My Cheating WifE "Blackberry" The new Cheating Tool

[toonces]

Where to begin! My wife and I started arguing a lot and she would call me in the day to ask me how I was and chat about this and that. She was really wanting attention and I totally did not see that I was blowing her off and just wanting to get work done. What a huge Mistake!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I did not realize she was unhappy with work, unhappy with where we lived and basically unhappy. All of the signs you see on this site were there. Every one! I did not see them. She was drinking all afternoon and coming home telling me she had a long day at work. She was actually getting off early going to the bar and taking off her wedding ring right when she got their.
She was cheating with this guy who would listen to her! He obviously was giving her something I was not able to give her. The deception was incredible. She had the new cell phone (I had no idea) it was one of these TExt phones. These are the new Cheaters tool! You can be anywhere and write your cheating partner when ever you want. She was shaving down there. She was putting on tons of makeup. She was going to the Mall. She was arguing with me all the time. She would not ask me for any advice. She exhibited every trait that a cheater does, period! She is 10 years younger than I am so I thought maybe she just wanted to do different things. I left for Europe and came back to a kiss on the cheek! No lips, and when we were driving home she was the least excited to see me. I reached over to grab something on the floor and she moved her purse away quickly. I pulled over and grabbed it and she "Fought" with me over it like children. I got it away from her and called the voice mail on this new "Blackberry. An immediate "Hey Honey" came over the message. My heart fell like a bag of rocks to the ground. Not only was their one voicemail, but Two from two different men. Now she is 26 and I know they were intimate. My life is insane right now. We are trying to work it out, but this is the second time this is happened. The first time was with a woman and she believed she was a Lesbian. We broke up for over 3 months and I forgave her. Now this has happened again and I do not know what to do. We are talking and she says she loves me and that she was unhappy with me for a myriad of reasons. How do I trust her now!

[Aaron]

your right!!
How do you trust her again? I know its harder to do then say but why cant you leave her? is it a fear of not finding anyone else? Cause i have that feeling and im 25!!

i honestly understand the pain mate! I really do. If you want to chat just send me a message, i know its killing you and you are going through a rollercoaster of emotions!

Regards
AAron

[Adam Bomb 1701]

Toonces...Leave her. Dump her. NOW! There's no going back. Once a cheater, always a cheater.

I tried for 15 years to make my wife happy, between dating her, marrying her, having a son and buying a house. She never was happy, no matter what I did, and whatever problems she had were always my fault. She even blamed her cheating on me. No person on earth could ever have given her the attention she needed - 24/7. A person has to find happiness within themselves. If that person relies on someone else to make them happy, nothing but disappointment will result. And, the woman will NEVER take responsibility for cheating; it's always the man's fault. (She was seeing a shrink, who I think is a quack. He probably told her not to take any responsibility for herself or her problems, and blame everything on me.) Since we've been divorced, she can't blame any more of her problems on me, which is a big weight off my shoulders. Also, she lost my excellent health plan, which she needed more than almost anything else; she has none now.
She constantly condemned her (now ex-) brother-in-law for doing the same thing to her sister that she did to me. She seemed to be oblivious to that part, however.

I have met someone very nice; we've been seeing each other for over a year now. Neither of us plans to marry again, which is great for me. We're going to France in April.

(By the way, my ex looked on the Internet not just for guys, but for women as well.)

[paying a high price]

Adam Bomb is right and really hit the nail on the head. I have always myself felt once a cheater always a cheater. You can get someone else that is nice and makes you happy. You will never be happy with this type of person and you deserve better and more happiness in the short time you have here on this planet. Good idea to talk to Aaron hes been there and can give you feedback and support, but ultimately you need to do whats good for you. Why do people think they can't find anyone else, because they always do and can't believe that they used to think that, its just an insecurity that you need to ignore and get past. I am sure there must be a lot of good women that believe cheating is a sin and are happy to find people that are completely monogamous in this day and age. I am a living example that thank god I called it quits with a no good cheater years ago, because I am happy now and have found my soul mate, (shes 10 times better looking and a better person than the ex) and I have been married to her for five years and have three children with her. Understand that your wife is blaming you for everything to control you, nothing is ever just one persons fault!!!!!! Take care of yourself. I honestly believe cheaters will end up old, worn out and alone some day.