Anger
After an affair
ivillage.com
Continued from above...
When
he even says her name I want to hit him. How do I ever trust him again? How do
I believe him when he tells me "I love you," after knowing he told someone
else (and me) the exact same thing during a time that was filled with lies, cheating
and deception? And what percentage of men cheat a second time?
-- Angela
Peggy
Elam
A
past president of the Nashville Area Psychological Association, Peggy Elam provides
psychotherapy and psychological consultation to help patients achieve emotional
well-being. She is a licensed psychologist in private practice in Nashville.
Peggy
Elam answers this question from a troubled writer to the
ivillage.com web site. Click below to read Ms. Elam's professional response
to this difficult situation.
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Conflict
and Anger
Sheri
& Bob Stritof, marriage.about.com
Every
marriage relationship will have marital conflict and hostility during difficult
times. Learning how to handle these problems, knowing when to seek a therapist's
help and being able to forgive are some of the keys to making matrimony successful.
A
collection of hand picked anger related links by about.com marriage guides Sheri
& Bob Stritof. read
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Dealing
with Anger In Relationships
Susie
and Otto Collins,
loverelationships.net
Everyone gets angry. Some people
show it openly and others don’t. If you are one of
those people who claim
you don’t get angry- you’re either not in touch with your
emotions
or you are lying. In
relationship, Anger can be either healthy or unhealthy. Anger is just an emotion.
How you process it is what determines whether it becomes a tool for growth or
a source of pain and destruction.
In this society anger is perceived as a negative emotion. If you are a person
who expresses anger, society would tell you that you are someone who can’t
control your emotions and can’t control your behavior.
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WORKING
THROUGH THE RAGE
Dr.
Bonnie Eaker-Weil
First
of all, if you haven't ended the affair-end it now and show remorse. Second, in
some cases you must be willing to break up with your partner to make up, using
the Smart Heart approaches explained in Make Up, Don't Break Up. This is necessary
if the adulterer shows no remorse, the affair continues, or you are being taken
for granted or minimized. After you break up, you need to work together to repair
the marriage and start anew.
Dr.
Bonnie Eaker-Weil, Ph.D. is one of America's best-known relationship experts and
author of the books Make Up, Don't Break Up and Adultery, The Forgivable Sin.
She has appeared on the Today show, Oprah!, A Current Affair, The View, Sally,
Ricki Lake, Montel, Maury Povich, and Extra.
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Getting
Mad - A new study shows women can keep anger
in and still be OK.
Amy
Standen Salon.com
Deborah
Cox comes from a small, conservative town in the South. Growing up, she sensed
that many women of her parents' generation were "infinitely furious,"
stockpiling their grievances like canned vegetables. It was, she felt, a simmering
frustration born of and sustained by the women's lack of influence in their community.
As long as the women remained silent about the cause of their anger, they failed
to take action on their own behalf read
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the Anger Test
Natural
Anger
helpyourselftherapy.com
WHAT
ANGER IS
Anger
is a natural emotion or feeling. We feel anger whenever we are BLOCKED from getting
something we want. It
is good for us because it PROTECTS us from threat,
IT REMINDS US THAT WE HAVE
POWER to overcome obstacles, and it gives us a MEASURE of how important it is
for us to get what we want.
HOW
IT WORKS
Whenever we are blocked from something we want,
a part of
our energy goes into feeling anger.
It
can range from intense anger at being blocked from something important (like life
itself)
to minimal anger at small blocks over slight wants.
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Infidelity - Dealing With Anger
