Stories of Infidelity - Cheating Stories

Hello....I am 27 years old, and I have been married for almost 9 years to my husband. I've cheated about 7 times, but in an effort to make my marriage work, I have not done so in 2 years. I am craving the rush of having another affair. The rush is a drug and the high is like nothing else. There's a guy at work that looks at me in such a way that I know it would be so good with him (does anyone know what I mean by that?). Everytime he comes near me I feel like pulling his clothes off and jumping on him. But, the guilt's not worth the moment of fun. So anyone thinking of doing it, I say this : think again or get a divorce. Your marriage may be saved, but it'll take years of hard work and cost more in grief than it's worth. Take it from someone who knows.

At first I didn't know he was married...

This has recently become a topic of interest to me. a married man answered my personals ad...I have had a number of ads off and on over the past 4 years and have never had a married man respond. But in January of this year, one did. At first I didn't know he was married (of course) but his 'conversation' over the net was different from that of nonmarried men (I now reflect) and had a sense that he might be married because when I checked out his Yahoo web page, his married status was "no answer." I then asked him if he was married and he told me he was...I must admit that I could not believe that someone who seemed so much like the man I would want was married that I agreed to meet him...this was a mistake...the attraction was even greater! But I struggled with the morality of this and in the end, after meeting two more times, I told him I couldn't continue...I asked his wife silently for forgiveness for my actions...he has written to me twice after the "ending"; I have ignored both emails...for two major reasons or I should say THREE major reasons: a new man in my life (unmarried), his being married and the dignity of his wife, and my own dignity and that of my child. Interestingly, prior to this experience, I had categorically not ever been involved with a married man...I can tell you, having only briefly dallied with the action, it is morally wrong for me to engage in such activity, it is demeaning to all involved, and a good learning for me. The catch-22 of this is, should this man EVER decide on divorce and then contact me, I would need to continue to reject him...who could trust him? If he
cheated on his wife he would cheat on me...if he could lie to her he would lie to me, end of subject. (But that is only theoretical...I am convinced that a wonderful UNmarried man is coming into my life and it is on HE that I will focus my attention, affection, and with any luck, my love! Thank you for providing this forum for my catharsis

I'm a 26 year old cheating wife who is pregnant...

I'm a 26 year old cheating wife who is pregnant with her 2nd child, but this one isn't hubby's. I even asked the guy i'm cheating with to get me pregnant. I know it's wrong but i love doing it.

I just do this because it's fun, I can lie to them and it isn't hurting anyone!

I just do this because it's fun, I can lie to them and it isn't hurting anyone!

Hello, once a cheater always a cheater.

hello, once a cheater always a cheater.

ME & HIM SNEAK AND MEET BEHIND MALLS...

HELLO I AM A 27 YR OLD LADY, I BEEN MARRIED SINCE 1997 BUT BEEN WITH MY HUSBAND SINCE 1992, WE MET IN HIGHSCHOOL.. I HAVE PROBLEMS, MY HUBAND DOESNT SHOW ME ANY ATTENTION, AND IS ALLWAYS GOING OUTSIDE WORKING IN THE BACK YARD..SO I GOT TIRED OF THIS, I MET A GUY AT A REST AREA WHERE I WORK IM A CUSTODIAN, THIS GUY IS OLDER THAN ME, HE IS 39. AND HE IS A VERY SWEET GUY, AND SHOWS ME LOTS OF ATTENTION, BUT HE'S IN THE SAME BOAT I AM, HE IS ALSO MARRIED, BUT HE SAYS HE COULDNT NEVER LEAVE HIS WIFE, AND THE REASON IS BECAUSE HE HAS KIDS, AND DOESNT WANNA BREAK UP THE FAMILY...ME & HIM SNEAK AND MEET BEHIND MALLS, OR DOWN DIRT ROADS AND WE HAVE SEX ALL THE TIME, I THINK IM IN LOVE WITH THIS MAN...I LIKE HIM SO MUCH, I REALLY DONT CARE IF HE LEAVES HIS WIFE OR NOT, AS LONG AS HE IS MINE PART TIME...SO IS THIS A BAD THING LADIES?

Hello I guess this is where I'm to be because I cheated on my man...

Hello I guess this is where I'm to be because I cheated on my man. I don't know what made me do it I guess I had to see if I was making the right choice to be with James. In the end it wasn't the right choice, I lost him and what would have been a wonderful relationship that would have lead to marriage. Now I'm a 36yr old single mother still in love with a man who wont even return my phone calls.

I feel really guilty, though I have no intention of having an affair with him...

I am 20 and I met a married man on line, and I didn't really think anything of it when he told me he was unhappy in his marriage and wanted a mistress. We've been talkin' a while and he says he can't stop thinking of me, that I consume him, etc. He wants me to come live with him and that he will leave his wife. I mean, does he think I am stupid?? I feel really guilty, though I have no intention of having an affair with him. I feel bad for his wife and I wonder why she would stay with someone who would go behind her back and mistreat her this way. I am going to cut off the relationship and though I've done nothing wrong, its a sad fact that he will problably just fine someone to replace me. Its a shame really. The way people have no caring for others feelings.

I've cheated before and I'll probably cheat again....

I've cheated before and I'll probably cheat again. It's all their fault. If someone does not give me the love and trust that I deserve - which most of the time, they don't, then my level of commitment drops. Hey, if they don't trust me then forget it...all bets are off. i look, sometimes I chase, but I sure don't mention it to them...jeez that's harmful

I was involved with a MM who I met online for 3 yrs...

I was involved with a MM who I met online for 3 yrs. Over the course of the past 3 yrs I learned he not only cheated on his wife with me, but also was carrying on an erotic email exchange with several women, and met at least one woman in person for real live sex. I thought maybe he was a sex addict, but now I am recently learning about something called NPD, or Narcissistic Personality Disorder, which seems to describe my former lover to a T. Do some online research about NPD and you may find you gain insight into why a man would do this: treat a woman like an object, claim to love her, give her just enough to keep her hoping and wishing, yet never really give of himself emotionally. This is very painful, and I am now in recovery. I think part of my recovery is trying to help other women avoid getting drawn into this sort of emotional abuse. I can't imagine how my MM's wife ever put up with it, yet they are still married now, 23 yrs she has put up with him. Thankfully I am out of it, after just 3 yrs.

we knew each other was married....

I HAVE BEEN GOING IN CHAT ROOMS FOR ABOUT 2 YRS, I HAVE MADE SOME FEMALE FRIENDS ONLINE AND REALLY ENJOY THEM. OVER A YEAR AGO IN ONE OF THE CHAT ROOMS, I WAS TALKING TO THIS MAN, CAN'T EVEN REMEMBER HOW WE STARTED IM'ING EACH OTHER, BUT WE DID...........DURING THAT TIME WE BECAME GOOD FRIENDS, NOTHING ELSE, WE KNEW EACH OTHER WAS MARRIED, HAD KIDS,WHERE EACH OTHER LIVED, ( 3,000 MILES AWAY) BUT NEVER TALKED BADLY ABOUT OUR MARRIAGES OR RARELY TALKED OF THEM AT ALL. AFTER ABOUT 1 YR OF TALKING, I GOT SICK AND WASN'T ON THE COMPUTER MUCH FOR 2 WEEKS, DURING THIS TIME WE DIDN'T TALK. WHEN I GOT BACK ON TALKED TO HIM AFTER THIS TIME......I REALIZED HOW MUCH I HAD MISSED HIM AND HIM ME, AND AFTER THAT OUR REALTIONSHIP CHANGED. HIS WIFE GOT SUSPIOUS AND WATCHES HIM ALL THE TIME, SO HE CAN ONLY TALK TO ME FROM WORK. WE CAN'T BELIEVE THIS HAS HAPPENED TO US, WE ARE TOTALLY IN LOVE AND CAN'T STAY AWAY FROM EACH OTHER. WE TALK EVERYDAY, AND IN THE LAST 4 WEEKS , HE'S BEEN CALLING ME ON MY CELL PHONE. WE DON'T KNOW IF WE'LL EVER MEET, BUT THIS HAS BEEN THE BEST THING THAT HAS HAPPENED TO BOTH OF US. WE ALMOST CRY WHEN WE HAVE TO SAY GOODBYE. WE BOTH KNOW WHAT EACH OTHER LOOKS LIKE AND I LOVE THE PERSON HE IS AND HOW HE TREATS ME. I FEEL YOUNG AGAIN AND SO DOES HE. WE'VE SAID "I LOVE YOU" TO EACH OTHER, BUT AT THIS TIME DON'T KNOW WHAT THAT MEANS SINCE WE'VE NEVER MET. HAS ANYONE ELSE HAS THIS SAME EXPERIENCE.

Im sick of social constraints and misplaced loyalty...

Can jealousy be any more petty than this? In case you're too stupid thats a rhetorical question. I have recently met a married woman online and I have never felt a closer connection to anyone. Within two months we have virtually fallen in love. Its grotesque how she worrys over being caught by a husband that she doesnt even love anymore. Im sick of social constraints and misplaced loyalty. If you have any self respect you'll remove this site from the net.

The only thing I agree with in your statement, is that you're sick. Are you listening to what you are saying? "Within two months we have virtually fallen in love"... VIRTUALLY is the perfect word for your love... get a grip on reality and find a women that is not married. Here is some virtual cold water to throw in your face... if she REALLY loved you, wouldn't she be with you now? One more thing... as long as there are people like you, my site will be here to help pick up the pieces of the lives you attempt to destroy.

Webmaster, ChatCheaters.com

I dont consider our romance to be any different from one based in reality....

I recently met a charming woman on the net who happened to be married. When we first started coresponding the last thing I expected was to fall in love with her. Within two months we were talking on the phone, exchanging photos and chatting on a daily basis. I understand full that she loves her husband though I am frustrated by the prospect of never being able to consumate our love. Hopefully someday we might meet and at least reflect on our friendship. Until then I am happy with our constant e-mails to one another and endless games of "tell me once more that you love me". To be perfectly honest I see no harm in a empty flirtation (especially if its unforeseen) and I dont consider our romance to be any different from one based in reality.

being with a married man I thought I was "COOL" without realizing that it was a mistake

I'm a 18 year old female who worked many months for a big company, there I met my manager who since the first time I saw him I felt this crazy feeling for him. After a couple of weeks of working for the company I found out he was married, it broke my heart at the beggining but after time passed I didn't care any more because my feelings for him started growing. I felt very alone I had just ended a 2 year relationship and needed some one. The relationship he had wiht his wife was not too good so that kind of helped me. One day after work we stayed late just him and I so I asked him to walk me to my car so he did. Next thing you know he was inside my car with me, we were talking and I simply asked him if I could give him a kiss; at first he looked surprised but then he just closed his eyes and that was my chance, so I kissed him. That kiss was wonderfull it made me fell loved again but at the same time kind of sad and confused because I kne he was married. That night we both whent home without knowing what to say or think. the next day I came to work and it was weird just seing him and remembering our kiss. Well time went on and we continued our secret relationship it was exciting just thinking of being with a married man I thought I was "COOL" without realizing that it was a mistake. feelings started growing more from both of us and our relationship went on for around 4 months until he got promoted to another store and had to leave. I was really depressed at the begining because i missed him. His wife was very possesive so he wasn't able to visit me as much as we both wanted to but we kept a relationhip over the phone and in my days off I would go see him to his new job site, we would passionatelly kiss and hug but time passed and we started loosing contact. I started working in a different store and got involved with different stuff, but never forgetting him. One day he called me out of nowhere and told me he missed me that he wanted to see me. His wife and two daughters were going out of town and he invited me to his house. That old feeling came back to me so I agreed. I met him at his house and when I arrived he kissed me and gave me a hug. I sat in his couch and we started talking and Lost control and ended up in his and his wifes bed. It was my first sexual experience, he made love to me all very sweetly. The whole time he was gentle and sweet he caressed my body so nicely and admired it with such a passion, it was a great night that I would never forget. The next morning my consience started bothering me, after that day I did not see him the same everything was diferent between us. His wife came back and he hardly called me anymore I started building hatred for him, I felt used and morally down and that is when I realized that he was not going to leave his wife like he had told me months earlier. I made up my mind and decided to move on, realinzing that I was very naive for getting involved with a married man, that it was not worth it so I moved on, moved on for good and I have not seen him since.

I decided to take all his cards and poems he had given me and pay a visit to his wife...

My situation is a bit different. I had seperated from my husband after 8 years of marriage. Our relationship was very emotionally abusive throughout the 8 years of being together. I had decided (because I became lonely) that I would place a personal ad online. A wonderful man responded to my e mail. I met him at Starbucks for coffee and from that day I knew it was love, or so I thought. I fell madly in love with this man and he became my world. There were a few red flags for me and I wish I would have not believed his silly answers and found out the truth before it was to late. He would not give me his home phone number but only his cell phone number. His reason for this was because he said he son was resentful that he worked so much so he had decided not to talk on the phone at home. He told me he had custody of his two children and had a full time nanny. I also didn't understand why we couldn't be together on the weekends. His reasoning for this was that his 14 year old son would not understand him wanting to date. He had his children in a Christian School and he had been taught that one should not date after a divorce. I listend to this man. I loved him so dearly. He treated me like a princess. I discovered later in our relationship that I was pregnant. I was not thrilled about this but I thought it would be O.K. because after all we were in love. Well, this man took me for my first ultra sound. Soon after I found out that he was cheating on me with another woman on the inner-net. After finding this out I decided to do a background chek on him and found out that he was also married. He had been married for 16 years. I was such a fool. I decided to take all his cards and poems he had given me and pay a visit to his wife. I told her everything and she acted like she was in shock. I later found out that this has been a patern for him for many years. I have since had my baby and this man has come to see him. He still wants a relationship with me but he is also still married to his wife. My life has been turned upside down. I wish I could turn back time and not have placed a personal ad. I think if a woman answeres a personal ad she should only respond to one's with photos attached. Men are less likely to place an ad with their photo if they are married. It also seems like a lot of the men that do answer women's ads are married. At least this is my expirience.

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