Online Cheating Husband

[Amy]

I was married for ten years and I constantly had problems with my husband cheating with women online. In June three days before our anniversary my husband stated he no longer loved me and wanted to be with one of his online girlfriends. I had thought we had worked this problem out years before. We went to counseling and everything, but he had never stoped his online affairs. He had just learned to hide it very well. He met all of his girlfriends playing online games and they would have cybersex online. The woman he left me for is some loser he met playing World of Warcraft. He stated he is madly in love with her. This woman had sent him mass amounts of nude pictures of herself and knew that he had a wife and child. One thing that makes be feel better about the whole thing is that she is extremely unattractive, but I guess he is turned on by her online character. However, even though she thinks she won him I discovered she was not the only online girlfriend he had. So he will always cheat. While I am extremely hurt by the whole thing I am glad the marriage is over. No matter what I could have done he would have always cheated and found women who got a thrill out of messing around with a married man. The only advice I can give is that eventually the online cybersex will trun into an all out physical affair. If I ever discover something like this in a future relationship it will be over immediately.

[Mandi]

how did you find out all this stuff i need to know!!

i was confident and very outgoing but these last two years with my fiance has jus tore me down to a shy quiet and very unconfident little girl. It started 6 months into r relationship he got txts on his fone saying "hi fun guy 1801 just thought id try txtin u rply sn xxx" now his bday is 18/01/1977 and hes very outgoing but he said he leant the fone to a workmate and they mustva bn for him but i had my doubts as we just got the net a few weeks b4. Then i caught him fonin up babestation and chatbox off the telly he admitted to this an said he was bored (3 nites running???) and that he was jus lookin for friends nt women and now we bought a house and got the net here and on his google there was history of date sites and **** sites the **** i cud deal wit but these dates sites are belfast (close to where we live) and casual meet and sex within a day things and tonite he had to work an extra night shift while i found out about these! he completely denied knowing nething about them and said thy must be a mistake. hes also made many trips to aol.com an i think he may have an email add there!

am i overreacting or taken for an idiot????

please help tell me wot u think im goin stir crazy!!

[Amber]

I have been married for 7 years now and we have had the net on and off. In the past he has always looked at **** and it did not bother me because he has been into that since we met. Recently I discovered that he has been going to online dating services and posted his profile. I went to them and checked out what he had written. He also has an aol email address so I sat one up too and also put a profile of a made up girl on one of the sites he visits and sent him an email. Women can join some of the sites for free but men have to pay. knowing he wouldn't pay because i would ask what the charges were for I emailed him directly and said it was from the web site. I have been having an online affair with my own husband for 2 weeks now and he has no idea. If you do it right and make sure not to use your real name on any of the emails or profiles when u are signing up for them he will never know it is u. Just make sure your fake girl works opposite hrs as him and if u can go to a friends house every now and then and IM he will never suspect a thing. then u can ask him all the questions u want as this other woman and he will tell u all the dirty little secrets he has been keeping. My husband now wants to meet his online girl and I am putting him off until I get more info then I will set up a date and he will walk in and see me sitting there with all the evidence of the emails he has sent. I hope this helps u.

[sad4ever]

I really relate to each of you. My husband started cheating by becoming friends with women at work who "just needed a friend" to talk to because their husbands were leaving them. I had great intuition and headed each off at the pass.

However, nothing prepared me for the time I found emails from my husband to a women in Washington state. He emailed her that he loved her on my anniversary while I was out for my exercise walk. It was so devastating. Then, when I thought all was done. I started to work out of town. He then decided to post a profile online and met women in our city to talk to both online and on the phone.

Just last summer, he started talking to my brother's ex-girlfriend. Giving her a computer and money so he could continue his addiction. After counseling and finding email addresses I found out he had been talking to women for the last 6 years and had met them for lunch. This is so humiliating and we have two great children. I am not by any means a women who cannot take care of herself. But the look of devastation on my children's faces when their dad told them what he had done and I told him to leave was too hard for me.

I stayed in the marriage and he is seeing a counselor for his problem. I am also seeing a counselor and we are are seeing one together. I will never trust him completely ever again and only plan to stay for the next three years until my youngest graduates high school.

He has done so much damage, it is really hard to explain. He claims he only loves me, but to see the emails he sent to people makes me ill. Anyone else have experience with this? I also want to find a support group. help.

[frostymanadvice]

Sadly online cheating has become a major problem for many relationships. It doesn't surprise me why a man or woman goes after a fantasy rather than to deal with reality. When someone who is suppose to be commited messes around on the net it is usually a sign they are seeking excitement or something new in their life. For a man it's an ego booster and for a woman it's emotional.

I believe the owner of this site created it due to that reason. His ex wife cheated as well with someone online. I remember reading his story. At least you are able to move forward. You would be surprised how many people out there are devastated to find out their spouse cheated online even if there was no physical sex involved. Emotional cheating is worse b/c of the connection the two people share.

There is plenty of software that one can put in the computer if they think their mate is cheating. Chatcheaters.com provides information on it or you can go on google and type into the search engine "spy software for computers". It will give you a list of different companies that sell it.

Frosty

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[frostymanadvise]

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