not been caught).

I'm gonna define cheating as no internet hook-ups, no phone-sex, nothing that you wouldn't feel comfortable admitting to your wife.

Is this possible? Are there ANY out there?

I have never cheated on any girlfriend or my wife...but my wife has cheated on me.
Maybe I should cheat to get even and see how she likes it.

And you posted this in the wrong section...this is the Cheating Wives section, not Cheating men/husbands.

[jnj express]

hey elainegayla--------------i have been married 28 years, never even thought about cheating-my wife is the sun, moon, and stars, -why would i even think of wanting another--------------plus in both of our cases---our marriage would end right now if either of us did anything in the way of cheating------

[Skirtchaser]

two marriages, 18 first time 13 now, never cheated should have on the first one tho, it was what I got in return for those 18, I pity the fool who wound up with her
:cool:

[markus]

The question should be 'can humans not stray ?'

The temptation is there for all of us ....... For example i wouldn't have an affair but if a super model started came onto me you would need a jcb to stop me pounding her pussy :D

[elainegayla]

Both men and women cheat. But I doubt seriously more women cheat then men.

As for me, I was never tempted. I don't know. I thought of myself as a married person and it didn't even enter into my mind. I valued my family and didn't want to lose it.

And the reason I posted on this section is because I figured more men would be here instead of the "cheating husband " section and I was asking men. I know A LOT of women that haven't cheated on their husbands. None of my friends have and none of the women in my family have.

I really don't want to get into the men vs women thing. Its beside the point. I'm assuming most of us have been cheated on and we need to figure out the important things like how to cope, whether to stay or go, how to rebuild our marriage if we want, and to support those that decide to leave (or stay).

[markus]

I think its about 45% of women cheat and men are slightly higher ...thats around 90% of relationships someone will cheat at some stage
Its quite a scary stat :eek:

You'd have to be very lucky in life to avoid infidelity ... thats why i stay with my wife - Its better to repair her and stay with my children than go and find another slapper - plus its cheaper

The more i see the bigger picture it makes me realise that its natures problem
- some wouldn't have it any other way , they look forward to the possibility of an affair but the majority fall into it like a trap and its hard to get out of ..... especially Coworkers
You can kiss goodbye to your wife's pussy once she gets an office job ,The money she brings home is really payment from her boss for loaning her pussy
You may as well go in there with her in advance and negotiate the wages based on her look's, body and pussy tightness

I fu*ked up ... my wife only got the minimum wage

[tomasingm]

I think its about 45% of women cheat and men are slightly higher ...thats around 90% of relationships someone will cheat at some stage
Its quite a scary stat :eek:

You'd have to be very lucky in life to avoid infidelity ... thats why i stay with my wife - Its better to repair her and stay with my children than go and find another slapper - plus its cheaper

The more i see the bigger picture it makes me realise that its natures problem
- some wouldn't have it any other way , they look forward to the possibility of an affair but the majority fall into it like a trap and its hard to get out of ..... especially Coworkers
You can kiss goodbye to your wife's pussy once she gets an office job ,The money she brings home is really payment from her boss for loaning her pussy
You may as well go in there with her in advance and negotiate the wages based on her look's, body and pussy tightness

I fu*ked up ... my wife only got the minimum wage


Markus you are truly wise beyond your years......(Whatever age that is)

[markus]

Im 34 but ive aged an extra 15 years in the last 5 months :D

[Tawnee1969]

I think its about 45% of women cheat and men are slightly higher ...thats around 90% of relationships someone will cheat at some stage
Its quite a scary stat :eek:

Wouldn't it be better to think that only the partners of those 45% of woman (plus a few extras) cheated?

Then we could think that about 50% of relationships are TOTALLY faithful to each other....

*also believes in fairys and Peter Pan*:p

[littlered]

I doubt the numbers are that much different than they've always been. People have cheated since the beginning of time. It's just now become more socially acceptable. And more on the media.
either you are going to be faithful, or not. It is your decision.

[SuckerFree]

Just for my own sanity ...I need to know if there are any men out there that have been married for a decent amount of time (say 5 or more years) that have NOT cheated. I don't know you, so no need to lie. Ony post if you remained faithful (as opposed to not been caught).

I'm gonna define cheating as no internet hook-ups, no phone-sex, nothing that you wouldn't feel comfortable admitting to your wife.

Is this possible? Are there ANY out there?


My initial response to this was gonna be, of course their are men that won't stray. Then I thought about it. I know of exactly zero friends, or family members that have not had to deal with infidelity at one time or another. Wow, what a scary thought. I will think more of this subject when I'm in a hotel room in Rio two weeks from now with a couple of 10's.

[blkbird]

I hate to burst your bubble(even though mine has been burst) but I was reading a study that found 80% of couples will experience cheating a some point during their time together. How freaking depressing is that? I've never cheated on my wife but she's apparently stepping out. So I give up also nothing is worth this pain and agrrivation!

[ironyrulz]

The question should be 'can humans not stray ?'

The temptation is there for all of us ....... For example i wouldn't have an affair but if a super model started came onto me you would need a jcb to stop me pounding her pussy :D

but you've already admitted to stepping out... and feeling entitled to it "i wasn't going to spend the rest of my life with one pussy"; your wife probably realized if she needed to get tested for std's anyway, she might as well have some fun too. Hopefully she's still doing it for an outlet so she doesn't end up hurting you to end the emotional abuse. A woman scorned...

[MuffinMan]

but you've already admitted to stepping out... and feeling entitled to it "i wasn't going to spend the rest of my life with one pussy"; your wife probably realized if she needed to get tested for std's anyway, she might as well have some fun too. Hopefully she's still doing it for an outlet so she doesn't end up hurting you to end the emotional abuse. A woman scorned...

Markus' wife cheated on him...not the other way around.

Learn of what you speak before spewing bullsh!t. Where did Markus admit to stepping out? Please cite your assertions. He said what he said above because his wife is the one who cheated....so by your own logic, iron, he has the right to go out and screw other women since she is the one that betrayed the trust.

Its obvious that you condone cheating from women and excuse it to the hills as evidenced by your posts.

[Skirtchaser]

Don't pay the slu.t no mind. She's got her head up her a.ss.
What a wh.ore.

[ironyrulz]

I thought I read in an old post that Markus was a virgin when he married, so he felt entitled to stepping out to experience more than one pussy in life. Browser history doesn't let me go back to that post. I'm really sorry for upsetting him if my memory's going. But why didn't he respond to this himself?

[markus]

Talking out your asshole as usuall

[MuffinMan]

but you've already admitted to stepping out... and feeling entitled to it "i wasn't going to spend the rest of my life with one pussy";

I'm not saying he didn't post this, but I sure can't find it anywhere.

Can you show us where he said he cheated on his wife first?

[mrmaximum]

That's what I was thinking!!!

One thing I have learned in my short life is, you only get one-shot at life!!
So, why would you want it to be difficult while your here?


That's it in a nutshell, why would you want to spend your life with a cheater? You can never trust them ever again and you will never be able to get over the betrayal 100% so why stay? Those of you who are staying for your kids, my hats off to you, your hearts are in the right place and your children will understand and appreciate what you had to go through. Those of you who stay without kids, well, I have to respect your conviction and wish you the best even if I don't agree. One more thing, it's the same thing for being with someone who just doesn't get it! Why stay? I'm not making an excuse for someone like Logan's buddy who is cheating because he isn't getting it at home, but why would you stay with someone like that who obviously doesn't care about you? Life is too short and you may as well be happy, once a day is gone, it's gone for good, why compromise in this manner?

Oh, I can't reply to this thread because I'm not married yet, but after 5 years I will reply, I will never cheat!!

[Skirtchaser]

Me!!!

I will tell my wife anything.. I thought she would tell me.. but, I guess I was wrong...:(

and BTW.. Is looking at **** cheating? :confused:
I wouldn't chat or have phone sex or any of that other mumbo jumbo.. I don't roll like that..

If so, disregard this reply.. BTW my wife knows I look at it..:)

That's because you have some moral fiber about yourself. It seems like some who post here just can't understand a man who lives like that in this day and age. We are out there, problem is most of us are already taken. :cool:

[Faithful_One]

Sorry to jump in a few months late. I have been married for 12 years and have been in a relationship with my Wife for a total of 18 years. She is the only Woman in my entire life I have been faithful to. Only once have I even been tempted to stray. (never acted on it). I think there are a lot more Faithful men out there than we really get credit for.

[trevormac]

Both men and women cheat. But I doubt seriously more women cheat then men.

As for me, I was never tempted. I don't know. I thought of myself as a married person and it didn't even enter into my mind. I valued my family and didn't want to lose it.

And the reason I posted on this section is because I figured more men would be here instead of the "cheating husband " section and I was asking men. I know A LOT of women that haven't cheated on their husbands. None of my friends have and none of the women in my family have.

I really don't want to get into the men vs women thing. Its beside the point. I'm assuming most of us have been cheated on and we need to figure out the important things like how to cope, whether to stay or go, how to rebuild our marriage if we want, and to support those that decide to leave (or stay).

You'd be surprised. Women may seek out the company of men for more emotional reasons, but it will end up sexual anyway. Plus, if a woman is in any way half decent looking she will have plenty of opportunity, whereas a guy has to go looking for it even if he is good looking. My wife is very good looking and couldn't resist the temptation of constantly being hit on. She has very low self esteem and couldn't resist the attention even though she was being used. And she would always blame me for her cheating ways.

I have been 100% faithful for 13 years (I'm 36 now) and I've always been very good around the house with cleaning, laundry, cooking and fix'n the place up. I've never even emotionally cheated or put myself in compromising situations with other woman. When the smoke clears I have no interest whatsoever in seeking out another woman. Going to seminary and running off to Africa as a missionary seems like an attractive option right now, as I'm fed up with our rotten and depraved culture which glorifies hurtful things like cheating in movies and television.

[mrmaximum]

Hey man, what's the story? Has she cheated multiple times? If that is the case why are you still with her, do you have kids? I hear you about the culture thing though. I know it isn't really the same as my ex was only a girlfriend, but it still hurt anyway. Still, whenever I heard a song about cheating (and I don't mean bashing it, I mean glorifying it) I would get p!ssed. On of her favorites was some damn bullsh!t song about two lovers waking up in bed and having to go home early because they both had families. That drove me up the wall!! I hope you find some solace in your life. You and Muffin Man sound like you're in the same boat. When one spouse cheats and the other can't even change any offending behavior becuase there was none, (that's no justification by the way) that'll get you p!ssed right quick!!

[trevormac]

Hey man, what's the story? Has she cheated multiple times? If that is the case why are you still with her, do you have kids? I hear you about the culture thing though. I know it isn't really the same as my ex was only a girlfriend, but it still hurt anyway. Still, whenever I heard a song about cheating (and I don't mean bashing it, I mean glorifying it) I would get p!ssed. On of her favorites was some damn bullsh!t song about two lovers waking up in bed and having to go home early because they both had families. That drove me up the wall!! I hope you find some solace in your life. You and Muffin Man sound like you're in the same boat. When one spouse cheats and the other can't even change any offending behavior becuase there was none, (that's no justification by the way) that'll get you p!ssed right quick!!

Yes this is the 2nd time in 2 years (that I know of). I told her I was going to just rent a room and of course being the manipulator she is she threatened suicide, so I stayed like an idiot and she was all tears; the tears obviously nothing to do with being repentant, but her being worried about not having someone to care for her. The losers she's hooked up with are not marriage material and probably wouldn't want her moving in as she's just a piece of ass to them and a booty call. But then I looked at her phone record and saw that she phoned him a couple of times after right up to the end of her billing period. She is a Psiron and just can't help herself and she is one of the most self centered people I have ever met. She has been going out with "friends" 3 times a week so I've been marking the calendar every time she goes out and I'm going to match it with her phone bill which I'm sure will show she has phoned him one of those nights. Then, suicide or not, I'm gone. My finances are very bad right now too and she refused to leave when I asked her. So I'm going to move out and file for divorce, then she'll have no choice but to put the place up for sale and I can take my cut and go back to school which I've put off for years while she's gone to school 3 times. I feel like one of those stupid housewives that puts their husbands through medical school only to be dumped for someone younger and more attractive.

Now when any woman tells me there are no good men out there I sneer. There are lots of good men out there, woman just aren't interested in making a life with them. They'd rather chase after idiots who are exciting and preferably have a big bank account.

[mrmaximum]

You realized what was going on, sounds like there are no children in the picture and that is a good thing. You can now do one thing that a lot of other people can't do!! Get on with your life and forget about her. I'm going to warn you though, when you do move, no matter how much she begs, no matter how much she pleads. DON'T TAKE HER BACK OR GIVE HER YOUR MAILING ADDRESS. My fiancee's ex was like that too. Only cared about himself, she is scared only about her lifestyle being changed. Let her have her fun, let's see how long she enjoys it when her anchor to the good life is now gone. I'm willing to bet that you finaces will now miraculously get better now that she's gone. I just have a funny feeling. Get out, have some fun, being wiser about this, find a good woman my friend, but be discerning, there are a lot of biatches out there who wouldn't konw a good thing if it came out and bite them!!

Good Luck and God bless!!

[trevormac]

Yeah, there are no kids which is the way she wanted it. And yes, I've spent tons on her and I spend very little on myself and I've always covered well over half of the bills plus I came up with the condo down payment and spent most of the money on renos. I make about 3,000 free and clear a month and if I rent a room for 400 a month I can bank about 1500 to 2000 a month plus I'll get a little over 50,000 from our condo. I'm going to take computer networking at the local technical school and hopefully that will put me in the 80 to 100 thou range down the road, not that I ever cared that much about money, my wife is the one who always harps about me not making enough, but what the hell, it would be fun to bump into her when I've achieved the lifestyle she wanted and I'm not a part of her life anymore.

[littlered]

I agree that there are tons of faithful men out there. We just never hear about them (the media....and when was the last time you heard someone say, "that man is so faithful" instead of "he's cheating on his wife.") It's like Julius Ceasar "The evil men do oft lives after them...the good is oft interred with their bones." PLUS, the faithful ones are NOT the ones looking you over (rather than SEEING you, which is a totally different thing.) They are NOT the ones trying to buy you drinks, bragging about how their rolex is broken, their mercedes is in the shop, blahblahblah. The faithful ones are....well, home being faithful, or working to support their family, or are maybe out with the "guys" but won't be the loudest/most obnoxious ones. They know that when they are out they are representing their FAMILY. Sighhh....those guys you just gotta love. Wish the world put them up on the pedestals they deserve. I am hereby raising a glass of wine to all you "OAKS" out there!

[foeeveralways]

I don't know what to think here. Only one?!

Exhausted...want to get married? :D
21years never cheated. not ever

[hurditallb4]

what planet are you from? i want to go there!!! since my husband works and i stay home with our baby he thinks i should "do it all" even though i get a paycheck to from my father's company. if i didn't get that we would have a rough time. but he's just a male pig who gets on my nerves most of the time. :mad:

[MuffinMan]

what planet are you from? i want to go there!!! since my husband works and i stay home with our baby he thinks i should "do it all" even though i get a paycheck to from my father's company. if i didn't get that we would have a rough time. but he's just a male pig who gets on my nerves most of the time. :mad:

Well...when I get home from work..the first thing I do is start picking up toys and getting the house suitable for an evening at home. I can't stand watching TV or reading the paper with a bunch of crap all over. And I know my wife isn't going to do it...so I do.

[hurditallb4]

yeah im the one who does all the picking up. the only thing he picks up is his ass when he gets ready for work!;)

[mrmaximum]

yeah im the one who does all the picking up. the only thing he picks up is his ass when he gets ready for work!;)

Imagine a bullseye right there and consider placing your foot right in the middle......knee deep!