sixstringtuned
08-27-2006, 11:28 AM
i'm new to this so bear with me..i have been married ten year's to what i felt was my soulmate...latley i'm not so sure, lots of changes in her behavor...she work's at a golf c.c.as a bartender/server. about two month's ago she came home at 5:30 in the morn.. i told her that was disrespecful to our marrige and she became very defensive about it. now normally i'm not a jealous guy but there are limit's arn't there..she stay's after work 1-3 hour's after work to drink with her co-workers,the majority are single men, she hug's them, get's massage's from them ,and generally gushes about how great they are ..she tell's me that she should be able to stay and have drink's because they all work so hard and she deserve's it..she say's she doesn't want to come home and drink in the dark alone because i'm already sleeping,one of many silly excuse's,another was it was to dark outside to leave alone so she had to stay untill they all left.as far as coming home and drinking alone goes i have made a point to stay up on sunday nites to have a beer with her..didn't work still came home 2-3 hour's later..any suggestion's...right now she is not speaking to me because i called her a barhag and told her to go find whatever it was she was looking forand not to come home..so needless to say i'm the bad guy now and she is sleeping in another room..she has a way of turning it around on me..never admit's she might be harming our marraige by her action's in fact she say's i'm insecure and paranoid..am i ?i think my feelings' are normal but after arguing for an hour with her about it she make's me rethink thing's wear's me down any suggestion's or comment's appreciated i feel very alone...