Just caught him

[Joann29]

Well this morning at 2:30am I found the "love of my life" naked in a closet with a naked girl in the bed. We had been going out for 1yr and a half and I thought things were great. I loved him more than I ever loved anyone before. He was "great". Everyone loved him. He was the life of the party and so cute. I put everything into this relationship and tried to learn to have faith in him and trust him. It took me almost the whole year to trust him but I finally mustered up enough strength to do it. I had been badly hurt before as a 4 year relationship ended but at least he didn't cheat. I had trust issues but I still managed to trust him, boy was I wrong. I left my friend's house that night and felt a nagging feeling in my gut. Something was terribly wrong but I couldn't put my finger on it. As I drove to my exs friends house the feeling kept getting worse. When I got there no one knew what was going on. They told me that he was upstairs in the bathroom or something. I went up there and my heart dropped. A girl in the bed. Naked. And alone. My love, the only man I ever loved so much in my whole life was in the closet. Naked. I felt lost, hopeless, and confused. When I asked him why he did it he told me that it was because he thought I was cheating on him (which was so wrong, whenever I went anywhere I would always just talk about him all the time, I loved him so much) So this is the start of a very long haul to fix yet another wound. I am happy that I found this site, it is a great idea. I am sorry for everyone else's mishaps, this should never happen to anyone. Cheaters will go to hell.

[ishoudacheated]

I think you should just wait for someone to come your way and try to move on which is so easy to say but hard to do. I never actually went through that before but I hope you heal quickly and keep your head up..

[exhausted]

It's hard Joann... But, eventually you will find someone that loves you as much as you love him..

You are broken right now.. All men aren't this way, you just have to find the one. Good luck and keep us posted..

[FooledInAlaska]

I know all too much the feelings your going through right now as I'm going through the same thing. There is nothing anyone can say to you that will make you feel better. I'm just relying on time..... I'm sorry to hear that you're going through this.

[confused]

Ugh.....

I feel so bad for you. But then again? I know you are young...and you will survive...and "this too" is shaping who and what you become in your future life.

I don't understand why us women ask "why" tho. I mean. Why even WANT to know "why"?

Really...they are only going to lie anyway. OR...they will blame us! (ie for a lie: It was just a fling. It was only online. It wasn't love. I was drunk) (ie for blaming us: We don't have fun anymore. You don't like sex as much as me. You this or you that).

Anyhow...bottom line in MY eyes is...DONT ASK WHY. You don't get the truth.
My attitude is KICK HIM TO THE CURB....then tell HIM "why".

Seriously tho. You must learn that this is HIS BEHAVIOR not "man in general". Do NOT let this taint how you feel toward other men. Do NOT allow this to become part of your psyche in that you now have MORE "trust" issues.

You can never truly know love...until you give in to it completely.

And in the end?

It is better to have loved and lost........
......Than to never have loved at all...............

Good luck...and let us know how it turns out!

[blankelet]

Dont let a piece of trash bring you down! Your a great person- who had feelings and respect! Find some one well worthy of you! Head high- broken hearts heal. Have fun and get out there again. If he had any respect, or honesty, for you he wouldnt have done something so horrid to someone so great! What an idiot! Remember the good apples are at the top of the tree- easy ones at the bottom! If you we settled for the easy apples and didnt struggle for the good ones - we'd never be satisfied huh>? Which in time he will see, just sit back and laugh, cause by then you will be on and with someone who deserves you! :cool: