Is it cheating?

[soconfused]

I love my fiance very much, but earlier today I noticed he had left his laptop on and I decided to skim through his recent emails. (I'm bad, I know) I found avery recent emailed picture of a girl's breasts that he used to date a few years ago. She lives several states away, but it really disturbed me. He talks to her all the time online. This got me curious so I decided to check another website he visits a lot and found out that he had tried to get another old girlfriend to meet up with him on a recent trip to Georgia. I don't think she did, but I did find that he left her several offensive messages on her phone (he was apologizing to her online) and I also found that he had left these drunk messages for another ex a month ago. Is this cheating since these girls are all out of state? How do I confront him without making it look like I was just snooping through his stuff? Does this predispose him to cheating later after we're married? Please Help!

[lostandfound]

This guy is still searching. Maybe he asked you to marry him because he is comfortable with you and doesn't want to loose that. Just becuase these girls are out of state doesn't mean he isn't cheating. And it's obvious he is trying to hook up with someone. Your not going to change him by confronting him about this. He will only learn how to hide it better. If you cut him loose now you will be saving yourself a lifetime of HARSH PAIN and REGRET. You will really kick yourself in the ass by staying with him. If you love yourself enough and value your mental health RUN LIKE HELL!!! otherwise you will have to live with this cheating bull****.

I'm the Jilted Wife of a cheater with 2 small children by my former asshole ex-husband. Once I found out mine was cheating I kicked him out divorced him and took the house, the kids, his money, his truck, and 75% of the property not to mention a good bit of alamony and child support that is going to keep him paying until the kids are OUT OF COLLEGE!! Yes I went balls to the wall and took his mental health from him also. Now that he has nothing his pregnant girlfriend doesn't want him. And she thought she was getting a prize??? HA HA HA HA HA

[paula]

when i grow up i want to be just like you. balls to the walls, yes. i am too afraid to do that. i don't want him to get in trouble or stop working or hide. i am supposed to get 1/2 of the house but now i think i need 3/4. how long did this take you. i am 50 with 1 child that is 13. he took alot of money. some was not his. other secrets i am keeping so he won't cheat me. thanks

[SuthernD8z]

This guy is still searching. Maybe he asked you to marry him because he is comfortable with you and doesn't want to loose that. Just becuase these girls are out of state doesn't mean he isn't cheating. And it's obvious he is trying to hook up with someone. Your not going to change him by confronting him about this. He will only learn how to hide it better. If you cut him loose now you will be saving yourself a lifetime of HARSH PAIN and REGRET. You will really kick yourself in the ass by staying with him. If you love yourself enough and value your mental health RUN LIKE HELL!!! otherwise you will have to live with this cheating bull****.

I'm the Jilted Wife of a cheater with 2 small children by my former asshole ex-husband. Once I found out mine was cheating I kicked him out divorced him and took the house, the kids, his money, his truck, and 75% of the property not to mention a good bit of alamony and child support that is going to keep him paying until the kids are OUT OF COLLEGE!! Yes I went balls to the wall and took his mental health from him also. Now that he has nothing his pregnant girlfriend doesn't want him. And she thought she was getting a prize??? HA HA HA HA HA

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Whoa! How did you do this? I'm sorry if this seems repetitive, but I'm also the wife of a serial cheater, I say that, because my story is too long to list here, sorry, I'll do that later, but just curious.

Way to go!:D