sweetpea421
05-07-2006, 03:35 PM
After my 25th birthday this April I found out that my husband of 16 months has been cheating on me for 4 months!! We were highschool sweethearts that lasted for 7 years before we got married....During that time we had our ups and downs....we were broken up for a couple of months here and there when were 19-21. I wanted to be sure about all my feelings for him so that's why I broke up with him. I wanted to date and have fun. I told him that he should do the same because me and him were eachothers's FIRST everything. I told him that I didn't want him feeling like he needed something new later...I wanted us to come back to eachother because we were done messing around and wanted to make a commitment to eachother.
So-- during the times of us separating, I dated and had sex with other men...I didn't tell him everything (okay 90%). I didn't feel like I even had to tell him **** because we weren't even together so it wasn't his business, but i did anyways to see if he would still want to be with me after I did all that I did. Well he did still want to be with me because we had such a great friendship...i left out one person...we'll get to that later.
Anyways, I've been feeling for the past couple of months that he's been distant and detached ...I tried so hard to be around him whenever I could (he works graveyard and I work the 8-5). We were trying to have a baby from like September-January (i just got off the pill so it was gonna take some time)...we were dissapointed that we couldn't get pregnant....i feel like after that we just stopped having sex and he wouldn't even try to touch me anymore. I don't want to toot my own horn, but I am a pretty girl!! Why?? What did I do? I cook, clean, work very hard and always think of ways to make him happy... I remember in January some girl text him and I asked WHY is she texting YOU?? He just told me she was a friend from work and didn't mean anything. AND then he got mad at me because I had insulted him and "how could I imply something like that"!!! So here I was embarrassed that I could accuse my loving husband of something disgusting like that...i felt so bad after that so I never questioned anything because I TRUSTED him!
He told me he loved me and I thought that our friendship mattered more than that....I have been truthful and faithful to him after we decided to get serious!! I have never cheated on him while we were married!! I loved him so much and couldn't believe that I could be cheated on if all he did was make me happy! He made me continue to love him while I was a fool evey day loving him.
Right now I'm staying at someone's house right now and don't know what will happen with us....and just yesturday he brings up the guy that I never told him about and rubs it in my face like I'm the bad one!! WTF!! I told him that I did that 5 years ago BEFORE we were married!! I just feel so beat up emotionally and hurt about how my best friend could hurt me so unexplainably.
Is there any hope?
So-- during the times of us separating, I dated and had sex with other men...I didn't tell him everything (okay 90%). I didn't feel like I even had to tell him **** because we weren't even together so it wasn't his business, but i did anyways to see if he would still want to be with me after I did all that I did. Well he did still want to be with me because we had such a great friendship...i left out one person...we'll get to that later.
Anyways, I've been feeling for the past couple of months that he's been distant and detached ...I tried so hard to be around him whenever I could (he works graveyard and I work the 8-5). We were trying to have a baby from like September-January (i just got off the pill so it was gonna take some time)...we were dissapointed that we couldn't get pregnant....i feel like after that we just stopped having sex and he wouldn't even try to touch me anymore. I don't want to toot my own horn, but I am a pretty girl!! Why?? What did I do? I cook, clean, work very hard and always think of ways to make him happy... I remember in January some girl text him and I asked WHY is she texting YOU?? He just told me she was a friend from work and didn't mean anything. AND then he got mad at me because I had insulted him and "how could I imply something like that"!!! So here I was embarrassed that I could accuse my loving husband of something disgusting like that...i felt so bad after that so I never questioned anything because I TRUSTED him!
He told me he loved me and I thought that our friendship mattered more than that....I have been truthful and faithful to him after we decided to get serious!! I have never cheated on him while we were married!! I loved him so much and couldn't believe that I could be cheated on if all he did was make me happy! He made me continue to love him while I was a fool evey day loving him.
Right now I'm staying at someone's house right now and don't know what will happen with us....and just yesturday he brings up the guy that I never told him about and rubs it in my face like I'm the bad one!! WTF!! I told him that I did that 5 years ago BEFORE we were married!! I just feel so beat up emotionally and hurt about how my best friend could hurt me so unexplainably.
Is there any hope?