Cybercheating??

[AnonLove]

Is Cyber-sex cheating... my bf has been frequenting a webcam site with "models" that you can chat with and if you pay the site money you get to continue to chat with them while watching them do sexual acts.

[AnonLove]

I do not know how to deal with this... He said he went to bed early last night and that is why he didn't answer the phone! He is now lying to me! Because I checked and sure enough he was on his webcam **** site.

I don't suspect him "hooking" up with one of these girls in person- outside of the net, but I feel disrespected and hurt! :(

I don't think he thinks of this as him doing anything wrong- but at the same time- why would he lie to me about it if he didn't think what he is doing as wrong!

[LADY SMOKE'Z]

i would say that it is, because he can see them an they can see him, they may not have intercourse but if he had the chance to would he???

[cats8398]

....how would he feel if you were watching naked men on a cam? Ask him if it's ok if you do. Cheating.. in my book.. yes... cheating isn't always having physical sex in my book. Cheating in the old days used to be hooking up with someone and having sex or something physical... but with the internet it's taken on a whole new meaning. And lots of people seem to think because you can't "touch" the person that is just fine and dandy to watch someone strip and have sex with themselves while they watch. Doesn't matter if he doesn't even know her name... At the very least he's being completely disrespectful and to put it bluntly an ahole to you. Tell him NO MORE or you'll have to think about whether you want to spend your time with a man who is doing this ... and trust me he is j*cking off to some woman showing him everything she's got on a cam. Do you derserve this? Is this ok? He's getting a cheap thrill and basically saying his "needs" are more important than respecting you. Don't put up with this.

[RedneckWoman]

He is absolutely cheating on you! I have found a lot of information online now, that makes a lot of sense as to why it is considered cheating, and why you feel so bad about it...
Another thing to ask him is if he would allow you to watch him interact on them sites. Of course not! Then it is WRONG. period.

-- cheating involves betraying a partner’s expectations about the type of contact they have with others

-- Online affairs always involve some form of emotional attachment. And being emotionally attached to someone online causes individuals to devalue their current romantic partners. People are more likely to notice their partner's flaws and shortcomings when they have an online romance.

-- And as people become more emotionally involved online, they have less give to a romantic partner. So, online affairs, own their own, can create a lot of turmoil and distance within a romantic relationship.

Even though he most likely doesnt have an "emotional attachemnt" to the women he is watching, the point is the same. He has less to offer you so it all trickles downhill.