7 Years and 1 Instant.

[federale77]

I had been with my boyfriend for seven years. I lived with him for 5 1/2, but when I went back to school I moved home (the commute was a lot easier). My boyfriend had always talked about getting married and I was never ready until this year. Three weeks ago he sat with my family at my graduation (MA) dinner and talked of buying a house and getting engaged.

Last week I walked into his apartment, the same apartment that I had lived in with him for 5 1/2 years, and found him in bed with another women.

Seven years of trust, love, and what I thought was the greatest freindship I had ever known, was gone in one instant.

He hasn't contacted me since, and I am completely destroyed. I dont understand how he could through away our relationship without even blinking an eye. It's like I never knew him at all. If you dont know someone after seven years, how can you ever really know or trust that you know anyone?

I am completely baffled.

[exhausted]

I feel your pain... I was blind sided after a 15+ yr relationship.. And it does hurt when you have been betrayed like that.. I don't know what to tell ya.. Don't know if you want to talk to him or just move on.. Some people might want to work it out after that extent of a relationship.. but, if it was me I would be gone.. especially after you caught him red handed in the bed you sleep in.. WRONG, WRONG!!!!

[federale77]

I don't even have the option of getting back together with him. He has washed his hands of me. He hasn't tried to contact me in any way. This from the man who called me 7-9 times a day. It's just like I never knew him. I am soooo unbelievably sad that I lost my best friend. It's just heartbreaking.

Thanks for listening.

[sweetface212]

You know what girl? This may be hard to believe, but you should thank your lucky stars he hasn't tried to contact you. That shows he's ashamed of what he's done, and he can't seem to have it in him to stand up to his actions. If he was to come to you, he would apologize, tell you all you wanna hear, do all the right things, and then you would be back together, but still not over the immense hurt you must feel. You say he's still with this other girl? Well, you let her be with a man who has been with someone for 7 years and has it in him to walk away without even a glance back. You surely don't deserve that in a man, and just think at least you found this out while you were still a GIRLFRIEND and not a WIFE. I know it's really tough, and although I haven't walked in on anybody (and hopefully I never will), the pain you feel when someone betrays you is always the same dull yet intense hurt. I know right now all you probably want is for it to just GO AWAY, but I promise you, time heals all wounds. This guy is a loser who doesn't even have the balls to admit his wrongdoing and at least explain his behavior to you. One day, if you let yourself, you're gonna be with a man who treats you right, gives you the respect you deserve, and would NEVER put you through anything like this guy has. And when that day comes, this guy will still be the cowardly loser that he is now. Let that be someone else's problem, not yours. Good luck girl. I'm gonna definitely keep you in my prayers.