dealing with cheating husband

[love4shoes]

I am 23 and pregnant with my first child, my husband has five children already he is a wonderful father, but a horrible husband! We fought for two years about starting a family together I didn't feel we were ready for a baby. To make a a long story short we decided to stop birth control and became pregnant in November. Well on March 6th I found a disposable camera I had it developed and found that my husband was taking pictures of naked women at a vacant rental property we have. He claims that it went no further than the pictures but I don't believe it. I am having such a difficult time with this. Even if nothing other than the pictures happened I still consider it cheating! when I confronted him about the pictures he was evasive and basically told me he was sick of talking about it and I could deal with it or not deal with it. Since then when I bring up my insecurity behind it he says that he will not be stressed by me and to leave him alone. I don't know what to do anymore! I thought I could turn the other cheek and stick it out, but the fact that he could something like this to me is devastating! I thought I knew him so well, come to find out I don't know him at all!

[frostymanadvice]

[B][SIZE="3"]Look Love4shoes this marriage has no hope as long as he has that attitude of dis-respect for you. He doesn't care that he did it and yes you're right about the cheating. He doesn't have to physically have sex with her in order to call it cheating. Emotional cheating (lusting, seductive conversation etc) is just as bad.

The truth here is that he doesn't want to grow up and take responsibility. A man with five kids especially if there are different women involved is one who is usually a liar and a cheat. If he is this selfish not to admit his guilt and don't care about your feelings, well then what is he worth as a man? Zero. Don't tell me what a good father he is b/c that's a bunch of crap. He is suppose to be an example to his kids. What kind of an example is he when a married man is taking pictures of a naked woman?

It's time to decide whether to continue with this IDIOT and waste the rest of your young life or leave him for good. Unless he comes clean and stops his childish acts there is no hope for this marriage. It's obvious he has no respect for you and has probably cheated before.

It's cold and nasty but that's the FROSTY truth.

Frosty

[wtcs]

Say what ? There was more than one naked woman ? How is he getting these women to pose for naked pictures ? He obviously is not using a story with them saying he is a photographer because a real photographer wouldn't use a cheap, disposable camera. My gut tells me it went further than just pictures.

Dawn

[love4shoes]

Yeah, there were two! His story is that they asked if they could use the house to take pictures in for their boyfriends who are in jail. There are a lot of pictures of just the two women doing unmentionable things to each other. But in the background there is a infant seat and a toddler sippy cup, as it turns out these women were posing for these pictures with an infant and a toddler in the house! These women are "dancers" at a club that from what I have heard is soon to be shut down for drugs and prostitution. He lies about so many things that I took the pictures to a few people and one of them knew them. But if they really wanted those pictures for their boyfriends in jail why would they send Naked pictures of them with another man to their boyfriends? HE IS SUCH A LAIR!! I am guessing that he went to the club impressed them with money and took them to the other house for a good time and drinking!! So now that you have allowed me to tell my story, what brings you here?

[sorry4me]

Last night he went to bed early and left his cel. phone on, I went to turn it off and pressed a button and the menu for telephones came out the second name were initials AF - that was an ex he had previous from me. I confronted him and asked why he had this number in his cel. he answered "I have many numbers, I asked him again, he replied - It's when the car leaves me in that area I have who to call.. I nearly wanted to make him eat the phone right then and there. But kept control since it was late and the kids were sleeping. Somebody plz advise if not I will end up knocking his head off his shoulders. :eek:

[sweetface212]

LEAVE HIM.. Plain and simple..