Heart Broken and Mad

[Temp725]

My boyfriend and I started out as friends we were friends for 2 years prior to dateing. We have been seeing each other now for six months. I started noticeing him taking calls and going out side to answer them. So one morning I decided to check his phone. All call logs and txt logs were blank he had erased them. He runs a bar / resteraunt/ night club. He has a waitress working for him that is on work release. He sends her down to the house once a week to clean. I started noticeing that everytime she cleaned she would leave a ****o video on the pillow. I found this very strange and disrespectful. He did'nt see a problem with it. So one morning before leaving for work I decided to leave a digital tape recorder in the house. Needless to say I did not like what I heard. He said nothing was going on they were just playing around. So then I decided to start leaving them in the house on the nights that I was not there. It was very obious from the sounds that were heard what was going on. I confronted him again he claims I am crazy and that it was the playboy channel I was hearing. Come on now. He has an excuse for everything. This is the second girl I have caught him with. Again one of his waitresses. I think. I'm not sure. So I left and of course he begged me back. Still claims he did nothing wrong and that he treats me like gold and loves me more than anyone else. I just want him to admit to what he did. I can't understand why he won't. He is telling everyone that I am crazy and that I bugged his house. I think what I am going to do is set him up. He does not know I have a key to the house. I am going to pay a suprise visit and catch him in the act. I don't think he could lie his way out of that one. Also the waitress that is on work release. I turned her in they are supose to be investigating that. Although I turned her in last week and she was there again yesterday cleaning and they did not bust her. I am just beside myself right now. And it just amazes me how he is the one cheating and he is turning everything back around on me!!! I don't know what to do I am miserable.

[exhausted]

See that's what they do.. they all put the blame on somebodies elses shoulder but there own. That's the way I felt,"I guess I will have to catch you in the act" for you to confess..

And another thing.. Don't let the blame game get too you..He is at fault not you!!keep doing tabs on him and trying to catch him is a good ideal, just make sure you can handle whatever might happen(being emotional or physical)..

Good luck and keep us posted..

[beautifullybroken]

honey that's what they do to make us stay. They make us feel bad about something that we did but really they know that it's them. He just wants to power to make you feel how he wants. He wants to turn the attention away from himself

[Temp725]

Last night I stayed home and did not go see him. I had three phone calls from him. Him checking up on me to make sure I was not in a bar or doing something I wasn't suppose to. I answered all three calls then there was a tex that came in at 10:30 last night. I deliberately did not respond. Let him wonder a little about what I am doing. And again tonight I am going out doing things I want to do for myself. And again I think I will ignore some of his calls. And this weekend I have plans for Saturday day and night and Sunday day and night. I think it is time I started distancing myself from him and started hanging out with my friends. Let him sit around and wonder what I am doing. Maybe its time I string him along like he strung me along. Wonder how it will make him feel if I start running around and dateing other people. I think its time I give him a taste of his own medicine. I still feel very bitter. I honestly can't even stand to be in the same room with him right now. I have so much anger towards him.

[exhausted]

Good for you.. I would answer his calls all weekend long.. go out and enjoy yourself and don't worry about him.. Cause He wasn't worring about you when He was out and about..

Go out and have fun and don't think about him at all... I would just turn my phone off and have fun with my friends..