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[confusedk314]

Hey everyone. My name is Kate. I'm just starting to date this guy but I have a history with him. Back during like September he and i were together. We never made it offical but I liked him. We were "hooking up" for about 2 weeks until one night when he was at a party, got drunk, then hooked up with another girl. I stopped talking to him until about two months ago. He made it clear he was interested again. I was still hurt about what happened several months ago but at the same time I knew I wanted it again. We're now going out but I really have trouble trusting him. I don't know how serious he is about me and I'm always thinking about what happens if he gets too drunk again and hooks up with another girl. I want to trust him but I don't. I just spoke to him and he's really pissed I don't trust him and is having trouble understanding why. Does anyone have any advice me? Thanks.


-Kate

[SuckerFree]

Yes, here's some advice. This is a sexual relationship...period. Either accept it, or move on.

[exhausted]

Alcohol isn't a excuse!!! If He can get away with it then what makes you think He want use that excuse again..

If you are already having doubts then get out...

[confused]

Okay.....you had mentioned that you "hooked up" but nothing was official. But he knew you liked him. and that you had "been together" for about 2 weeks when he suddenly did another girl at a party.

I guess my only advice to you THIS TIME AROUND...would be to express your hurt and what you want out of him...rather than expressing you dont trust him.

Its not really fair for you to say you dont trust him...if indeed nothing was ever really solidified in the first place. I mean...were you or weren't you dating? Were you or weren't you exclusive to each other? Were you or weren't you going to the next level in your relationship?

This isn't your fault......But i have a tough time making him take blame either. He's a guy. And you are young..so HE is probably young.

I'm sure he's a trustworthy guy...*maybe kinda sorta*...but you have got to HAVE SOMETHING FIRST...before you can ever truly "lose it".

So.....just sit down with him...and let him know why you "feel" you cant trust him....how him being with that other girl crushed you...and you probably liked him a lot more than he was diggin you. But that if you go round AGAIN for another try......you don't want to be put in that same heart breaking situation. Is he lookin for a fun time? or a long time? Whats the scoop?

Good luck to you! and DEFINATELY keep us posted!