just caught husband cheating

[Sheila Loken]

Wow-I feel like I have been hit by a train. I just found out my husband is cheating on me with his high school sweetheart. We live in GA, she lives in MN. He spend a weekend with her, and then I found all the e-mails that had been going on between them. He was calling her by our last name, telling her how he loved her,,,and on and on.......
When I confronted him with it, he stated he didn't want to throw the last 16 years away. He has been at the house with me, but is locking his cell phone and laptop in his truck. I also know he has opened a new yahoo e-mail account, and is checking his mail daily.(I am looking up the cookies on the computer) He seems so kind towards me at times, but I do not know if it is really over....
It is so hard to believe that I still love him after this.....

I don't know what to do..

[administrator]

Hi Sheila,

Sorry for the rude responses you've had here. They've been deleted and a couple bans are going to be imposed.

Consider marriage counseling so that you can start to rebuild trust. It will take a while, and your husband needs to be willing to sever ALL contact with the other woman.

Best of luck,
Admin

[administrator]

Here's the deal:
Dream you get a warning since this was your only BLATENTLY offenseive post. If I see another remark like that to a woman who is clearly going through a tough time, it WILL be a ban.

Geeman: BANNED for being a spamming fool.

NHBfigher: Please refrain from hitting on women who have just caught their husband/boyfriend cheatiing.

[brensgrrl]

The very first thing you need to do is take a financial accounting of everything. Make copies of all bank statements, bills, income tax returns; everthing. Get all the financial information you can. Say nothing to your hubby about this. The fact that he is hiding his computer should tell you that he is planning something. Get some plans of your own. Protect yourself. Gather all the financial information you can.

Then give the golddigging skeezer a warning.

Do you have her email address? If so, GET YOUR OWN COMPUTER, and send her some email of your own. Buy your own laptop WITH HIS MONEY. Fight back. Be sure you store your own computer in a secure location (such as your mother's , your girlfriend's and so forth).

If you have kids, remind the floozy that hubby will have to pay child and spousal support should he decide to take up any offer of hers. Tell that skeezer that you will have him put in jail if he refuses to pay. Also, remind her that any gifts
he gives her were purchased with marital assets and that she will be sued for financial damages if she accepts ANYTHING from him. You CAN do this because hubby has no legal right to use his money to buy her anything at all without YOUR permission.

Copy HIM on that email.

He'll be surprised, as he probably thinks you are a fool. He'll very quickly find out that you're no doormat.

[Hurting]

Its hard to ever belive that someone that you have invested so much into,
if you want to keep the marriage - you are going to have to forgive. You will need to start trusting again - see a counsler, I have and its helps some just to have someone objective to talk with.
Dont give up on your intuition - if you feel that it is not over - it probably is not. Sorry for the pain you are feeling.

[tdhg]

Its hard to ever belive that someone that you have invested so much into,
if you want to keep the marriage - you are going to have to forgive. You will need to start trusting again - see a counsler, I have and its helps some just to have someone objective to talk with.
Dont give up on your intuition - if you feel that it is not over - it probably is not. Sorry for the pain you are feeling.

I dont now sounds like he has a eal pattern down and wouldn't even quit with the next one. I voite for getting the finacials in order and asking for a seperation. The anger and all comes from being so frustrated that you can really do anything about it. Hang in there. THERE is happyness someplace...go rent under the tuscan sun.

[ShellyKay]

My husband recently confessed a 6 month affair and he is not over her. He wants to still be with her and is moving out. I am devestated as we have two children together and I love him more than anything.
I am so sorry for what you are going thru. I know how painful it is.