opinions please

[elainegayla]

After the last thread, I'm almost afraid to post this, but here goes...

What the heck is up with women that do married men?

I mean, did that fat,ugly, making minimum wage, 10 years older woman my husband had a one-night stand with really think ....WHAT?

I'm not excusing the men (you have no idea!) but my mind and emotions have calmed down enough to wonder down this path.

If these women didn't give away their honor and respect, the men wouldn't have anyone to cheat on us with.

When I saw this blob, I literally laughed. I was like "man, I'm doing her husband. Piece of freaking Cake!" I thought it would bring a little fairness to the situation. However, I quickly changed my mind when I saw HIM. No use punishing myself!

Which brings me to another question...I thought men were VISUALLY STIMULATED. THe men/husbands I know that have cheated always cheat with women so skanky and ugly. Guys, help me out...what's up with that?

[sucker in cali]

My husband would lie every time I would ask him. Then he wouldn't let me wash his clothes anymore. On sundays he would go do his laundry for three to four hours and he would syill tell me there was no one else. One day I answered his cell phone and there was a ***** on the other end, he got bad and hit me , the next day I packed his bags and he was out!!!!!!!!!

[markus]

One day I answered his cell phone and there was a ***** on the other end

Its funny how you call the other one a ***** :D

[elainegayla]

I have no idea what the last two posts mean? Were they in reference to my original post?

[repulsive]

who knows why men choose the person they betray us with.. I have worked hard to keep myself in shape and I am considered to be a pretty woman according to the men in my life and those I meet in life. One man told me that he thought the reason was... ugly women know they are ugly and work harder to please a man. Do I blame the other woman? Yes... but not as much as I blame the man who swore to love, honor and cherish me for eternity. He is the one that broke his vows to me.. not her..

[elainegayla]

I agree. He told the vows. I just don't understand what women think they have to gain by this?

My husband didn't leave me, he says he had no intention of leaving and I think most men don't leave to go with the OW.

So 'm just curious...what is in it for the OW?

[Vengence]

Conquest? Challenge? Personally, those who would sleep with an attached person should be ashamed of themselves anyway (if they had morals, that is). I too would like to know as a male, what goes through someones head before they screw up a whole family. Not to let the cheater off the hook, it's their responsibility to look out for their family but really... the other person is just a scumbag.

[elainegayla]

Sure, a three way sounds great. Me, my husband, and a gorgeous man with muscles and a huge ###.

I'm not gonna do a three way with some skanky, ugly chick.

Somehow, I think if a three way was going to occur I'd be getting the short-end of the stick! Literally...LOL

[crissy]

I guess on the other hand I could ask Why is it that the wife automatically blames the other woman, she's the home wrecker, the *****. I'm not saying that blame doesn't belong there, I'm just saying why does it always seem to start with her and not the husband. Is is because as women we believe that men are so below us that they couldn't possibly be the preditors. Women are cruel to other women. Sometimes the other woman is just as unsuspecting as the wife and ends up hurt just as bad in the end. Not all cheaters are spineless unmorale creatures.

Now me, I was selfish and didn't think about the consequences of my actions. For that I will pay tremendously in the end. In the end I will end up alone without both, the man I love and the man I married. Feeling just as empty as before the act happened.

[elainegayla]

I don't BLAME the OW, I BLAME my husband PERIOD!

I'm just curious as to what they (OW) think they have to gain.

I'm not even mad at the OW. I feel sorry for them. They get used and don't even get a house or say HALF OF EVERYTHING for the effort.

[SuckerFree]

I had a friend who was single. He actually posed as a Married man. I'm not kidding, he even got a chessy wedding band. (Why are rings tradional again, nevermind). Anyways he knew that he would appeal to women this way. And he did have a substantial amount of success. His idea was that Women love the love that can never be thing. The "someday we will be together" bit. Worked like a charm. Chris Rock once said nothing was more exicting than going out, cheating on your woman or man and coming home with Herpes. Her looks were immaterial. And Crissy. We all end up alone. Judging your life by how successful your marriage was is weak. I have made it this far being single and love it. Wow, even when I start dating, the phone calls, the messages, the errands. My God what a pain. Enjoy being single when it happens. It's a transition just like anything else.

[crissy]

I can't really speak for every cheating married woman. It wasn't about what I had to gain or lose, in fact. At the very moment that (THE ACT) took place I wasn't thinking about what I stood to gain or lose. If I had I probably or at least I would like to say I would have made the right decision and walked away, ran for that matter. As sad as it may sound, for me I was caught up in the moment of believing every baldfaced lie he was feeding me, I was totally completely seduced. I had loved this man since I was in the 9th grade, been engaged to him for 3 years, and broke it off. I walked away 17 years ago and never saw him again, until the weekend of our 25th class reunion. I hate that you've been hurt. I hope this doesn't sound wrong, but I have stayed around this forum for 2 reasons. One to help those who have been cheated on, and to help deferr those who are contiplating cheating. I have been in both shoes, neither are my favorite pairs. Value yourself above all else. If your gut tells you something listen to it. Read one of Suckers quotes, Something about standing in ****, that smells, it probably is **** then. I don't how he put it, but good luck with your choices and let us know what we can do for you

[SuckerFree]

LMAO, Crissy you are too cute. it's If you stand in **** long enough, you will eventually start to smell like it.