all confused

[tammy]

It started as a highschool sweethearts kind of thing, but now its all crazy. My husband and I got married 3 years ago at 18 years old, and everything was great, but at the same time for the past three years in response to his occupation he has to take long trips, sometimes 3-6 mths long and it never dawn on me that I was lacking affection, i never felt like he didnt love me or anything he always makes sure he lets me know im the best thing that ever happened to him, and how much he loves me, but on this past leaving i went to my home town to visit some friends and i ran into an old flame and ironically we had a connection and yes eventually we were intimate. This was about 3 mths ago and everysince its been tearing me apart because I dont want to tell him because we have a 2 yr old daughter and he loves her to death and I know how much our family means to him but I feel like Im living a lie, and I dont want to be the one to tear everything apart, can someone please give me some sound advice?

[Michas]

Hello,

Well....I'd say that you're well on your way to tearing it all apart. Sounds like you don't love the guy, you just don't want to hurt him. My best advice to you is this.....move away from the relationship without letting him know you cheated. Site other reasons perhaps. It's best for you obviously and it's certainly best for him. You've cheated now and you'll do it again even though you might think you won't. If you don't move away from the relationship you might end up ending the relationship by getting caught with another man. Then what? What does he think about you? What does your child think about you? You don't love him. Why are you with him? I can just see the look on your face when you realize your child realizes what you've done. Don't let him know you did this but move away from it.....somehow.

[sarah]

do you honestly love your husband and do you want to repair your marriage?
Only you can answer that.
If you do, stop seeing this man immediately and work on your marriage.
If you don't, at least be honest about it and start looking for a lawyer.

[exhausted]

do you honestly love your husband and do you want to repair your marriage?
Only you can answer that.
If you do, stop seeing this man immediately and work on your marriage.
If you don't, at least be honest about it and start looking for a lawyer.
Very well said..