goldpine
07-07-2006, 07:54 PM
here is another story...
we have been married 7 years have two little boys. I was complainting to my husband for many month of having to much contact with a friend of ours - especially when she stopped talking to me without a reason. He called me crazy. Than finally I checked the phone records and for over three month they had at least called each other over 700 times a month :mad:
After confronting him he said it was just an emotional affair to help her getting over her problems. He agreed to go to therapy and stop all contacts with her. Sure enough after 4 weeks of therapy I find out it wasn't just emotional but sexual as well and has been going on for 1 1/2 years. She made him an offer he could not refuse. I am so in shock. Both of them use to sit in my kitchen and I made coffee :eek:
Ok I was happy he came clean and continue therapy to safe our marriage. Here we go I had to check the phone records and guess what. Oh yeah he is still talking to her. He lied to me (and I did ask him many times if he had talked to her - oh no!) and he lied to the therapist. Sure enough I said I want to pull the plug. Enough is enough. I have to move on, be there for my children.. he still is talking to her and get this he truly believes we can work it still out :rolleyes: he had a sickness and can just not let go of her I needed to understand and hang in there until he gets better (he will consider therapy for himself) what a yerk. I wonder do men really think women are this stupid????
Now I think he probably deserves her...this is her lifestyle..and she will do the same thing to him...
Oh well down the road I may mail her a "Thank you" note.
Yes, it hurts it hurts bad...I loved him so much but the lying and thinking it is OK just makes me mad and I just want to move on quick.... All my hope is gone....
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OK...what now. I am finally feeling better actually happy to start all over and closing on a house next week. And now he is calling me 10x a day, crying telling me what an ass he has been that he feels so terrible loosing his family and children etc. I told him that his children are always there no one is taking them away I have been making everything so easy and fair and I told him that just him and me are not working out. I do feel sorry for him but I don't want to fall back. What do I say???? What do I do???? I always want to stay on the high road but I don't want to become a fool either. Anyone any advice how to handle a man during those sorry crying moments????
we have been married 7 years have two little boys. I was complainting to my husband for many month of having to much contact with a friend of ours - especially when she stopped talking to me without a reason. He called me crazy. Than finally I checked the phone records and for over three month they had at least called each other over 700 times a month :mad:
After confronting him he said it was just an emotional affair to help her getting over her problems. He agreed to go to therapy and stop all contacts with her. Sure enough after 4 weeks of therapy I find out it wasn't just emotional but sexual as well and has been going on for 1 1/2 years. She made him an offer he could not refuse. I am so in shock. Both of them use to sit in my kitchen and I made coffee :eek:
Ok I was happy he came clean and continue therapy to safe our marriage. Here we go I had to check the phone records and guess what. Oh yeah he is still talking to her. He lied to me (and I did ask him many times if he had talked to her - oh no!) and he lied to the therapist. Sure enough I said I want to pull the plug. Enough is enough. I have to move on, be there for my children.. he still is talking to her and get this he truly believes we can work it still out :rolleyes: he had a sickness and can just not let go of her I needed to understand and hang in there until he gets better (he will consider therapy for himself) what a yerk. I wonder do men really think women are this stupid????
Now I think he probably deserves her...this is her lifestyle..and she will do the same thing to him...
Oh well down the road I may mail her a "Thank you" note.
Yes, it hurts it hurts bad...I loved him so much but the lying and thinking it is OK just makes me mad and I just want to move on quick.... All my hope is gone....
_________________________________
OK...what now. I am finally feeling better actually happy to start all over and closing on a house next week. And now he is calling me 10x a day, crying telling me what an ass he has been that he feels so terrible loosing his family and children etc. I told him that his children are always there no one is taking them away I have been making everything so easy and fair and I told him that just him and me are not working out. I do feel sorry for him but I don't want to fall back. What do I say???? What do I do???? I always want to stay on the high road but I don't want to become a fool either. Anyone any advice how to handle a man during those sorry crying moments????