Still in love with my cheating wife

[darthyoda]

My wife and I lived in Atlanta up until last August. We moved to Florida for a change and hopefully a new start. The plan was for her to get a job, my small masonry business had not been doiung well in Atl,I would stay home with youngest,3,and get the other twokids to school,7 and 11. At first everything seemed okay, the job she had lined up before moving fell thru, but we were both looking and loving being in Florida. I traveld to Atlanta to work on our home to help sell it, and while I was there she called me all the time saying how bad she missed me etc. She would not hear of me staying an extra day to try and finish painting one last room. In misd September she got a job and started a training class. First week she told me about the people, one jumped out at me. A 23 year old that sat next to her, she said he was young irresponsible and liked to party, that she would never be interested in someone like him.First lie in a series of lies. According to his myspace page they are now engaged, according to hers she is in a relationship. I have the three kids and she sees them scarcely when they fit into her social schedule. I am having to draw money out of my savings and some investments to get by, she does not make enough to pay all her bills and in a month and a half is already behind on her bills. I have given her several hundred dollars to help out, it tears me apart because I still love her and she takes advantage of it. For Christmas I bought all the kids presents but 3 that she picked up Christmas eve on her way to my apartment. She spent more on one gift for her boyfriend than all three kids combined. I bought her several presents since we were doing Christmas together, she bought me zero. I know I am a fool to still be in love but I can't turn it off, I really love her with all my heart and now see that she may never have loved me at all. How do I stop the pain, where do I go from here???

[Flynn]

You need to think of the kids first over your needs now!!! File for divorce and get a court order for child support. The kids need the extra money to survive. This may also wake her up some.

[demoralized]

Sorry man, but you can and HAVE to "turn it off". It's hard but you must do it, to save your sanity, weather you reconcile or not. Be prepared to not.

Stay strong.

[Ravage]

Man you need to tell your heart to shut the F up! your kids are suffering and your still in love with a cheating, std infected, womb donor, waste of flesh , woman for a mother?

Dude. Your kids is sufering, your and your priorities come first. Above all else.

Forget her, what she did and what she's doing!

Get to a family layer and what not and sue the btic.h for child support!!!

You are the custodial parent are you not? Why are you busting your hump financially when she should be providing for the kids she gave birth for. Your gonna have to teach her the hard way. Life is not one big party. This little kid aint gonna stick around with her for a long time anyways. He'll cheat on her whan he gets the chance by the way she described him!!!

F-him! her! everybody else!

Your kids come first!!!

That is your only focus. Get your head outta your ass and move!!!

[Skirtchaser]

If your still in love with this bi.tch, that's your misfortune.

[Jeffguitar]

Please be strong and try to stand up for yourself.

[StillinShock]

I know I am a fool to still be in love but I can't turn it off, I really love her with all my heart and now see that she may never have loved me at all. How do I stop the pain, where do I go from here???

Well, if you are not able to just turn it off as the others have suggested...you may want to try to do one step at a time.

Start by boxing up some of the things she has given you, pictures, etc and put it away.
Distance yourself as much as you can
Start collecting the things you will need for a divorce ie make copies of the marital license, insurance papers, titles, deeds, etc. This takes a lot of time and as you put it together you can get an idea of being separated
Just see a lawyer to "think about it"..you don't have to take any steps
Go on line and read about separation and divorce..get the book Crazy Time

In other words, start to separate physically and see if your emotions come around to reality.

Good luck