spectrum2260
08-11-2006, 07:05 PM
Hi
Iv only been married for six months and we have had a few arguments already. It’s always about one particular person. The story is, after our honeymoon I let her stay at her mums for a week. I received a text message from the wife that was clearly intended for some one else. I cannot remember the context of the message but I think it was about going out or meeting some during work hours. I lost the text when I got a new phone. This is when I first got suspicious, as it seemed to be as if she was sending it to a male. We both agreed before we got married that we will not see any of our old partners of friends of the opposite sex. To keep things simple. I confronted her about it and she claimed it was a message that was intended for a female colleague.
As I had became more suspicious I checked a mobile phone a few weeks later. I found a message from a male colleague of hers. It read, "when are we going to meet at the pub?". She knows I will not allow this. When I questioned her she claimed that a male colleague always messed around and was just joking. I told her i did not believe her and thought it was possibly her male colleague trying it on with. I told she can continue working but must have a professional relationship with the male colleague. No texts, no unnecessary joky conversations.
Again I let her stay with her mums and the other day I got another text that was clearly intended for someone else (stupid and odd, i know). It read, "I miss you too. here at work no one here. that family just use me for lifts. I wont miss them. cant wait when your back. are you having fun?"....I know her male colleague is away on holiday with his wife and two kids and one of a her friends is also supposed to be going abroad. So, instead of rushing to conclusions. I text her and asked if her friend had gone abroad. The wife said no and that her friend was to leave in a few days. That only left a male colleague still abroad. Again (yes again) I confronted her about the text. She initially claimed it was supposed to go to her friend who she thought was abroad but was not. I told her I did not believe her. After a few phone calls and heated conversations she admitted it was intended for her male colleague. But claimed it was innocent and that they were just friends. I reminded her about our agreement and that she was to keep her distance and not get too friendly with that particular male colleague. She used the excuse he is a friend we joke about. The text message was meant to be sarcastic. I told her I wanted to see the text message he sent her. As it is clear she was replying back to him. I told her not to delete it or I will think the worst. She agreed and said she had nothing to hide. She eventually came home and I checked her phone and I could not find the first text message her male colleague sent her. She then claimed she only just remembered that she deleted when she first got it. I told her I found that very odd as she has old text messages from other people. So why delete his?. She cried said she loved and how could accuse her of cheating.
I need help I don’t know what to think. I think she has cheated on me. She has known the male colleague for 4 years. He texts her now and again. Which i have found odd, as its not about work. What do you think?
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Iv only been married for six months and we have had a few arguments already. It’s always about one particular person. The story is, after our honeymoon I let her stay at her mums for a week. I received a text message from the wife that was clearly intended for some one else. I cannot remember the context of the message but I think it was about going out or meeting some during work hours. I lost the text when I got a new phone. This is when I first got suspicious, as it seemed to be as if she was sending it to a male. We both agreed before we got married that we will not see any of our old partners of friends of the opposite sex. To keep things simple. I confronted her about it and she claimed it was a message that was intended for a female colleague.
As I had became more suspicious I checked a mobile phone a few weeks later. I found a message from a male colleague of hers. It read, "when are we going to meet at the pub?". She knows I will not allow this. When I questioned her she claimed that a male colleague always messed around and was just joking. I told her i did not believe her and thought it was possibly her male colleague trying it on with. I told she can continue working but must have a professional relationship with the male colleague. No texts, no unnecessary joky conversations.
Again I let her stay with her mums and the other day I got another text that was clearly intended for someone else (stupid and odd, i know). It read, "I miss you too. here at work no one here. that family just use me for lifts. I wont miss them. cant wait when your back. are you having fun?"....I know her male colleague is away on holiday with his wife and two kids and one of a her friends is also supposed to be going abroad. So, instead of rushing to conclusions. I text her and asked if her friend had gone abroad. The wife said no and that her friend was to leave in a few days. That only left a male colleague still abroad. Again (yes again) I confronted her about the text. She initially claimed it was supposed to go to her friend who she thought was abroad but was not. I told her I did not believe her. After a few phone calls and heated conversations she admitted it was intended for her male colleague. But claimed it was innocent and that they were just friends. I reminded her about our agreement and that she was to keep her distance and not get too friendly with that particular male colleague. She used the excuse he is a friend we joke about. The text message was meant to be sarcastic. I told her I wanted to see the text message he sent her. As it is clear she was replying back to him. I told her not to delete it or I will think the worst. She agreed and said she had nothing to hide. She eventually came home and I checked her phone and I could not find the first text message her male colleague sent her. She then claimed she only just remembered that she deleted when she first got it. I told her I found that very odd as she has old text messages from other people. So why delete his?. She cried said she loved and how could accuse her of cheating.
I need help I don’t know what to think. I think she has cheated on me. She has known the male colleague for 4 years. He texts her now and again. Which i have found odd, as its not about work. What do you think?
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