Help! I need advice

[linzik]

I have been married for 14 years with 2 children. My husband cheated on me about 10 years ago and I have never been able to get over it. We married young and when I found out I knew I wouldn't be able to ever love or trust him the same but I stayed because I couldn't deal with a divorce or disappointing my parents. He is bipolar and I have dealt with his mania for all these years. I have grown up alot and now am strong enough to move on but now he is so dependent on me and really wants our relationship to work but I think it is way to late. I have told him I don't love him anymore and he still wants me to stay for our children. He cries all the time now I don't know what to do. I feel like I deserve to be happy but I don't want to destroy him either. Anyone have any ideas?

[exhausted]

First and foremost you need to do what is right for you and your kids!! Wether it is right or wrong the kids should be first and then you second(which I'm sure you know that already)..If you can't ever trust him than you need to move on and do whats right for your family. If your parents can't seem to realize that you are not loving this relationship then they have a problem as well..

He might realize now that his past is coming back to haunt him.. He has made his bed and now he must sleep in it..

Keep us posted and be strong..